Hypothetical question?

[Alias_01]

Ok this question is only meant for fun so if I offend I apologize in advance. :-)


OK lets say that when you are in high school or an old neighborhood and you did not get along with a certain girl or group of girls and that feeling stayed until you where no longer in that area, like you went to college or moved. If years later you meet again and come to find out that you two are sorority sisters..how would u react? Would you show her love despite past beef. I know women who hold grudges forever..what about you?

Peace and Love

p.s. I know this sounds like the plot to an episode of a sitcom..but I've heard of this happening.

And I did search first but didn't find anything. :-)

[DirectorDST99]

You're right, this sort of thing can happen and if it does, both parties should act accordingly because they should have grown in all aspects or most aspects of life.

Sorority sisters, just like blood sisters, should love each other despite past problems. And, because they share a commonality, it should make the reunion so much more meaningful.

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"Director" #2
LaMarque Alumnae Chapter
Spr 99

[mccoyred]

I agree Soror Director. I think we can take it a step further and say that the women can realize that maybe they had soemthing in common all along. They could use the fact that they are sorors to build a bridge to transcend the past.

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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

[korkscru]

I believe that most of us have encountered this scenerio atleast ONCE in our life. I feel that things like this are sooooo trivial and childish. When you're a child or teen-ager, you do childish things. I feel that childhood rivalries should be put to rest. When you're an adult, you're supposed to see the world with different eyes. My childhood rivalry and I speak now and even carry on conversations (although we are not best friends or even buddies). We both have children and they are the same age. Nine times out of ten, we FORGET why they are our rivals in the first place. I just don't think that things like that should even matter. Remember once you are an ADULT you should put away CHILDISH things.

[ChaosDST]

Good hypothetical. This actually happens A LOT...especially when you're dealing with the largest women's organization in the world,DST.
Unfortunately, not every member of your respective sorority is your SOROR...but it is still our responsiblity to not mistreat one another, show respect, and to be sisterly. Greet that individual as you would a SOROR, until she proves otherwise. You don't have to be friends or create a long-lasting relationship.
You may also find that as you get older, past problems that you had with individuals appear unfounded or just plain ridiculous, too.

[Crimson Diva]

I think the best way to approach the situation would be make a neutral statement such as "Who would have ever thought that we would be in the same Sorority. I guess we do have something in common" A hug would do because you are sisters now. Be cordial and try to focus on what you now have in common

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Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.
"Intelligence Is The Torch Of Wisdom"

Omicron Tau
Spring 2000

Being that I have blood relatives and people from my elementary school days that I still hold grudges with...hmmmm...

I think that I would be courteous, but like ChaosDST said, treat them as a Soror until otherwise. I'm just the type of person who always has her guard up.

I just remember a saying I was told as a neo, "Not every friend is your soror and not every soror is your friend." Hate to sound harsh, but I'm just keeping it real....



[This message has been edited by c&c1913 (edited June 14, 2001).]

[ChaosDST]

Originally posted by c&c1913:
I just remember a saying I was told as a neo, "Not every friend is your soror and not every soror is your friend." Hate to sound harsh, but I'm just keeping it real....
[This message has been edited by c&c1913(edited June 14, 2001).]

hmmm...(un)fortunately soror, looks like someone gave you some good advice.

[IotaNet]

Let me flip the script ...

Quite a few years ago (when I was but a callow youth), I went on a road trip to <ahem> visit some pledgees we had on line at another school in the state. When I saw the line, lo and behold ... there was an old buddy of mine "from the neighborhood" on line!

He was giving me that look like "could you cut me some slack - for old times sake?" I wasn't having it - and he was MOST salty with me! (Well, as salty as a pledgee could be.)

Needless to say, the next time I saw him, he was frat and all was forgiven .. but it was a pretty funny moment!

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IotaNet
Iota Phi Theta Fraternity, Inc.
Alpha Eta Chapter, Spring, 1980

Kappa Kappa Psi Honorary Band Fraternity
Zeta Nu Chapter, Spring, 1979

[BeeJae]

I beg to differ.... If you are a Delta, every woman who has taken an oath to be a Delta IS your SOROR.... whether you personally care for her or not...

That's one reason why many Deltas frown on members of fraternities (or other sororities) calling them "Soror"... because they are not Deltas.

Originally posted by ChaosDST:

Unfortunately, not every member of your respective sorority is your SOROR...

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Bee Jae
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