Dating Younger Men - Page 2

Monique · #16 03-02-2001, 12:17 PM

Well, My b-friend of 3 years is 2 years younger than me..It can be a problem but to each his own

Shelacious · #17 03-02-2001, 12:26 PM

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Originally posted by The Original Ape:
I don't mean to scare you sista; but one day YOU'LL be over 30, and you wont feel or look like you're ready for the grave. Think about it.

LOL...LOL...LOL...

Giggy over 30...now fancy that...nah, will never happen!

Anyway, I think I've dated a man a year younger than I...I do think the challenge is maturity...I have dated older men who were less mature that I at the time (probably why they were dating a younger woman, eh), so I would be...surprised to find a young guy who was on the same page as an older woman (more than 5 year age difference).

Does that mean it can't happen? Of course not...one of my good male friends is a least 3-5 years younger than myself, and he is one of the most mature men I've ever met--as a result he usually dates women at least 5 years older.

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sistermoon · #18 03-02-2001, 06:06 PM

GiggyZ over 30, you're right it will never happen!!! even though she remembers Cradle Rob-n-Me .... LOL

as they say age is but a number ... it doesn't matter if you are 10, 20, 30 years younger or older it matters where the two of you are in your relationship. personally speaking the december-may relationship works well in my house.

GiggyZ · #19 03-03-2001, 11:56 AM

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Originally posted by The Original Ape:
I don't mean to scare you sista; but one day YOU'LL be over 30, and you wont feel or look like you're ready for the grave. Think about it.

Dear Mr. Original Ape,

My post was a joke. Most of the Zetas on this forum have an idea as to how young I am. I remember celebrating my 30th birthday back when Bush was president. Daddy Bush that is.

MIDWESTDIVA · #20 03-03-2001, 12:52 PM

While I was getting my hair done yesterday I had my eye on this cute little 19 year old who was waiting for a barber. I know I should be ashamed of myself, but I was thinking if Stella can get her groove back, why not me? Anyway, after listening to him and all the other young guys go on and on about what color new jordans they're going to get and which stores get them in first, I decided that I need to stick with men my age and older.

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SoTrue1920 · #21 03-03-2001, 02:32 PM

Back when I was in my late 20s (not that long ago), I was suddenly PLAGUED by 24 year old guys who wanted to date me. After dating two 24 year olds and being taken through the wringer, I put my hand on my stack of Essence magazines and SWORE I'd never look at another 24 year old again! I later married a man who is 8 years older than I am.

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Originally posted by GiggyZ:
Would you date a younger man? If so, what is an acceptable age difference?

PrettyKitty · #22 03-04-2001, 01:24 AM

Would I date a younger man. I have...usually only a year younger...but I dated one 3 years younger not so long ago...The maturity issue definitely came up. I was ready for a lot more than he could handle and like Donell Jones in "Where I Wanna Be"...he bounced to mature while being single.

on the flip side...I used to ONLY date older men. Like no younger than 30, which was cool for a while, but then I realiZed I kept running into males who were either ready to settle down or recapture their youth.

Currently, I am happily dating someone 13 months older than me and that suits me just fine...but 3-4 years ago...it would have never happened...cause the maturity level just wouldn't have been there for him.

I realiZe that during the mid to late 20's or early 30's a male's maturity level catches up to a women's...but then there are some who will forever have the maturity level of a 16 yo...you've just got to figure out which is which...

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The Original Ape · #23 03-04-2001, 01:28 AM

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Originally posted by GiggyZ:

Quote:

Originally posted by The Original Ape:
I don't mean to scare you sista; but one day YOU'LL be over 30, and you wont feel or look like you're ready for the grave. Think about it.

Dear Mr. Original Ape,

My post was a joke. Most of the Zetas on this forum have an idea as to how young I am. I remember celebrating my 30th birthday back when Bush was president. Daddy Bush that is.

Aint' nuthin' wrong with likin' fresh fruit!

amycat412 · #24 03-04-2001, 05:02 AM

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Originally posted by SoTrue1920:
Back when I was in my late 20s (not that long ago), I was suddenly PLAGUED by 24 year old guys who wanted to date me. After dating two 24 year olds and being taken through the wringer, I put my hand on my stack of Essence magazines and SWORE I'd never look at another 24 year old again! I later married a man who is 8 years older than I am.

Me too! I'm in my early 30's and for the last few years I've been very popular with the 24-26 yr olds. After a DISASTEROUS relationship wuth a 25 yr old when I was 30, I will not try that again. Life stages are too different.

My personal rule is 7 up, 1 down.

Amy

Zetaphied · #25 03-31-2001, 12:30 PM

So far in my life time which isn't that long, I am only 26. I have only dated one younger guy, but initially he lied to me about his age, so I didn't enter the relationship knowing he was younger than me by two years. It is my preference not to date men that are younger than myself. I find that they sometimes lack ambition, or are in a stage of life where they are still looking to obtain, what I have already worked hard to obtain and am currently reaping the benefits of. These days I also find that younger men are more into material things such as fast cars, and quick money and they simply aren't putting anything out there that I would find attractive. I am so not into that bling bling thing! More often than not I have attracted men that are always at least 7-10 years older than myself. An older man doesn't necessarily mean that is stuff is any more together than a younger guy, but at least if you are dating an older guy, you can weed things out earlier. Your not sitting there waiting for him to "become" He either is or isn't at that age.

Granny · #26 04-02-2001, 02:45 PM

Sorors,
My boyfriend of a year is almost 5 years younger (I am 29 and he just turned 25).
I wouldn't have dated him if I knew his age and would have missed out on the sweetest, most caring man I ever met.

Roshonda

Sweet Deliverance · #27 04-04-2001, 10:43 PM

Such a good topic. I have only dated 1 man younger than myself, by one year...Maturity was not the issue. I now date a gentleman who is 2 years older, and all is well.

. IF I were looking for someone to date, I don't think I would go for someone more than a year younger. I would date someone older, but not old enough to be my daddy.

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lil_sunshine · #28 11-07-2001, 07:57 PM

Well, I'm dating someone younger than myself and we've been together for almost two years now. I'm 28 (will be 29 in three weeks) and he's 26. We get along great, he makes me laugh and I love him to death. I don't get to see him that often because we're both working, which he understands.

ShalondaClark · #29 11-07-2001, 08:47 PM

I would date a younger man. The real question is will you date an older man. A younger man can be satisfy you in way you are looking for, an older man might satisfy you mentally, and phisically but not the other way if you know what i mean. but if a younger man have the right mine set and is on your level then i say go for it.

ShalondaClark · #30 11-07-2001, 08:53 PM

I've been dating an older quy for 2 years and we just got engaged. He is 6 years older then me.