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Originally posted by Rain Man
HK, lemme explain what prompted all this to begin with:
Last summer I found an online discussion forum that discussed the issues (personal, professional, and romantic) that American men had with American women. I got into some of the discussions and was able to relate in some respects, but it wasn't until an incident with who I thought was the epitome of a Proverbs 31 woman (something very minor and trivial that I did out of love got blown out of proportion, in a nutshell) occured Christmas of last year that sealed the deal for me and had me sold that AWs were, well incorrigible.
Fast forward to today. Myself and the young lady did not speak to each other for 4 months, though I will tell you that my motives for not speaking was out of a growing hate for her (and a high resentment for women in general). So today, during our worship, we were told to lift the burden of heaviness, which God prompted me that my heaviness burden was b/t myself and her, and that I should try and reconcile our differences. Well, after service I did that and was rewarded with the most vile and nasty attitude I had ever seen in all the 7 years I had known her.
So I go to my pastor and try to explain what had happened and about my resentment with AWs and feminism. He said that I should find an associate pastor and arrange a spiritual mediation b/t myself and her to find out what the core problem is. He also said that he himself at one time had a problem with black women after he was divorced from his first wife, and that his 2nd wife reinstated his love and trust in black women. I say that only because I think God is trying to tell me something. Whatever that is remains to be seen.
Anyway...we'll see what happens.
Talk to you later 
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RM, sometimes you need to leave well enough alone.
If you went to the woman to try to reconcile your differences, and she wasn't responding the way you think she was, and if you know you did everything you were supposed to do short of stalking her, then leave it alone. She obviously doesn't want to be bothered, or to re-establish that relationship. And I'm not trying to single you out or embarrass you, but if you're having all these problems, have you taken a look at your "technique" to see if it's something wrong that YOU'RE doing?
There are still a lot of good women out there. But if you're going around with a placard with "Looking for a Proverbs 31 woman" on it, then you're likely not going to find her that way. Are you being the Godly man that you're supposed to be? You work on Rainman, or rather let God work on you, while allowing Him also to handle the rest. Did you read also in that chapter that "her husband is known in the gates. . ."? How are YOU known? Are you known for being a Godly witness, or someone just taking up space in the pew? You might not be quite as ready for that Proverbs 31 woman as you think.
Just my Monday morning thoughts. . .
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