Sex on the First Date

HBADPi · #1 05-21-2004, 03:05 PM

This is more directed to the guys. What are your thoughts on this? If a girl puts out on the first date, is that turn off? Granted we all know sex is never a turn off, at least good sex, but does it make you think twice about trying out the relationship? Does it ruin the chase? Just curious...

thermobryan · #2 05-21-2004, 03:16 PM

For myself speaking, I go with a general rule, I treat the girl with as much respect as she treats herself. If I go on a date with a girl and she puts out the first date I usually think that I'm not the only guy shes done this with, therefore she probably gets around. If we get into the situation to have sex on the first date and she says no, or says she wants to wait then I'll respect her more. Yes, I personally do like a chase, when a girl just gives it up yeah its nice, but i mean if i'm taking some girl out then I probably want her as a girlfriend. If its just some girl that wants to have sex, then i'll just take her over to my place and thats that....It also kind of depends on the situation, like how long you've been talking to each other, have u been friends before, have u hooked up before, things of that sort. I usually myself like a chase though...

PhiPsiRuss · #3 05-21-2004, 04:52 PM

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Originally posted by HBADPi
What are your thoughts on this?

We don't think about this. If the opportunity presents itself, we just do it.

It doesn't ruin the relationship if the sex is great, but that's all that the relationship will be about.

valkyrie · #4 05-21-2004, 11:47 PM

I'm all for it -- I don't see how it's a problem if you're both consenting adults and you're careful and having fun.

KillarneyRose · #5 05-22-2004, 12:30 AM

I don't have a problem with it just so long as both parties have the same expectations.

I pretty much attacked Mr. KR on our first date. LOL, I guess that's definitely TMI....

I sure hope my kids never read this

SiKeS · #6 05-22-2004, 02:59 AM

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Originally posted by KillarneyRose

I sure hope my kids never read this

seriously.. that'll scar a kid.. i speak from experience.

starang21 · #7 05-22-2004, 11:13 AM

depends...

if she wants me to respect her?

NO.

i've usually noticed that the more money you spend, the more likely they'll hold out.

sigtau305 · #8 05-22-2004, 11:50 AM

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Originally posted by HBADPi
This is more directed to the guys. What are your thoughts on this? If a girl puts out on the first date, is that turn off? Granted we all know sex is never a turn off, at least good sex, but does it make you think twice about trying out the relationship? Does it ruin the chase? Just curious...

I usually wait until the relationship she and I are trying to develop is Solid and we can trust each other.

Rudey · #9 05-22-2004, 12:28 PM

There was a brilliant poster on GC named Schultz who said something like if they don't put out on the first date he doesn't date them again and if they do put out on the first date he doesn't date them again.

-Rudey

#10 05-22-2004, 01:03 PM

Sex on the first date is definitely not a turn off. I like having protected sex driven by animal urges.

But even with sex on the first date or not only her personality will get her a second date. So all you charming and witty females can stop holding out.

Personality impaired chics may wanna keep their legs crossed cuz if I find you boring its a wrap on anything else. Unless you are a PROFESSIONAL at tying cherry stems with your tounge.

valkyrie · #11 05-24-2004, 10:55 PM

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Originally posted by laidbackfella
Sex on the first date is definitely not a turn off. I like having protected sex driven by animal urges.

But even with sex on the first date or not only her personality will get her a second date. So all you charming and witty females can stop holding out.

Wow, finally a guy who gets it. I'm completely baffled by guys who say that a woman who has sex on the first date isn't worthy of respect or isn't dating material. WTF?

James · #12 05-24-2004, 11:09 PM

They have been listening to "female" propaganda for too long. ITs women that say that women that put out on the first date are whores.

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Originally posted by valkyrie
Wow, finally a guy who gets it. I'm completely baffled by guys who say that a woman who has sex on the first date isn't worthy of respect or isn't dating material. WTF?

AlethiaSi · #13 05-24-2004, 11:43 PM

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Originally posted by James
They have been listening to "female" propaganda for too long. ITs women that say that women that put out on the first date are whores.

yup you got it jamesy baby

from a girls perspective- it depends on the guy and the situation if he doesn't call... well that sucks- but it was fun while it lasted- if he does- thats cool too- i know i'm taking a risk- i'm too experienced to let things like that bother me anymore and i don't think that its love either i'm too old for that line lol

valkyrie · #14 05-24-2004, 11:43 PM

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Originally posted by James
They have been listening to "female" propaganda for too long. ITs women that say that women that put out on the first date are whores.

LOL, no women I know talk like that. It's sad that some women feel the need to judge others like that.

sageofages · #15 05-25-2004, 10:08 AM

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Originally posted by KillarneyRose
I don't have a problem with it just so long as both parties have the same expectations.

I pretty much attacked Mr. KR on our first date. LOL, I guess that's definitely TMI....

I sure hope my kids never read this

That was pretty much the story with Mr. Sageofages. We had a date and I never went home....! Lots of years and 5 kids later, we say we are still on that *great* date