ENDING A FRIENDSHIP

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Hi there! D-chi pride with some more food for thought. Recently my ex-girlfriend who I dated for some time earlier this year wants to hook up with one of my brothers. We have a strict policy on this matter in our house (a “Bros before hoes clause” so to speak). I broke up with her because she lost interest in me and was negligent in our relationship. It hurt me to do it, and it was hard to move on for a while. Since then, I have seen others and I have moved on.

The problem lies in the fact that since the breakup, I have heard stories from friends in other fraternities that she boasts to be a “female player”! The brother (the one she’s interested in) said that he isn’t interested and would rather meet other sisters, yet she seem to be persistent on the matter, to the point where she blocks when he talks to her sisters. She claimed to be my friend yet the only time she called is to see when we had a party (probably to come over and hit on him or another brother). I don’t want to feel like brother#1 on her list and I feel it is insulting because I don’t want to share what we had with anyone else who is close to me. I’m also upset at her because I have friends in a different sonority than hers, and she says that all the girls in that house are fat (she’s not one to talk. She put on a couple since we broke up!)

Most of my brothers, and some of her sister support my decision to end our friendship because I felt that it was an unhealthy friendship and that I believe that she rates friendships on what she can get from them. Am I doing the right thing because it will be difficult to not be a friend with someone who I was close to and who is over at the house, and hanging out with brothers on a regular basis.