so many obstacles...

[OhSoDetermined]

1. I remained quiet while other people addressed you because YOU are the founder. This is YOUR dream that you want to see realized. The energy that people approached you with is what you will experience along this journey. YOU must get to the place where you can discern constructive criticism from mindless comments. When you are talking to interested members, I am sure they will want to know why they should attach themselves to YOUR vision. This is the decision that YOU made to start down this path and it is YOUR resposnibilty to see it through. So yes, I made the desison to let YOU handle your own business.

2. Sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with being inquisitive, BUT when you expect a helpful answer you must watch your tone. Like I said, I wished you well, but I was surprised at how defensive you became as people began to post. And as YOU decided to share your history with the group your true personality began to surface. You DO have unresolved issues. YOU did not feel it necessary to attend events and yet you still pursued membership. I am confused-- you want to uplift the black community using an organization founded on Christian principles, yet you state that you didnt want to become a member of the other sorority because it lacked a satisfactory rite of passage. Those two things have nothing to do with one another and shows that all of your motivation may not be as pure as you think.

3. NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING!!! Not help, not advice, not suggestions, not anything! You might not have gotten the exact answer you were searching for but many would agree the information you have received here is priceless.

4. Please dont take this the wrong but you are transparent. You really are. You are young, you are bruised, you want to belong and have the need to create. You are going where so many have gone before you but have not yet appreciated their contributions. You come asking for help, and can not receive the gifts you have been given. I visited your site and provided insight about one of the philanthropies. Given all the research that you state that you have done, I am surprised that no one caught that fact before me. This just lets you know that as much as you feel you may know about greekdom, there is much you do not know and you must be open to that fact. You were that way at the beginning of the posts, but you have lost your focus along the way.

5. My comments are directed towards you and NOT the sorority. As the founder, you are in the unique positon to make this organization exactly what you feel God has called it to be. Please remember to keep Him first and show EVERYONE respect, not just those you judge worthy to deserve it.

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