Any sugestions, X-girl friend wants to b friends.

emperorclb · #1 06-22-2004, 07:18 AM

Ok this is what happaned. I was going with this one girl and things start to get bad. I'm a nice guy and im pretty aware of other peoples feelings and i didnt want to hurt the girl by jus telling her we needed to b apart. So when i finnal told her we needed to talk, she came over and i told her wut was up.
Then she jus does a 360 on me, she went from normal person, one second to, hyperventilating and super aware, then she backs up towards the only exit in the room and she is stairing me down with the crazyest look i hav ever seen in my life. That freaked me out; but she starts getting all energetic saying stuff like "no why do u wanna break up" and " r u saying ur not happy". The whole time she is blocking the door.
I was like ok i'll think about it another day and then she flipped again and was like ok good i'll c u later.
Needless to say i decided to break it off cuz she was "on one" then. But i never stopped talking to her like saying hi and stuff like that, and for somereason i got a felling that she still liked me, then on more than one occasion she calls me up totaly at random and says stuff like " i always wanted to marry someone like u", "my mom thinks that ur a really good guy, perfact for me", "one day when we get married we should..." and im like "huh?" did she forget we r not together ne more. So after she eventually got on my nerves which by the way is a very hard thing to do, I stopped talking to her and all together; even though i felt bad about that but that was wut it took for her to leave me alone.
Yeah and now my freaking concious has cought up to me, and I begain to try to become friends with her again cuz i felt bad for the way i treated her, becuz now i think she has changed so she should b cool now. (I'm not interested in getting back with her, thats never gonna happen, but i wouldnt mind just being friends with her though)

Any one got any suggestions as to how i can approach this new situation?

Lil' Hannah · #2 06-22-2004, 08:20 AM

please add vowels and punctuation.

Kevin · #3 06-22-2004, 08:22 AM

There is a reason why 99% of the time, when a girl says "Let's be friends", in your mind you should be thinking how great it'll be to never talk to them again. Typically, when they say "Let's be friends" and the mean it, they want another girlfriend. Tried it before, it pissed me off, so I quit.

I believe in clean breaks most of the time. If I've gone out with someone, and I wasn't interested in them as a "friend", but perhaps for some other reason

, I'm not interested at all in being a friend.

This girl is having regrets about the whole breakup thing. She's coming off as pretty immature and somewhat in denial about it. If you tell it like it is, be prepared for the tears to start coming from her. Maybe that's what you need to do -- just tell her what's going on. That you're really not interested in being friends, that she gets on your last nerve, etc.

Kevin · #4 06-22-2004, 08:22 AM

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Originally posted by Lil' Hannah
please add vowels and punctuation.

Please capitalize the first letter of each sentence.

ADPiShannan · #5 06-22-2004, 10:04 AM

Ive stayed friends with all my ex's, one was even in my wedding. Ive always found I am much better at being friends with guys than girls, so pretty much all my break ups were good so we went to being friends and it worked awesome.

With that being said, I dont know if Id want to be friends with a sort of stalker/crazy person. Id be too scared of them getting pissed out of nowhere and doing something to me. Id be careful a little. I mean you are a guy and Im sure can handle it, but sometimes people are very good at making you think they are totally good and normal again and oneday snap and they get all crazy again.

For the most part, I think its wonderful to keep a friendship up, if the relationship wasnt too bad or didnt end really bad, but sometimes you need to be careful. Maybe be friends but dont hang out too much or call or anything, I mean she may take it as you want her back too. This is def a tricky friend with ex thing.

PiEp299 · #6 06-22-2004, 12:55 PM

Stay AWAY. No good will come of it. You know she won't be able to keep it at "just friends" especially with the marriage comments. So, run far, far away.

Lady Pi Phi · #7 06-22-2004, 03:17 PM

Only tell her you still want to be friends with her if you really mean it. If you only said it to be nice, well you're juts going to have more aggrivation in the long run.
So if you're not interested in having any sort of relationship with her then just cut off all contact.

thermobryan · #8 06-22-2004, 06:18 PM

NO friends! Hit it if she wants to other than that dont' waste your time with her.. I'm only friends with girls for 2 simple reasons:
1. I plan to hit it
2. I have friends of theirs I want to hit

Yeah ima Jerk, but at least im honest...

I see you're a Kappa Psi Pike I heard they're pretty gay, who are you?!

kddani · #9 06-22-2004, 06:34 PM

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Originally posted by thermobryan

I see you're a Kappa Psi Pike I heard they're pretty gay, who are you?!

WTF would you say that about your own brother?

thermobryan · #10 06-22-2004, 06:47 PM

I'm a Kappa Psi PIKE, RELAX!!!

But I'm also a founding father of Lambda Delta...the LD's!

thermobryan · #11 06-22-2004, 09:36 PM

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Originally posted by GLUE STICK
I am very glad that as an inanimate object, I do not date! Office supplies rarely leave the desk, so it's not an issue for me! I might check out that cute pair of scissors while someone is scrapbooking, but OUCH, I wouldn't want to piss her off, HAHAHA!

riiight....People are treated how they want to be treated....

AOTTAdvisor · #12 06-23-2004, 11:28 AM

This is weird because I am going through this right now--
My boyfriend and I broke up about 1.5 months ago(his decision but we both saw it coming) and decided to stay friends and its had its major ups and downs. It went really well for the first week but I have decided in the last few weeks its more trouble than its worth. We still talked every day and knew where each other was and it started to wear on me that if he still wanted to know what I was doing and wanted to talk to me, and still cared about me, why didn't he still want to be my boyfriend?
We decided on Monday to not talk for awhile, because we know we aren't getting back together and we both need to move on and remaining close friends is holding us back from that. I know if I needed him, he would be there for me in heartbeat, but I also know that I can't rely on that.
So, I don't think you should swear to NEVER speak again but I also think breaking up is breaking up and sometimes when you drag it on, it hurts more than it would if you just moved on. I know my heart has been hurting for at least a month now and I wish I had gotten the chance to make a clean break.
Just my .02 cents!