Ask a SF . . . Random questions

[btb87]

Originally posted by Ideal08
Yeah, I'm in DC. Would you like to meet in person and get to know each other a little better? I'd be glad to take you under my wing and teach you all there is to know about Alpha Kappa Alpha. You game?

I
am
through. .


Soror
you
are
TOO
much!

islandgirl: Run, Forest, Run!!!

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by islandgirl21
I used to come on this board and I recently moved. I was just trying to meet people in the area. I hope I didn't offend anyone. I don't think my question was inappropriate was it?

How long have you been coming to this board?
Did you read this thread in its entirety?
Did you read the Pearls of Wisdom?
What was your username when you USED to visit the boards?
What area of DC do you live in?
How long have you been interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha?
Where did you attend undergrad?
When did you graduate?

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by btb87
I
am
through. .


Soror
you
are
TOO
much!

islandgirl: Run, Forest, Run!!!

:halo:

[wannabeina]

Originally posted by Ideal08

As for me, I have HIGH expectations of women wishing to enter my illustrious organization. If that means that I want responses WITHOUT rhetoric, then so be it. Why? Because I am the gatekeeper. Does that mean you simply don't respond? No. Does that mean that when you do respond and get called on it you get defensive? No. What you do is make sure that NEXT time (if there IS a next time) you COME CORRECT. You frustrated? So what? You mad? Be mad. Let that anger motivate you.

I've said enough. Shoot, I've said too much. Do with it as you will.

This response I can appreciate. I can learn from it. I'm not mad, frustrated or angry... but I was defensive because I felt my answers were clear. I thought I was being honest. Maybe I'm not meant for your sorority, but you can't blame me for trying to see if I would fit in.

[nachural]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
I was going to answer this but as a serious SF I feel I need to be discrete in my interest.

Ifyou want to be discreet, why post on a message board?

IF you were on your campus and the Memberfriend asked you your name etc. would you give this same response?

IFyou were no longer on a collegiate campus, and a memberfriend asked for your name, where you worked, etc would you respond similarly as you did above?

eta:

[/QUOTE]

Well if I met a member on campus or elsehwere I wouldn't hesitate to tell them my name. However, since I have already expressed interests to the members on my campus and they all have insisted that being discrete is very important - hence my absence (which I'm sure noone has noticed) on this board- I don't think it's wise for me to be sharing my name etc. here for them to see it. I'd be doing exactly what they told me not to do.

I do find these questions as practice, I have heard some of them before and you all are right in person it is very serious.

[islandgirl21]

How long have you been coming to this board?

I haven't been on this board in awhile. I think it's been 2 years since I've been on this board.

Did you read this thread in its entirety?
Yes

Did you read the Pearls of Wisdom?
Yes

What was your username when you USED to visit the boards?
It was the same I recall.

What area of DC do you live in?
SW

How long have you been interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha?
Since I was in high school.

Where did you attend undergrad?
Florida A&M University

When did you graduate?
2002

[islandgirl21]

{Sisterfriends, if you had the opportunity to ask an AKA a question about LIFE AS A MEMBER of Alpha Kappa Alpha, what would you ask? Remember, LIFE AS A MEMBER, NOT HOW TO BECOME A MEMBER}

Ok, I admit I did NOT read this thread in it's entirety. I thought it just said ask a random question. SORRY!!!

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by wannabeina
This response I can appreciate. I can learn from it. I'm not mad, frustrated or angry... but I was defensive because I felt my answers were clear. I thought I was being honest. Maybe I'm not meant for your sorority, but you can't blame me for trying to see if I would fit in.

Now we are getting somewhere. At least you admitted to being on the defensive; I can respect that. When speaking (publicly, in written form, etc) it is important to know who your audience is and how they like to receive information. Some people are audio learners, some visual. The point is, what may be clear to you is not clear to others. You have to learn how to communicate to your audience.

Perhaps you are right: maybe you aren't meant for my sorority. Neither is the teaching profession if you get defensive because someone asked for clarification on something you thought was clear. Or Corporate Training. Or Sales. Or pretty much anything where you'd have to communicate and receive criticism on that communication.

Which leads me to my next question:

You've put your best foot forward in trying to get to know members, going to events, Rush, etc. My sorors seem to slice you up every chance they get. You are discouraged and demoralized. What do you do now?

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by islandgirl21
What area of DC do you live in?
SW

Where did you attend undergrad?
Florida A&M University

When did you graduate?
2002

Thank you very much. Oh yeah, one more thing.

What is your full name?

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by islandgirl21
Did you read this thread in its entirety?

Yes

Originally posted by islandgirl21
Ok, I admit I did NOT read this thread in it's entirety. I thought it just said ask a random question. SORRY!!!

CLASSIC

[islandgirl21]

Originally posted by Ideal08
Thank you very much. Oh yeah, one more thing.

What is your full name?

I don't want to say. I don't think that would be discrete.

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by islandgirl21
I don't want to say. I don't think that would be discrete.

ROTFLMAO

Now THAT is hilarious.

Soror SKEE, I tried.

[islandgirl21]

Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?

<Sometimes it’s less intimidating to ask via internet or email versus face to face. >

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?

<They are looking for the easy way to get the answer. >

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?

<Because their interest was not genuine and they were just looking to join any sorority so they could ‘belong.’>

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?

<Because they can. If they are not doing jack then they are not being held accountable by their chapter or the people that voted for them.(or sponsored them.)>

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?

<I’m not looking to become a member of XYZ sorority to do community service. I’ve been doing community service all my life for free. If someone says they want to join XYZ for community service they are misguided.>

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?

<I can get a man without being in a sorority. I wouldn’t want people to pay attention to me just because I’m in XYZ organization. >

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?

<If they’re not members then they don’t know everything there is to know about greekdom. >

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?
<Some folks interest in the org is not sincere. >

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?

<Some people seeking validation externally instead of internally.>

[Bamboozled]

This thread is freaking HILARIOUS!!!!

[AKA2D '91]

Does it EVER become the responsiblity of the SF, TO DO JACK once she becomes a member?

If former SF is a GROWN WOMAN, isn't SHE responsible for the oaths and pledges SHE made, regardless of her sponsor/those voting favorably for her?