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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
The other issue is more African American men have a rap sheet that African American women, especially highly educated ones do not want to deal with... Generally, men with felony convictions lose too many "rights"--they cannot apply for certain jobs, they cannot get loans, they cannot go to school, they cannot vote, etc. and so on and so forth. Who would want to deal with that, drama? And it is so easy to arrest a brotha these days for just about anything, which is sad because it is crazy...
It is a matter of degree, I think. What can we tolerate and deal with at this time? Then how much are we willing to walk into a situation with our eyes wide open, knowingly going into a something that might be a hornet's nest...
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Excellent points in this thread. I meant to read that article earlier this week because of the title. I am one of those sisters that married into that "hornet's nest" and I would NEVER do it again. Because I was raised with both parents, my mission was to NOT be like my mother and be dependent on my husband...so I did not marry to be taken care of. Even though the love was there, love don't pay nobody's bills! I am still cleaning up mess from 15 years ago that damaged my credit, etc.
As a single lady now, I can definitely agree with Exquisite about the "double standard" dating that goes on. I have heard that statement also in regards to friends having casual sex and that makes the woman a whore. So maybe if we single ladies just close the shop, dry season or not, we could find ourselves more "marriage material". I remember my dad telling me the old statement about buying the cow and the milk being free..
Well, then again maybe not. I like to have sex way too much to stop. This is a new day. I think as a whole, men need to change their ways of thinking.
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