How do I handle this situation?

[ADPiShannan]

So I need some advice.

I am in a wedding this fall. The bride is a good friend, her groom is my husbands best friend from when they were 5. My husband is the best man.

The matron of honor lives in Hawaii. This wedding is here in Ohio. I asked the bride and her mom if I could throw her a bridal shower since it is back in my hometown where everything is at and I know the area well, plus I love to plan all of this.

She agreed because she said the maid of honor may not even be able to make it being in Hawaii and moving in the fall and that I could plan it.

I decided to include the bridesmaids in this. Ive emailed them every step on advice and all sorts of stuff. Well the maid of honor hates everything.

She emailed me a very rude email last night and said she will do the invitations and the door prizes as she is the maid of honor and that is the person who is suppose to host it and do the planning.

So I sent her a very sweet email again telling her that is fine and we want her to feel like she is incluced even if she is in Hawaii.

So again this morning I get another email about how she found these plates and she is going to buy them and if we dont like them, shell take take them back. This email was not so nice though. It basically makes you feel bad if you tell her you dont like what she wants.

She hates the favors I picked out, doesnt want the cake I ordered.....

She is nothing but trouble. Now I didnt have to ask the bridesmaids to do anything. I should have just done it all myself so it wouldnt be a problem, but I thought this was nice. Now I am stuck with this really big Bee and I hate her. I am tired of her crap, tired of how she hates all the ideas.

What do I do? I mean I emailed the bride and told her, this girl had me in tears over this. I feel like she hates me and everything I think of. Here I wanted to throw a nice good party since I am good at it, but she obviously hates everything.....

I mean shes in Hawaii. The other girls and I were going to go shopping to get the paper supplies and products and I had already got some candles and some napkins and shes like I found this in Hawaii Ill just get it, she knew we planned to go shopping. Does she just not want us to all hang out without her or what? I mean I dont even know her. I think she is too peeved that I am planning this and not her. Why take it out on me though? Its not my fault she isnt here.

She just upsets me so much. Ive been in tears all morning because I wanted to do something nice for a good friend, whom I asked if I could throw the shower.

How am I going to last all the way to August with her. I mean we planned to decorate before she got here because of her flight time, but if she buys everything well have to wait for her.

I need some advice. How to handle the bee maid of honor.

I mean the bride was like oh well if she cant show, she didnt even care as much if the maid of honor could be there or not. I think she is afraid to tell the maid of honor though. She hates confrontation and she doesnt want her to be mad. She told me she didnt even want her as maid of honor it was just they promised each other and she was her maid of honor.

If she doesnt stick up for me planning this though, the maid of honor will not care.