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Exactly. And I swore up and down I never live with anyone before we were married, and I swore we wouldn't buy a house before we were married, and we've done both. It made more sense for us financially, and it was a decision that we made together after looking at all of the possibilities and weighing the pros and cons. If you're really committed to making your relationship successful, if you really love the other person, chances are it will work out no matter what the statistics say. Nothing in life is guaranteed, and just because you wait to live together until after you're married doesn't necessarily mean you're going to be happier or better off or stay married longer than people who have lived together. In our case, as far as we're concerned, marriage is only going to legalize the commitment we've already made to each other. We already live as husband and wife, and we already regard one another as such; we live each day as though we've already made our marriage vows. We know how we feel; our wedding ceremony will show everyone else, in case they were wondering.
I've known people who were married for 20 years, who didn't live together before they were married, and who decided after 20 years that they couldn't stand to spend one more minute married to one another. Things can change; you prevent that by staying committed and making sure you do your part on a daily basis. Nothing in life is guaranteed, and while statistics may be a predictor, they are not necessarily a precise indicator. There is an exception to every rule.
By the way, that two-year rule is a crock of you-know-what. That's the worst advice ever. I have a friend who is 31 and smart and funny and probably won't ever get married, simply because she subscribes to that getting him to propose in 3 dates crap and scares off every guy she meets. I went on a double-date with her and a guy on their first date once, and she literally turned to him and started a sentence with, "When we get married..." We were on a boat, and the poor guy looked like he was trying to figure out the likelihood of drowning if he jumped off and tried to swim to shore.
But now this thread is way off topic.
Oh, yeah, dump your boyfriend. He sounds like a pain in the ass.
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