Sensitive Subject: Drop

[breathe20]

Hi. I'm currently pledging and have been for over 4 months.. Long time. And I don't see it coming to an end soon to be honest with you. We're not supposed to know when it ends, but it's gone on for so long I don't see how it could end any quicker. So with that said my fall schedule will begin and this year is crucial so I canNOT be pledging while school begins because I WILL fail my classes if I have to deal with pledging stuff too. So I'm thinking of dropping, not because I can't deal with it.. because I HAVE for 4 freakin months... But I would like to ask.. does the entire greek community including other frats and sorors know who drops? If so do drops get treated badly? Because I don't want drama... I just want to make sure that by fall things clear up because failing out of school is definitely not an option. I need advice. **distance factor reason for length. me and brothers live hours apart**

[kddani]

not knowing when you're going to be initiated, at least for NPC groups, is considered hazing.

[Kevin]

Give it 'til the beginning part of next semester at least. Some groups wait until your grades come out to initiate you.

[winneythepooh7]

If you are concerned that you will fail there is definately a problem with your organization and it is called hazing. I don't know about other organizations but from what I remember all the National's at my school were not allowed to have the new member process go beyond a certain point, which if I remember correctly was around 4-6 weeks NOT 4-6 months. That is insane. Also, if you are concerned that people are going to "harass" you if you do decide to drop that is another serious issue in and of itself and you should not have to put up with it. I suggest talking to someone of a higher power about this. It is organizations like this that unfortunately give GLO's a bad rep.

[Betarulz!]

Obviously this is either a MC or NPHC group you are looking to joining.

I'd say just trust the process, unless it is causing you a lot of anguish. There might be a good reason for it. Talk to the others in your pledge class or line, see how they feel. Talk to a member of the org. you feel like you can talk to. I'm sure they will be able to offer some help.

However if you really feel that the experience is not going to be worth it, then get the hell out right now.

[Rudey]

I think the Beta is right about the NPHC or MC group. If it isn't, then that's wrong in our books. I don't know enough about the other groups to tell you whether it's right, wrong or what you should do so maybe PM one of them. I have no idea how they determine when it ends.

-Rudey

[KSUViolet06]

If this org. is national (either NPC, IFC, or NPHC), there are rules as to how long NM's can pledge.

[Tom Earp]

Whoa, there are to many questions by this poster to be addressed without more information.

The only thing that I really got from it was the 'Pledgeship" is 4 Months long.

Is that not about the Length of a Sem. ?

If his not getting Grades, that is another Problem as We all know.

Get Grades or, do not Graduate and participate in Greek Life.

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[PsychTau]

Originally posted by breathe20
**distance factor reason for length. me and brothers live hours apart**

I don't understand this part. Do you mean that since you live "hours apart" from your brothers, your NM process is longer?

Please explain this part further. Thanks!

PsychTau

[BabyP]

school comes first..........I would recommend to drop it!

[AlphaFrog]

If this is a national org, I'm sure there is someone (many someones) on Greekchat that could help you if you don't feel you can talk to anyone in your own chapter about it (I know sometimes I feel more comfortable talking about stuff with sisters in other chapters here on GC)... Find one of them and Private message them, I'm sure they will be happy to give you more spesific advice.

[preciousjeni]

I completely agree with AlphaFrog. I also wanted to say that you've come a really long way! It might be really bad for you, down the line, if you drop now. You said you didn't know when initiation was, right? What if it's the day after you drop? That would be BAAAAD!!

Definitely talk to someone from your org on GC!!!

[Imperial1]

Originally posted by breathe20
Hi. I'm currently pledging and have been for over 4 months.. Long time. And I don't see it coming to an end soon to be honest with you. We're not supposed to know when it ends, but it's gone on for so long I don't see how it could end any quicker. So with that said my fall schedule will begin and this year is crucial so I canNOT be pledging while school begins because I WILL fail my classes if I have to deal with pledging stuff too. So I'm thinking of dropping, not because I can't deal with it.. because I HAVE for 4 freakin months... But I would like to ask.. does the entire greek community including other frats and sorors know who drops? If so do drops get treated badly? Because I don't want drama... I just want to make sure that by fall things clear up because failing out of school is definitely not an option. I need advice. **distance factor reason for length. me and brothers live hours apart**

THAT IS ALL.

Imperial1

[James]

I didn't think that NPHC groups allowed pledging anymore? Isn't there a national rule about that . . . but I dunno . . .

[preciousjeni]

Originally posted by James
I didn't think that NPHC groups allowed pledging anymore? Isn't there a national rule about that . . . but I dunno . . .

Is it NPHC?