in need of advice from a phi sig whose been there...

[in_the_zone]

Hey ladies...

I'm struggling with my experience as a Phi Sig. The main issue is that as long as I am on campus, I'm a part of the group. Once I leave, it seems like no one really wants to hang out. I try to plan outings for us, but I get shot down most of the time. I realize that it takes persistance, but its almost as if we have a hard time relating period. A lot of the girls don't have the same interests as me and have made comments about shopping, traveling, or going out at night (all negative) that make me not want to keep trying. I could try to connect with them through my interests, dance for example, but I either don't get a response or I get the "no money" excuse.

I know I am a shy person so that will may be part of the issue, but I find building relationships almost impossible when the girls don't seem to want to relate to my interests.

I'm starting to feel like I don't belong in this group....any thoughts?

in_the_zone