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Originally posted by Rain Man
*LOL* Girl you a mess! 
True story that happened a few years ago:
I was dating a woman from Kenya and we were having a discussion much like this one, and the more I spoke about slavery and racism in America, the angerier and more emotional I got.
My ex-Kenyan sweetie calmed me down (and mind you, that was a chore for her) by consistently telling me to stop fuming and harping about the past (At that time I was having a 90s "angry black man" flashback--I used to be a super-militant Africentric in my college days). She also said that the best thing I could do from that point forward was to move forward and work toward improving my life and the lives of others around me and associated with me.
Once I got over my big ego and humbled myself to her advice, in retrospect, it was one of the best pieces of advice she had ever given me, and I am a much better person for it and I thank her to this day for taking the time to help me out in that manner.
Just something to think about.
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You can do all that "foregiving" that your advocating, and not turn a blind eye to the fact that these horrible things did happen, and that it has left a legacy that we continue to be penalized with. I can do all the foregiving I want, but I continue to be oppressed and victimized, it is really my fault? I can't change someone's view of me just because I want to..."I know that my ancestors were slaves and treated horribly and you didn't view them as human beings, but I'm willing to foregive you so you should just all that racism and bigotry go." I doubt that's going to go over well.
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