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Old 02-02-2004, 02:26 AM
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Greek Dating - help!

What am I supposed to do ???

So I'm dating a sorority girl. Something I've meant to do for a long time. We have a lot more in common because we're both in the greek community.

But she's got to be the worst girlfriend ever. I buy a card every month for our anniversaries, even got flowers last time; she doesn't ever get me anything. I always try to schedule cool dates, but all I hear is "maybe" and then she's always too busy. She didn't even invite me to her sorority formal.
Everyone keeps telling me that I should just leave her.


but here's the rub. how can I do so and not come out looking like an asshole in front of her sisters?

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Old 02-02-2004, 02:46 AM
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Honestly there's not much you can do... her sisters will probably see you as a "bad guy" for a little while no matter what... but as long as your honest and not shady.. (like breaking up with her on a post it or voice/email) she and her sisters will get over it alot easier... good luck doesn't sound to me like she's the type of woman that give us a bad name anyway... not worth having around really....
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Old 02-02-2004, 03:10 AM
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Well let me put it another way:

How can you maintain any semblance of self respect or pride if you continue to be a ball-less fool and stay with her?

Grow a pair and end it. Preferably yesterday.

Dude, she doesn't like you all that much.

Let me make it easy for you. Here is the acid test of a relationship: The more they like you, the more they want to make time to be with you. Its a direct realtionship between that: Time versus like.

And who cares if her Sisters don't like you? What are you a bitch? Gay? A wannabee hair dresser?

Seriously, grow some balls and get a better GF. She better at least be one hot-girl for you to justify making an ass out of yourself like this.

The only reason you would stay is that you lack self esteem and are afraid you wouldn't find someone else. In that case just shoot yourself and save yourself the problem. . ..

So in case you didn't get the message. She doesn't like you very much. You are acting pathetic. End it.

And, don't break up with her. Jusat stop calling. Because you don't have a relationship anyway.

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Old 02-02-2004, 05:11 AM
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James I think you are my new best friend. hehe!
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Old 02-02-2004, 11:33 AM
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Honestly there's not much you can do... her sisters will probably see you as a "bad guy" for a little while no matter what... but as long as your honest and not shady.. (like breaking up with her on a post it or voice/email) she and her sisters will get over it alot easier... good luck doesn't sound to me like she's the type of woman that give us a bad name anyway... not worth having around really....

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Old 02-02-2004, 11:47 AM
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I'm going to have to agree with James on this one.

This girl is playing you for a fool, and you need to leave her a$$ right now.
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Old 02-02-2004, 12:03 PM
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I'd have to agree with James too......
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Old 02-02-2004, 12:10 PM
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as the coach from the movie saving silverman would say, "kill her!"

but i would have to say in her defense that it does get a little tiring when you do the monthly anniversary thing.

and who knows maybe she is waiting for you to break up with her so she doesn't come out looking bad in front of your brothers.
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Old 02-02-2004, 12:13 PM
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Another agreement with James. She just doesn't have the balls to tell you it is over and is trying to make you break up with her so she doesn't have to do it. Do the both of you a favor and end things.

oh, and as far as looking like an a-hole in front of her sisters, better to look like an a-hole with a pair than someone who lets himself get walked on.
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Old 02-02-2004, 07:58 PM
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Honestly there's not much you can do... her sisters will probably see you as a "bad guy" for a little while no matter what... but as long as your honest and not shady.. (like breaking up with her on a post it or voice/email) she and her sisters will get over it alot easier... good luck doesn't sound to me like she's the type of woman that give us a bad name anyway... not worth having around really....
Yeah... I was trying to be a little more eloquent/nice.. about it than James.. but I have to agree with him... to use another Sex and the City quote... "she's just not that into you"... but you shouldn't EVER just stop calling... if you really want to take James' advice... and grow some balls... I still maintain break it off face to face.
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Old 02-02-2004, 08:23 PM
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Re: Greek Dating - help!

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So I'm dating a sorority girl. Something I've meant to do for a long time.

I always try to schedule cool dates, but all I hear is "maybe" and then she's always too busy. She didn't even invite me to her sorority formal.
Are you sure you two are dating?

Doesn't sound like it to me.

And what do you mean by "something I've meant to do for a long time"?

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Old 02-03-2004, 12:03 AM
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Re: Re: Greek Dating - help!

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And what do you mean by "something I've meant to do for a long time"?
Yeah...it kinda sounds like you're just dating her because she's a "sorority chick!"
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Old 02-03-2004, 02:59 PM
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you know what you should do? hit her in the neck repeatedly until she passes out and then take a dump on her chest. No one will believe that break up story and they will just assume she is crazy. If you ask me, it is the only way to go.

or

you could always just give her a taste of her own medicine and make her look like a fool in front of your brothers.

see you have options
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Old 02-03-2004, 04:11 PM
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That would be funny actually . . . and no one would believe it.

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you know what you should do? hit her in the neck repeatedly until she passes out and then take a dump on her chest. No one will believe that break up story and they will just assume she is crazy. If you ask me, it is the only way to go.

or

you could always just give her a taste of her own medicine and make her look like a fool in front of your brothers.

see you have options
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Old 02-03-2004, 04:40 PM
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anybody else think it's weird that he's doing the "monthly anniversary" thing?

I mean I'd dump him just for being a seventh grader.
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