brothers Advice

[chopperLI905]

Advice
i need some advice on what i should do:

i meet this girl from xy org who is just wounderful in everyway that i have seen so far. The big problem is that she has a bf and he goes to school in UND. But when we hang out and stuff we cuddle and flirt and makeout big time. she keeps telling me that things are going wrong between her and her boyfriend and she is going to break up with him but i feel like it is my fault that they are breaking up. My problem is that i dont want to get hurt in the whole thing and also that i dont want to be the cause of the break up. Can anyone give me there in put about what is going on?

thanks

[LXA_idz851]

I would say that shes probably not planning on breaking up with her bf. He goes to a different school and she probably just wants someone thats there. Just my $.02.

[toovigilant22]

Bro....
Drop it like it's hot.....I've seen this before (in fact some of my bro's here have dealt with the same situation...) To be blunt, you will probably be not much more than a rebound....

My .02...

ZAX-
Matt

[Tom Earp]

Wasnt there something placed on another Thread?

Dont!

GC is a huge Dear Abbey Site. Get it?

You may ask many Q but if there is a Prob. PM Brothers who are more understanding!

[GammaZeta]

DUDE, They are right, DROP IT!

If she cheats on her boyfriend now, you think she'll be faithful to you? NO WAY!

I have seen this many times myself, and I was in the same situation you were in. DO NOT FALL FOR THE ACT!

Ok, here is THE answer to ALL your questions about this situation. It's a long read, but it is 100% correct:

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

Ask anybody, and if they are truthful, they will tell you the ladder theory is 100% true.

Also, if you choose to ignore the ladder theory (NOT recommended), the only way to actually get this girl is to ignore her. Seriously. DON'T cuddle, kiss, call, or fall to her every whim. She will want you more. It will be like trying to kick heroin, but DO IT. You gotta be an a$$hole.

Girls always go for the a$$hole, not the nice cuddley type. Right now, her boyfriend is an a$$hole, and she will always pick him over you no matter what because you are the nice guy. She has you for all her emotional needs, and him for the rip-roaring, animalistic, no holds barred wild and crazy sexual needs. And even if she does pick you, I assure you she will be screwing him every other week or any chance she gets every single time she sees him.

Trust me, I wish to God that someone gave me this advice before college. It would have saved me much heartbreak and wasted hope.

So from brother to brother, you gotta grow a pair, cut off the relationoship, and see what happens.

For more information, go to www.tuckermax.com.

I know it may seem harsh, and it is, but I was in your situation once. If you need to talk or some advice, just give me a pm dude.

[skajeff]

Hmm. How to put this into words.. I think you should definately quit before going too far with this one. She might be wonderful, nice, sweet, etc. but she has baggage, a whole lot of it.

You don't want to be apart of the drama. It'll affect you wayy too much if anything bad happens. You don't want to listen to The Get Up Kids, while reminiscing about the times you spent and how you supposedly screwed up. It's all too much.

Definately keep your eyes open and be assertive with your position. You are better off just calling it quits, bro.

If I think of anything else, I'll post.

Jeff

"i hope someday you'll understand i want to try
and make it right but dont' know if i can
last night everything was right and the rain was gone
one summer night's the only time we've known
shut your eyes and when you wake i'll be gone"

[john1082]

I suspect that there is some game playing here, but I don't know if you're a player in the game, or the ball (I'd say puck but the NHL is shut down).

You like her, and she allegedly likes you, yet at he same time there is a boyfriend in North Dakota (where I was High Pi in the eighties).

This sounds like a complicated situation. Is she using you as a tool to get even with BF? In an attempt to bring BF around? Who knows.

John's first rule of dating is: "Don't ever, EVER, go out with a girl who has mor eprobems than you do."

Apply that rule.

[RACooper]

Sounds like she's playing the whole "different area-code" thing But doesn't want to lose the "primary" or major league BF (which of course makes you the minor league one) - my advice: drop it and find someone that considers you the sole proprietor of her heart - or at least the primary/major league BF...


PS>john1082 must you cause pain by bringing up the NHL lock-out? You don't know how much that cuts

[HONKY660]

I say hit it and quit it. Best advise ever.

[EM1843]

NHL? What's this NHL you speak of? I think I've heard of hockey, but isn't that where girls spin around on ice for points from judges?

Any ways get out now. Find someone else, yada yada yada, what everyone else said.

[GammaZeta]

Hey EM, congrats on the engagement!

When did you propose?

[boz130]

You ought to just find a nice girl over in Knilans or some other dorm & stay away from the other girl...too much baggage.

In ZAX,
BF

[Tom Earp]

GZ, when she hit Him on the head!

Boz, say High To Kevin Picket from us!

Chop, back to your situation. Heed the advice of These Brothers.

Walk away with your head held high.

I cannot remember what study it was but there were 10,000 possible match ups for each individual.

A free and clear is just around the corner.

[docroc67]

And Run Very Fast!

Yours in ZAX,

Mike Raymond, ZU-Zeta