hurt feelings after recruitment?

[1heart1way]

Ok, as we all know, not everyone who "rushes" gets a bid. So how do you all deal with the girls that you may/may not know personally after recruitment?

All I can think of is saying..."I'm sorry it didn't work out"..."try going through again"...

How do you deal w/ having friends who didn't get their bid matched for the sorority they wanted?

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[Kallima]

One of my sisters had both or her roommates come through informally 2 springs ago. The chapter loved one and didn't really care for the other. Part of the problem with the one we didn't want to extend a bid to was that she had gone through formal recruitment the previous fall and we had cut her. We also did not extend her a bid when we had informal recruitment right after either. We admired her persistance but totallt didn't see her as a sister.
It was hard for my sister to have one roommate get a bid and the other not. She didn't sleep in her room the night bids went out. From what I understand now though, she still talks to the non-sister often and there are no hard feelings. I think maybe she realized she just wasn't for us.

[Aquastar]

One of my close friends who really wanted to be in a sorority was cut from formal recruitment. She was really upset but I talked to her about it and told her there are lots of reasons they could have cut you. Just explaining how with higher numbers this semester chapters decided to be more picky and looked for things such as if you are a freshman (which she wasn't) and how well you came across to them against that particular group of girls. She decided to try again in the spring for informal and she got a bid and is now happily VPScholarship in her chapter. :shrugs:
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[smbswim1225]

How about from the other standpoint where you are inside the house and you have friends going through that end up not coming to your sorority. It definately stings becasue you wonder what you did wrong or what is wrong with your sorority that it isn't good enough for your friends. It is hard to have that first conversation with them after recruitment knowing they went to another house when you really wished they were becoming your sister. You try to be happy for them, but you wonder what went wrong.