Bound to be dogged by an Omega Man

[Love_Spell_6]

Now I know the title sounds very stereotypical of the bruz..and let me first say that I do love the bruz...not because I'm supposed to (coleman love) but because they epitomize manhood..and every other quality other frats try to copy...i mean just ask women in other Sororities ...HOWEVER the story this young lady writes..although is riddled with hurt feelings is more common than I'd like to admit...I went to the bruz DC boatride last year and I'll just say this behavior was a little too common..

So for discussion..is this article just too stereotypical? Do the bruz just get a bad wrap...or is a degree of negative publicity deserved because of their conduct..or is this just MEN??

I actually thought this article was extremely immature..but apparently Black Voices doesn't agree...

Full article here:
http://new.blackvoices.com/news/colu...news-columnist

We Got Issues
If You Mess With an Omega Man, You're Bound to get 'Dawged'
By Tracy Mack
We Got Issues

October 28 2003

Do Q-Dawgs ever become Omega men?

After going on a boat cruise recently [June] with these brothers, my two girlfriends and I would say *&#@! No!

At the urging of a co-worker who is a member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, we decided to get up off the $40 and cruise the Lake Michigan with the brothers.

"Where else can you meet a bunch of college-educated black men in one place?" was my co-worker's pitch when he was trying to sell us the tickets. "Many of the bros are single and looking for nice women like you ladies, just don't dress or act like hoochies. Hey, I met my wife on one of our boat rides."

My co-worker didn't tell us that we'd meet other women's husbands on the boat.

But he was right, the cruise sold out. Hundreds of folks acting on CP time were left at the dock. This was the place to be, that is until the Dawgs started barking. I'm taking a guess here, but more than two-thirds of the brothers on the boat were married. The other one-third were either seriously dating, messing around or trying to get a piece. This was no place for serious, single females; although Freaknikers would have been delighted.

Imagine the heartbreak one of my girlfriends felt when the "Omega man," for whom she had gotten all dressed up to surprise, showed up on the boat with his fiancé! I guess all those lunches they had together helped him develop a taste for settling down.

My other friend also got Dawged. She and her "Omega man" had attended a glitzy shindig earlier in the evening and were set to get on the boat ride together. Minutes away from the gate, he decided he was too tired to get on the boat. He said he was going home to sleep. She called him several times. She spoke to him once or twice. Everything would have been cool if the brothers hadn't announced that the after party was at her friend's house. I guess it's easier to sleep with a hundred brothers barking in your living room. But my girl kept her cool all night on the boat. She talked a little, danced a little, exchanged numbers with another brother, who called her the next day. That's when he sprung the news. He was married.

I never intended to meet anyone special. I'd planned to go with the flow; dance, laugh, have a good time, and exchange numbers with one brother. Tales of Frat Rats from college always kept me from mingling with too many fraternity brothers.

I met a guy. We talked for a while. He was arrogant. I expected that. He said he wasn't married and "Why would he waste his time talking to me if he was only out to get some?" There were plenty of women who required less work. Good point. We exchanged numbers. He called me two days later. After my friends' experiences, I thought I'd ask: "Are you involved with someone?".... Due to GC regulations please follow link above to view entire article..

[ladygreek]

Um, I may be wrong but I think the regulation has more to do with copyright issues than the length of the article. It is my understanding (not from GC) but from my work that you can post a summary and then a link. But I think you posted more than a summary.

Oh and by the way, to comment on the article--I don't think the Bruhs have an exclusive on this kind of behavior.

[preachdawg]

Article does not reflect Omega as an Organization as much as it does the state of mind of the men on this planet. "Sinners do what sinners are supposed to, sin". Everybody needs Jesus period.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by ladygreek

Oh and by the way, to comment on the article--I don't think the Bruhs have an exclusive on this kind of behavior.

Mama, you ain't neva lied.

All men, Greek or not, Black or not, rich or not, CUTE or not, have it in them to dog a woman.

[AXEAM]

It's a shame that she feels the need to put the whole org on blast b/c of her bad experience.....which by the way speaks volumes about her level of maturity. She went on a QUE boatride of course there's going to be some rowdy behavior by SOME bruhs, but to lay claim that the actions of a few represents the whole is asinine. She needs to growup and next time go to another org's function which I'm sure she will see the same behavior displayed by a few of their members.

[sphinxpoet]

This young lady is a little bitter. You cannot judge a people by the actions of indviduals. But if she chooses not to involve herself with that chapter's activities again that is her choice.

[taylaur_2000]

I guess everyone has a different opinion. I was on that boatride also and I had a ball. Bruhs will be bruhs, but all in all it was a great time. I met a lot of people and as a matter of fact I met my boyfriend on that very same cruise. When I go to greek functions, I go to have fun and hang out with friends old and new, maybe if the attitude was to have a good time instead of find a man maybe it would have been better.

[Love_Spell_6]

Originally posted by taylaur_2000
I guess everyone has a different opinion. I was on that boatride also and I had a ball. Bruhs will be bruhs, but all in all it was a great time. I met a lot of people and as a matter of fact I met my boyfriend on that very same cruise. When I go to greek functions, I go to have fun and hang out with friends old and new, maybe if the attitude was to have a good time instead of find a man maybe it would have been better.

Yes you are right! I just think its absurd that this woman would go through these lengths (write an article on Black Voices) just to put the bruz out there like that...I always have fun with the bruz...but if you're expecting a nice classical slow evening when you go on a boat ride with the bruz...you're mistaken... The bruz are out to have fun...and BE OWTT and if you can't handle that...you should party with another org.

[the411]

I believe men (and yes, women too) only go as far as we let them. Unfortunately, with the chronic shortage of GOOD black men and the high demand for black men by women of many races, a lot of brothers can have their pick of the litter. There are some women who will do anything, go through anything, and put up with anything for the sake of having a man around. Some sistas could careless whether a guy is married or involved and some women actually prefer it!

Men who frequently come across these "anything" types of women might get a little spoiled, making it difficult for the GOOD sistas to be valued and appreciated when we stick to our high standards (yet more times than not, men only choose the women who do). Ultimately, I believe the onus is on us to teach men how to treat us. We should set a respectable standard and refuse to lower it, no matter how lonely we are on a Friday night.

Not to criticize the sista who wrote the article, but I'm inclined to wonder why she felt compelled to be this dude's friend after he admitted to being involved with her and outlined his caveman views about relationships. By saying, "we can still be friends" she basically told him that she was just as okay with disrespecting his girl as he was. She taught him to treat her as though she lacked worth and respect. After all, how honorable is any secret friendship? In any good, promising relatonship, the opposite sex friends of one partner become the friends of the other. Sex alone does not constitute an affair, but rather it's the emotional bond coupled with the fact that one person in the tryst does not know about another. In this case, the woman with whom he was involved (and I do believe it was his wife) didn't know about her. No self-respecting, self-loving woman would ever tolerate or accept being a secret. She dreams of being a wife not a secret. When a guy says "I'm involved," the conversation is over. Men only respect women who respect themselves and demand respect from others. PERIOD.

I agree with those of you who say that this is not a problem specific to any one group of men. Bruz, I'm sorry you got singled out. I know all of you aren't dawgs-- just a few (sorry, I have to call a spade a spade). I also know that, we women aren't all innocent either. Everywhere we go, we'll find bad men and women who mess it up for the good ones. That being said, we must continue to set high standards for ourselves and only focus our time and energy on those who have (and stick to) high standards of their own. I suggest we all seek God when it comes to relationships. I think men are to be led to the right woman while women are to be found by (not look for) the right man (He who finds a wife finds a good thing. -- Proverbs 18:22). This thinking has changed my whole attitude about men, dating, and relationships. All the GOOD men (including Omegas) that I know have all chosen wives that they pursued rather than women who pursued them. It sounds to me like the writer and her friends went on the boat ride looking for a man instead of just enjoying an elegant evening. But what do I know, right?

[Love_Spell_6]

Originally posted by the411
I think men are to be led to the right woman while women are to be found by (not look for) the right man (He who finds a wife finds a good thing. -- Proverbs 18:22).

Preach sista!!