Switching Family Trees ?!?!

[ZTAngel]

I think my sorority did a pretty good job at matching bigs and littles. Both the new members and sisters would rank each other with #1 choice being the person you really want for a big/lil. Then, we were matched accordingly. If you became really close with someone, most likely they would have you as number one or number two. My big sister was my number one choice and my little was my number two. Unfortunately, my little sister dropped after a year. I became really close to a girl who's big sister never came around. During her junior year (my senior year), her big dropped so I adopted this girl. I now have a HUGE family with a bunch of grandlittles, great grandlittles, great-great grandlittles. This is really the only time my chapter will let someone adopt. If the big graduates, you can't be adopted. It wouldn't be fair. It's not as if this girl was being a bad big and never came around...they graduated and went alum. We've only had one situation where a little was adopted by someone else while the big was still active. This was because the two weren't matched right and there was a lot of problems between the two. Also, all adoptions must be approved by our new member coordinator before they become official. This prevents random switching.
We usually don't match our bigs/lils until about 4 weeks into the new member program. It gives everyone time to get to know each other better. There's a chapter on our campus that matches during bid day. They've had so many problems with their big/lil situation.
I don't think you should say anything to your chapter about it. Maybe instead work with the new member coordinator in trying to make a new system of big/lil matching so that both remain happy. I'm not sure what you all are using now and when bigs/lils are chosen. Also, maybe instill a policy that says you cannot adopt someone else their big went inactive. This should eliminate the problem of having girls come back to their chapter post-graduation only to find out that they no longer have a little.