Would you have sex?

[PRHOTOTYPE]

Hello SoRhors and guest,

I heard this topic on a talk radio station and decided to bring it to the message board so here goes......

If both parties were equally informed would you have sex with a person that has an STD?


AS for me...

First of all I am a whole hearted advocate of abstaining from sex or celibacy until marriage. But If I did or do happen to “fall prey to fornication” with a brotha that happens to be an STD carrier, I would need to know ALL the circumstances surrounding the disease, I mean the Whos, Whats, Whys, How longs, the What happens ifs, and if I really felt comfortable with his answers and his situation I would proceed with protection of course.

[TRSimon]

Hypothetically Speaking...

An STD is nothing to sneeze at. Some of them can lead to cervical cancer and worse. I don't know if I could look past that and put myself and my future children at risk. I'd have to say thanks, but no thanks.

[ntrestednsgr]

I would not, because I would constantly be thinking about the worst possible outcome. I would be too afraid to concentrate on the activity.

[TheEpitome1920]

That's a toughie...

I think it depends on the STD. If its curable, he needs to go to the doctor. However, if its something like Herpes there are ways to have protected sex without transmitting the disease.

I probably wouldn't sleep with someone who had AIDS/HIV/Hepatitis A-E because of the seriousness of the disease.

[jojapeach]

It would only be worth it if we were madly in love with one another and married. If we're both so in love that we're considering sex, then love, common sense, and required used of prophylactics will conquer our fears. The sex would always have to be protected, and if there's a cure, he has to try to get treatment ASAP.

If it were something currently incurable like HIV/AIDS or herpes, it would be a very serious consideration. Assumptions are dangerous, but I am assuming that Magic and Cookie Johnson have been making a way for over a decade now. Of course, the virus is nearly undetectable for him thanks to the millions of dollars he's spent on treatment.

[winneythepooh7]

do you guys think there is a cure or close to being a cure for HIV and AIDS?

[TheEpitome1920]

Originally posted by winneythepooh7
do you guys think there is a cure or close to being a cure for HIV and AIDS?

Well I can't remember what Chris Rock said verbatim but something about one cannot make money off a cure, the money is the cocktails and all the other meds people take. So I believe something is out there...

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally posted by TheEpitome1920
That's a toughie...

I think it depends on the STD. If its curable, he needs to go to the doctor. However, if its something like Herpes there are ways to have protected sex without transmitting the disease.

I probably wouldn't sleep with someone who had AIDS/HIV/Hepatitis A-E because of the seriousness of the disease.

I agree with TheEpitome1920

[HolyGhost7]

hey sorors and sisterfriends...its been a long time since i posted in here. but my quick answer is no. i wouldnt feel comfortable no matter how informed i was because they are always coming up with new info...after the fact.

[preciousjeni]

Originally posted by TheEpitome1920
Well I can't remember what Chris Rock said verbatim but something about one cannot make money off a cure, the money is the cocktails and all the other meds people take. So I believe something is out there...

Whoa! I was about to mention something about this when I read your post. I believe we are past the days of striving to cure most anything. I'm sure there are people around who are working diligently toward curing various ailments, but it is so true that the real money is made is prolonging life and increasing its quality. I mean, if you cured the disease, that would be the end of the money pouring into research for it, wouldn't it? So, why cure when you can employ all those scientists with steady jobs for years and years?

[preciousjeni]

Absolutely not! I've come back to my senses and I won't have sex again until I'm married. I have another question.

For those who are waiting for marriage, what would you do if you got married and your mate admitted to lying about having a serious STD?

I'm not at all about divorce, so I'm not sure what I'd do!

[TheEpitome1920]

Originally posted by preciousjeni
Absolutely not! I've come back to my senses and I won't have sex again until I'm married. I have another question.

For those who are waiting for marriage, what would you do if you got married and your mate admitted to lying about having a serious STD?

I'm not at all about divorce, so I'm not sure what I'd do!

There'd be some slow singing and flower bringing!

But seriously, before I'm married I would like for my fiance and I to have complete physicals. And we WILL share results. That's not some stuff you keep hidden.

[jojapeach]

Co-signing with TheEpitome1920

But for further discussion, there would be an annulment or divorce very quickly. If my husband fails to reveal that information before we take our sacred vows, then he obviously does not trust and love me enough to give me the opportunity to decide how to deal with the STD. Exclusion of that one important detail is beyond "a little white lie"; that is a major problem that can have an effect on my health, my livelihood, and my life. At that point, I would not have any faith in him, and the marriage and relationship is over from that point. Basically, in that scenario, the problem is bigger than just the STD (which is already a huge problem in itself).

[James]

I would have to graph it and see where the intersection of how deadly the disease was versus her hotness modified by my potential inebriation placed me in a cost benefit analysis.

[starang21]

nah, i'm really straight on that.