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Well, I agree what you're saying, to an extent. Yes, some people are more attractive than others, and it would be foolish to pretend that that is not true. Yes, I will admit that I also make judgments based on someone's appearance, i.e., I would not date someone I found unattractive, nor would I even consider it, to be completely honest. I'm not saying that attractiveness can't or shouldn't be discussed; there's nothing wrong with me sitting around all day talking about how Kobe Bryant is a total hottie, for example.
However, my probem is with the way these guys are acting, in that it is designed to make the unattractive women feel bad about themselves; it is treating people as objects used for amusement with no regard for their feelings. I also have a problem with the fact that these guys seem to be trying to build themselves up by tearing down others. That is just wrong. You can sit around with your fraternity brothers and talk about how XYZs are totally hot. You can even sit around and talk about how ABCs are gross, dorky, ugly, fat or whatever. I have no problem with any of that. I do have a problem with inviting the ABCs over for the sole purpose of making fun of them or trying to hook up with the ugliest one to win some sort of "award" or money. That is pathetic and just plain wrong. If you think the ABCs are ugly "pigs" or whatever -- don't hang out with them!
This reminds me of when I had friends over when I was in about sixth grade and there was this dorky girl that we didn't like. We invited her over and when she rang the bell, we giggled and didn't answer the door. Obviously that made her feel terrible, because she was the brunt of our cruel joke. I learned that I should never, ever treat people like that again. It's funny that I learned that in SIXTH grade, and these guys are in college and have yet to get it.
I think that what I'm saying doesn't apply only to looks. For example, I think it would be equally terrible for, say, a bunch of Mensa members to invite over people with far less intellectual ability to discuss recent Supreme Court decisions or physics or whatever, and then make fun of them when they can't follow the discussion.
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