SmartBlondeGPhB, You said is so true for the simple fact of time involved with said Organization.
While You are married, I am not sure if Your Hubby will want that time spent away from Him and home.
Depending on Your age, You may offer to be of help as a friend of said GLO and see what they say. If they agree, then work with them and let them know who You are and how you feel being with them, but dont over do it.
I know that sometimes LXA does have Honorary Initiation for special people who work with Our Chapters, but have to be approved by Our International.
But as has been stated, it depends on the Individual GLOs.