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silmikek20: your story is identical to my daughter's, who went through rush last spring. (they have 2nd semester rush). She started with 7 sororities, after first round she was cut by 3. Of the 4 left, she liked 2 and was so-so about 2. After attending the 2nd round of parties, she felt really good about 2, pretty good about 1 and did not feel comfortable at all with 1. She was cut from 3 of the 4 and only left with the one she did not like.
After many, many tears, she decided not to attend the 1 pref party because she never felt like she connected with those girls and couldn't see herself in that sorority. (There are only 3 rounds at her school, the 3rd round being pref). She didn't sign a bid card but that sorority offered her a bid anyway, which she declined.
It was a really tough situation, very similar to yours (and many others experience as well, I guess). In the end, she made her own - agonized - decision. She didn't want to join a sorority for the sake of just joining anyone and she never felt the connection with that 1 that gave her a bid. She never regretted her decision but I will warn you that the rest of the semester was a little tough as all her close friends did the fun, crazy sorority thing as she watched from the outside. It took till the end of the semester for her to re-connect with her friends. And I will also say that she has a much clearer idea now of the "personality" of each sorority as she's done stuff with her friends and their groups. It validated her original gut reaction that the 1 sorority was the wrong one for her. She also plans on re-rushing (with probably a clearer head this time).
I have a question about my daughter's situation: she didn't go to a pref party, she didn't sign a bid card but a sorority offered her one anyway which she declined. Does this mean she can't COB this fall? I'm a little confused based on some of the posts. Can anyone tell me?
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