Cheating Defined

BrownEyedGirl · #1 06-29-2004, 01:20 AM

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rainbowbrightCS · #2 06-29-2004, 01:31 AM

Anything from have a sex to cyber/phone sex, to dating to cuddleing with some one.

valkyrie · #3 06-29-2004, 01:52 AM

I would say any physical contact that goes beyond what you'd do with a friend -- kissing or more. Beyond that, I think that there could be emotional cheating, but I'm not sure how I'd define that.

Not to get off on too much of a tangent, but do people actually have cybersex or phone sex?

preciousjeni · #4 06-29-2004, 02:13 AM

There is definitely emotional cheating. In my last relationship, I was worried that there was something physical going on with my man and someone else but then I started to get the feeling that it was more emotional than anything else and I was losing him in that respect. There is a change in the relationship that, if you're paying attention, you can see.

If I know there's chance that you're attracted to a particular person, anything is cheating - physical or emotional. I'm strict too in that I consider viewing pornography to be mental cheating.

sororitygirl2 · #5 06-29-2004, 02:18 AM

Allowing anyone who you may or may not be, but could eventually be, sexually interested in become closer to you than your your girlfriend/boyfriend/partner - emotionally or physically.

CUGreekgirl · #6 06-29-2004, 04:39 AM

My EX ran into his Ex girlfriend one Friday night and slept with her while I was out of town for the weekend. He did promptly break up with me as soon as I woke up on Monday morning. He tried to say it wasn't cheating, but I disagree. He couldn't keep his pants on for a day or two until he broke up with me. Thats cheating.

I think Valkyrie has a pretty good description.

ADPiShannan · #7 06-29-2004, 07:42 AM

I also think anything over a hug. I may give him a chance to redeem himself if it was just a kiss, but chances of it only being a kiss, are slim. If you have to kiss someone else you obviously arent interested in the other person anymore.

winneythepooh7 · #8 06-29-2004, 07:54 AM

Ditto to Valkyrie's def.

decadence · #9 06-29-2004, 08:53 AM

@ "emotional cheating" : hahahahahahaha. Oh please.

I could expand upon that but, really, puhleese.

Rudey · #10 06-29-2004, 10:52 AM

It's common sense and doesn't need to be defined.

-Rudey
--Like love and the color orange

KellyB369 · #11 06-29-2004, 10:58 AM

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Originally posted by decadence
@ "emotional cheating" : hahahahahahaha. Oh please.

I could expand upon that but, really, puhleese.

No one said having friends of the opposite sex is cheating. And I definitely think their can be emotional cheating. If you are more willing to bond with and open yourself up to someone besides your significant other, there is definitely a problem and I would probably call that cheating.

decadence · #12 06-29-2004, 11:14 AM

If you are unwilling/unable to bond with or ever open up to people generally, bar with one person; I would probably call that a possible psychological problem.

KellyB369 · #13 06-29-2004, 11:51 AM

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Originally posted by decadence
If you are unwilling/unable to bond with or ever open up to people generally, bar with one person; I would probably call that a possible psychological problem.

I didn't say anything about being unwilling or unable to bond or open up to people in general. What I said and what I meant was that if you form a stronger, more emotional bond with someone besides your sig. other then you are cheating in a way. I realize there are exceptions to this and every rule. But for example, say a woman is married but meets a man at work and she proceeds to open up to him and share things with him, maybe intimate things, that she doesn't even share with her husband anymore. I'd call that "emotional cheating."

_Lisa_ · #14 06-29-2004, 11:57 AM

Mental & emotional cheating exists, but not in the definition most of you are "making fun of." Even if there is no phsyical contact between two human beings he/she can still be cheating because falling in & out love entails more than just a physical relationship, but a mental & emotional relationship too.

recentASAalum · #15 06-29-2004, 12:07 PM

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Originally posted by ADPiShannan
If you have to kiss someone else you obviously arent interested in the other person anymore.

I have to disagree with that statement. I cheated once on someone that I loved very much. I kissed another guy. Looking back on it I realized later on that I had deeper emotional issues that I hadn't dealt with that led me to cheat. In no way did it mean that I wasn't in love with my boyfriend.

In general, I think cheating is, a lot of times, a case by case basis. It's hard to come up with one general definition that applies to everyone and eveyr relationship.