Lavaliering Question

[sugar and spice]

At our school, the person who was lavaliered would tell our housemom and no one else. (You're supposed to keep it a secret.) Our housemom would decorate a candle with flowers and ribbons, and before our chapter meeting that Monday she would tell us that we had a candle pass. The girl who was lavaliered got to keep the candle as a memento, which I always thought was sweet.

The song we sang during lavalierings wasn't a Tri Delta song, so I'm wondering what other chapters sing.

Also, we've had a couple sisters get lavaliered at formal or at their boyfriend's fraternity's formal, so in that cases, obviously it wasn't a secret, but that's always cute too. Sometimes the boyfriend would make her come up in front of everyone and give her flowers before asking her.