Advice to rushers: re: legacies

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Originally posted by WVU alpha phi
I think you handled this situation really well. My grandlittle came through rush this year and had a best friend in another sorority on campus. She preffed us and her best friend's sorority, and I can see her totally fitting into both. She told our girl preffing her that she liked us more but she felt like she was betraying her friend if she chose Alpha Phi, and she had mentioned it to her friend, who didn't really seem too keen on telling her otherwise. Our girl preffing her had to work hard to convince her to do the sorority that was right for her, and if the other girl REALLY is a true friend, she will understand.
My grandlittle chose us, she makes a great addition to my family and our chapter as a whole, AND she's still good friends with her best friend before recruitment.

Ouch! I can't imagine what my best friend would have done if I acted like that. Like I told my best friend, every chapter is different. If she was at my school. she would have gone SDT without a problem, but that was also because what my chapter was like. She wasn't at my school and the SDT chapter by her is very different that mine. She had to do what was right for her, not for me, and I told her that. I'm glad I didn't push her. And I got to go shoppign for Phi Sig stuff after she got in for her