Everyone around me is getting married!

Taualumna · #1 10-23-2004, 12:07 AM

I just came back from a wedding in New York. A girl I knew from high school apparently got engaged last spring. My cousin, who is 16 months older than me got engaged three weeks ago. Another friend of mine got engaged around the same time my cousin did. The list goes on and on. I'm the second oldest out of all of the first cousins on my dad's side, but I don't think I'm going to be the second to marry. It's sort of a competition now, and I don't think I'm going to do very well.

polarpi · #2 10-23-2004, 12:40 AM

Honey, I'm right there with you

My step-mom said to me, after one of my cousins got married in 2000, "You'll be the next one in the family to get married". This would be before another cousin, who's three years older than I am, and my step-sisters. As of this point, I'm still unmarried (no prospect in sight), as is my cousin, and ONE of my three step-sisters.

I also have a majority of my friends from college and high school either already married or engaged to be married within the next year!

It's crazy!

winneythepooh7 · #3 10-23-2004, 08:41 AM

OK you know what is completely annoying? My boyfriend and I have a pretty good relationship and I recently found out that all of his friends have a "bet" that we will get married next or at least before this other couple he is friends with that have been together for YEARS and all my boyfriend's friends feel this guy doesn't want to propose to his girlfriend. It was sweet at first but that can be A LOT of pressure to live up to, especially if things don't work out. I mean, it's good now but we all know relationships can often "turn", and hell, we've only been together for 6 months!!!! Sheesh!!!!

Jill1228 · #4 10-23-2004, 08:47 AM

And the catching the bouquet thing is a HUGE myth! I caught the bouquet and I was the LAST woman in the wedding party to get married!

do NOT ask how many years passed between catching the bouquet and the wedding!

AGDee · #5 10-23-2004, 09:37 AM

When they all start getting divorced, you can smile smugly.

PLEASE don't feel pressured by others getting married all around you and DON'T marry a man who asks just because of that pressure. Make sure he is someone you want to live with for the rest of your life.

You are a perfectly worthwhile woman and human being without being married.

Dee

AlphaSigOU · #6 10-23-2004, 09:53 AM

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Originally posted by Jill1228
And the catching the bouquet thing is a HUGE myth! I caught the bouquet and I was the LAST woman in the wedding party to get married! do NOT ask how many years passed between catching the bouquet and the wedding!

Don't feel bad... I've caught the garter several times at weddings and have yet to get married! Not that I'm in a big hurry...

James · #7 10-23-2004, 10:44 AM

If everyone around you was catching AIDS would you feel compelled to do that also?

Taualumna · #8 10-23-2004, 01:38 PM

I'm sorry for ranting like this, but it wouldn't be long before my grandmother starts asking me why I'm not off the market yet! And my grandmother isn't even "old fashioned" (she was sort of a party girl when she was in her 20s. She was very pleased when I told her that I was learning how to swing dance) Part of me wants to remain single, but the other part does not!

Thanks for the messages btw

AGDee · #9 10-23-2004, 03:03 PM

Don't rush it Cynthia, really! Get your career going, live on your own for a while. If people bug you, tell them you haven't met a man good enough for you yet!

Dee

PM_Mama00 · #10 10-23-2004, 03:50 PM

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Originally posted by winneythepooh7
OK you know what is completely annoying? My boyfriend and I have a pretty good relationship and I recently found out that all of his friends have a "bet" that we will get married next or at least before this other couple he is friends with that have been together for YEARS and all my boyfriend's friends feel this guy doesn't want to propose to his girlfriend. It was sweet at first but that can be A LOT of pressure to live up to, especially if things don't work out. I mean, it's good now but we all know relationships can often "turn", and hell, we've only been together for 6 months!!!! Sheesh!!!!

Rent the movie Tomcats, but don't let your boyfriend and his friends see it!

Sister Havana · #11 10-23-2004, 04:15 PM

I hear you! I know so many people who got married this year...I was in 2 weddings and was invited to 3 more, plus there were the ones I heard about. And here I am, not sure if I am ever going to get married! (I figure if it is meant to happen, it will. If not, it won't. And I am OK with that.)

texas*princess · #12 10-24-2004, 01:41 PM

... that's kinda happening to me too...

it all started about a year ago when Friend A got engaged and then married in December. Since then, EVERYONE in our "circle of friends" are getting engaged/married.. it's insane.

I'm happy for them and all, but when they get in those "moods" and pull out that Married Card, it drives me nuts. "When you have a house payment, a car payment, and are married you'll understand why I'm so tired sometimes"

Uhh.. yea. I guess until then, I'll be the same happy-go-lucky person driving the car my parents are paying for and visiting the boyfriend with no married-problems attached

Peaches-n-Cream · #13 10-24-2004, 02:08 PM

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Originally posted by AGDee
Don't rush it Cynthia, really! Get your career going, live on your own for a while. If people bug you, tell them you haven't met a man good enough for you yet!

Dee

Ditto this.

Someone was asking a friend why she was still single like it was a disease.

I told her to reply, "I'm too much of a slut to settle down with just one guy." That will shut them up.

sigmagrrl · #14 10-24-2004, 02:41 PM

I'm in a weird situation in my life. I would love to get married, but it's not a huge thing. To me, marriage happens to "other people". All of my co-workers are already married, so there is no marriage pressure there. None of my friends are close to getting married, so there is no pressure there either...

My mother doesn't pressure me to date or isn't hinting about my getting older....My grandparents couldn't care less...

Sometimes I wonder if this is a healthy "place" to be in or am I stuck?

Hell, I don't know what I'm saying anymore...MOVING ON!

AGDee · #15 10-24-2004, 02:53 PM

In my view, you're in a healthy place.

This is what infuriates me about the big "marriage" push by our current political administration. Women already feel a HUGE societal pressure to hurry up and get married. I think this is why the divorce rate is so high. When you meet a person who is right for you, and you take the time to make sure he is right, then you get married. We shouldn't feel pressured by society, family or our "biological clock" to hurry up and get hitched.

Dee