Who's your daddy!!!

[texas*princess]

Did anyone catch this on FOX last night? Apparently some FOX affiliates decided not to air it b/c of the "controversy" with the concept of the show.


Surprise surprise, it's another "reality" game:
It's basically about a girl who was adopted when she was really young. There are 8 men and of those she is supposed to somehow decide which one is her real father. Here's the catch: If she guesses right, she gets $100,000! If she guesses the wrong, the wrong-daddy she picked gets $100,000!!!



Personally, I didn't watch it.. I was just wondering the views of people who did. The reason I didn't watch it was b/c of the concept. If this girl really wanted to find out who her daddy was and not have to pay an investigator, she could have gone on Maury or some other talk show to do it. Not only that, but there are grown men trying to fool this girl into thinking they are the daddy b/c if she gets it wrong, they get 100,000. That's just sad!

I watched it last night.

I don't like the concept of the show. If they want to reunite someone with their birth parents, don't compromise the integrity of it by offering $$$. There were points during the show where I was like, "this is a friggin' joke".

I admit I teared up at the story of why TJ was given for adoption (father was 18, mother was 17 -- they did not marry and dad was being shipped off to Vietnam).

It was a touching moment when she was finally reunited with her father, her half sisters..and even her birth mother.

Still I hope they pull this show. It's HORRIBLE.

[Speechpath]

I heard about it but the fox station here wouldn't play it because it "didn't meet the intergrity standards of the viewing area"

[honeychile]

Maybe it's because I'm so into genealogy, but I found this MUCH less offensive than the other hundreds of "reality" shows on tv.

You have a young woman who wants to find her birth parents, and for whatever reason, has hit a brick wall.

You have a birth father who has been trying to find his child who was given up for adoption due to circumstances he couldn't control.

What was so wrong in helping them get together? Frankly, right from the beginning, you could see the pride in the birth father's eyes, and had a VERY good idea which man he was. TJ (the woman) was able to note little characteristics such as that right from the start, too.

She needed to know why she had been given up for adoption. Her adoptive parents had divorced, and I'm sure she's dealt with a lot of rejection in her life.

As a bonus, she got a chance to meet her three half-sisters, AND her birth mother (who was also looking for her)!

I'm not adopted, but I've helped a couple adoptees with their searches. There is a deep need to know that you were/are wanted, and this show answered her questions. I can't understand how many people find this objectionable.

[ASUADPi]

Originally posted by honeychile
Maybe it's because I'm so into genealogy, but I found this MUCH less offensive than the other hundreds of "reality" shows on tv.

You have a young woman who wants to find her birth parents, and for whatever reason, has hit a brick wall.

You have a birth father who has been trying to find his child who was given up for adoption due to circumstances he couldn't control.

What was so wrong in helping them get together? Frankly, right from the beginning, you could see the pride in the birth father's eyes, and had a VERY good idea which man he was. TJ (the woman) was able to note little characteristics such as that right from the start, too.

She needed to know why she had been given up for adoption. Her adoptive parents had divorced, and I'm sure she's dealt with a lot of rejection in her life.

As a bonus, she got a chance to meet her three half-sisters, AND her birth mother (who was also looking for her)!

I'm not adopted, but I've helped a couple adoptees with their searches. There is a deep need to know that you were/are wanted, and this show answered her questions. I can't understand how many people find this objectionable.

Ditto!!!

I actually watched the show and I thought it was very sweet.

And like you said, she probably hit a brick wall. I'm sure this women used all means necessary to find her birth parents. I'm no adoption expert but from what I know, most adoptions are closed (which means the file is sealed, I'm not sure what, if any, information the child is allowed to receive. It might be the birth parents names and that is it). And if her adoption papers were in fact sealed she probably didn't get very far.

Plus, money is always an issue. If she didn't have the money to continue paying for private detectives. Then you turn to whomever you can to help you out.

I agree that they should have taken the money aspect out of the show, but getting money is always nice. I think it was interesting to watch without the money aspect and wanted to watch it anyways (when I saw the previews it didn't talk about the money).

Just my opinions

[honeychile]

FYI, many adoptees spend at least $50,000 for their searches.

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by ariesrising
Maybe if they had taken out the money aspect it wouldn't have been such a stupid show. I'm all for seeing adoptees reunited with birth parents, but why turn it into a game and involve people who have nothing to do with it and are just in it for the chance at some cash?

Stupid, stupid, stupid.

I didn't see it -- but I have to admit that the money/fake daddies aspects troubled me as well. It seems like a very emotionally manipulative twist on what is already an emotionally overwhelming experience. It sounds like she was able to pick her real father out of the crowd, but what if she hadn't been? It would have been disappointing and maybe a little embarassing for everybody involved.

[ASUADPi]

Originally posted by sugar and spice
I didn't see it -- but I have to admit that the money/fake daddies aspects troubled me as well. It seems like a very emotionally manipulative twist on what is already an emotionally overwhelming experience. It sounds like she was able to pick her real father out of the crowd, but what if she hadn't been? It would have been disappointing and maybe a little embarassing for everybody involved.

But it's not like any other person looking for their adoptive parents. You might have to "go through" "wrongs" before you get the "right". Like if your birth fathers name is John Smith. That name is so incredibly common. You could go through a dozen "wrong" leads and talk too dozens on wrong men before you find the man who is your father. Yes, she had a gut instinct but not many are as intuitive as her.

[chideltjen]

I watched it up until she met her half sisters and then had to jet.

I thought the premise was nice. I mean, reuniting a long lost daughter and father is a good thing.

However, I felt like I was watching a really strange version of The Bachelorette. I mean they pick the one girl that looks like she double on any other "find my soulmate" show. And some of the guys just seemed kind of slimy. Maybe it was the atmosphere of it all. I was waiting for her to whip out roses.

Yeah... I also didn't understand the whole, "We'll give you $100,000 if you guess right all night, but if you don't, it drops down $25,000." While it may have been embarrassing for her to pick wrong, losing money each time she guessed wrong would have been in the far corner of her mind when she knew at the end of all this she would get her dad anyway.

Though there was a small twinge for me every time she picked. I wanted to know what would happen if she didn't pick the right group.

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by ASUADPi
But it's not like any other person looking for their adoptive parents. You might have to "go through" "wrongs" before you get the "right". Like if your birth fathers name is John Smith. That name is so incredibly common. You could go through a dozen "wrong" leads and talk too dozens on wrong men before you find the man who is your father. Yes, she had a gut instinct but not many are as intuitive as her.

But in that example, people aren't purposely trying to mislead you. It's not like you're going through names in a phone book and talking to men who are all saying, "Yeah, I'm your dad, let's hang out, let's bond -- oh wait, I'm just doing this to get a million bucks!"

It just seems very exploitative to me.

[astroAPhi]

As someone who is adopted, I agree that it's pretty disgusting. If they were to do something along the lines of helping an adoptee find his/her birth parents, that's one thing. Helping that person financially to do it is nice too. But to try and deceive them is just messing with their mind.

The sad thing is that if your birth parents want to be found, it's really easy. All I did was to go to the agency that did my adoption, talk to a counselor to determine if I was ready, paid $300, and they did all the searching for me. They found my birth mother within a week, I think. They asked her if she felt ready to be in contact me and she said that she would be comfortable receiving letters. If my mom had said no, however, they would have given her their contact information in case she changed her mind, and called me back and tell me that it wasn't possible at this time. I was prepared for that possibility, and though it would be disappointing, I would have accepted it and not pursued it further. At this point in time, my birth mother is actually not comfortable telling me anything other than her first name, even though she knows my first and last name, where I went to school, and where I now work. I wouldn't have forced her to be in contact with me or tracked her down if she didn't want to be.

All of our contact so far has been through letters. I've only received one from her, but I did send her a few letters as well as graduation announcements. She has another life and an 18-year old daughter, so I'm trying not to be too pushy because I'm respecting her and her daughter's lives.

Originally posted by chideltjen
I watched it up until she met her half sisters and then had to jet.

I thought the premise was nice. I mean, reuniting a long lost daughter and father is a good thing.

However, I felt like I was watching a really strange version of The Bachelorette. I mean they pick the one girl that looks like she double on any other "find my soulmate" show. And some of the guys just seemed kind of slimy. Maybe it was the atmosphere of it all. I was waiting for her to whip out roses.

Yeah, I saw some of it and I got that sense too. It was honestly really creepy. I think a show like this is a huge insult to adopted kids and adopting parents alike. WTF was Fox thinking? All this show does is play with real (assumingly) emotion for the sake of making money.

I'm glad the rest of america felt the same way. Check out an article on their ratings

Next up for Fox: Who's your baby's daddy? A woman will sleep with 9 men and then 9 months later, though a series of champange,roses, big mansions and DNA tests, have to find out who the daddy of her baby is. The more emotionally wrecked she is, the better...

[chideltjen]

Originally posted by carol9a
Next up for Fox: Who's your baby's daddy? A woman will sleep with 9 men and then 9 months later, though a series of champange,roses, big mansions and DNA tests, have to find out who the daddy of her baby is. The more emotionally wrecked she is, the better...

Who's going to host that trainwreck? Montel? Jerry? Maury?

[ASUADPi]

Originally posted by chideltjen
Who's going to host that trainwreck? Montel? Jerry? Maury?

Sally Jesse Rapheal

[texas*princess]

Originally posted by carol9a

I'm glad the rest of america felt the same way. Check out an article on their ratings

even fear factor beat it out!