You have gotten really excellent advice in this thread. And just to weigh in on your original question; no, I do not think re-rushing will increase your chances of being extended a bid at your "dream house," with or without recommendations-recs are very nice, but they are not magic. You can read enough stories on this board of young women well prepared with recs etc..who were cut heavily during FR. USC is competitive, I wouldn't recommend that a Freshmen woman who was president of her class, a model and working on curing cancer have her hopes set on one single house. Not realistic at all. Soroity rush is mercurial at best, nothing is guaranteed.
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And what is it about your "dream" chapter that makes you want to be a part of it? Are they the beautiful girls? Do they value academics? Do they have lots of fun socials? Do they seem to have a sisterhood that you want to be a part of? Do you want to have a connection with those friends/family members who are already a part of that org? Who knows, if on the very slim chance you actually got in with your "dream" chapter they may not end up being such a dream after all.
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This is excellent advice.
Sit down and actually write down a list of qualities that attract you to your "dream" chapter. Be honest with yourself, nothing is too daunting or extreme silly or shallow. Now, can you find any of the qualities you admire within the chapter you are already in-even in small measure? Can you work to create or expand them? Are you willing to put in the time and effort?
If you like the campus reputation that ABC has volunteer to work with your communications or PR chair to increase your chapter's campus presence. Is it socials? Again, can you volunteer to work with the social committee?
Also, look around your new member class, these are the women you will be in the chapter with the longest. Do you enjoy their company? Find them fun, interesting, intelligent? These are the women with whom you can bond and make any changes in the chapter that you would like to see.
As has been said before, you are in Greek Life already. As long as really unethical or uncomfortable things are not happening in your current chapter please give it a second look. It takes time to build any friendship and to feel comfortable within any group of people. Give yourself and the chapter a little more time and effort. I promise you that your "Dream" chapter has new members who are having their doubts as well or who don't feel truly "at home." It is part of the process.
Sometimes I think that formal recruitment creates unreasonable expectations in members, all the smiling, decorations etc. It is not realistic. The real business of being in a sorority is building relationships slowly one sister at a time.
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