Assuming you would date the handicapped, how would you break up with them?

James · #1 01-30-2004, 11:10 PM

Ok. Question number one.

Would you date someone that has a physical handicap such as being blind or mising an arm or something?

Or would you automatically disqualify them as a potential partner?

I mean some of you wouldn't date anyone more than four years older/younger.

Second harder question. You are dating someone blind or missing an arm or whatever.

How do you break up with them?

Is there any good way to do it?

Think how neurotic people are, the person is going to think you are breaking up with them because of their handicap and be completely devestated.

And lets admit the truth. It would probably be because of their handicap it didn't work anyway . . wouldn't it?

Could you stay indefinitely because you were afraid of devestating them?

Asnwer who dares . . . but seriously, role play it out. It could happen and you would want to be prepared.

Rudey · #2 01-30-2004, 11:17 PM

If it was because of the handicap I wouldn't have gotten into the situation to start with. And if I was stupid enough to have gotten into it and lied to myself, then I'd lie again and come out of it doing whatever I could to make her feel better. Not because she's handicapped - but because that's just what I'd do.

-Rudey
--And then I'd probably brag about banging a quadrapalegic to all my friends.

rainbowbrightCS · #3 01-30-2004, 11:18 PM

I would date some one disablabled (an I have). I understand people don't, it comes with baggage and possible illness (which may be genetic).

I would break up with them like I normal would. Kindly. These people are not stupid they are just not 100% normal (what society considers normal anyway)

I would rather date a guy in wheel chair that is smart and sweet than a a** that can walk.

But then agian my father is in a wheel chair and my mother has degenerative bone disease and partialy disabled (polio)

Christia

Peaches-n-Cream · #4 01-30-2004, 11:49 PM

My cousin is disabled, and he had to dump his able-bodied girlfriend. It was pure drama. They were living together. She wouldn't 'let' him dump her so she moved the phone and the computer out of his reach. He is in a wheelchair. It took a few weeks, but his immediate family realized something was wrong and got him out. She was a total psycho.

If I dated a guy who was disabled, I would just break up with him the same way as I break up with any guy.

Dionysus · #5 01-31-2004, 12:09 AM

I would date a guy w/ a missing limb (or an extra one), but I don't think I would date a guy in a wheel-chair, deaf, or blind. It's not that I would have a problem with that alone, but I would feel like I had an extra responsibility to accomodate them. I don't like responsibility.

There was a girl in highschool who would always date guys in wheelchairs. Does anyone else find that strange? I think it was a control issue.

AOcutiePi4ever · #6 02-04-2004, 03:04 AM

"Think how neurotic people are, the person is going to think you are breaking up with them because of their handicap and be completely devestated."

james, you are just never going to learn.

BabyP · #7 02-06-2004, 06:12 AM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
I would date a guy w/ a missing limb (or an extra one), but I don't think I would date a guy in a wheel-chair, deaf, or blind. It's not that I would have a problem with that alone, but I would feel like I had an extra responsibility to accomodate them. I don't like responsibility.

There was a girl in highschool who would always date guys in wheelchairs. Does anyone else find that strange? I think it was a control issue.

Thanks!! you wouldnt date someone deaf

lol......... there are deaf that can take care of themselves. I have met hearing people that were LOSERS........ they dont do shit....sorry but they dont....
so if you meet the right deaf people WOW.......I have met several successful deaf people making good money and have phd degrees. but I understand what you mean.....but thnk about the benefits, you could make as much noise as you like and if you snore it is not an issue

Optimist Prime · #8 02-08-2004, 08:10 PM

I know the way not to break up with a blind person. Don't leave them a note. Unless its in brail.

Optimist Prime · #9 02-08-2004, 08:13 PM

I'd actully just break up like I normally do. Tell them its not working out, and that its not me, its them. It's their fault, and they shouldn't have been born. I'll make them feel so bad they will forget they are even in a wheelchair/blind/ or whatever.

James · #10 02-08-2004, 11:49 PM

Thats funny. That is always the besy way to breakup with a girl, blame it on them.

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Originally posted by Optimist Prime
I'd actully just break up like I normally do. Tell them its not working out, and that its not me, its them. It's their fault, and they shouldn't have been born. I'll make them feel so bad they will forget they are even in a wheelchair/blind/ or whatever.

sororitygirl2 · #11 02-10-2004, 03:24 PM

Okay, I'll voice in on this one...

While I have never dated a handicapped person, I do have a friend who did (he was in a wheelchair) and she eventually had to break up with him because he wasn't giving her enough attention and meeting her needs. And the truth is, it went over fine. Sometimes relationships end, either for reasons in or out of your control, and he took it as well as any guy getting dumped by his devastatingly gorgeous girlfriend would. He never attributed it to his handicap. How could he? She had dated him for a year, and I think if someone is going to dump you for your handicap, they would do it sooner.

I think you are looking at it the wrong way, James. You seem to be looking at it as if all handicapped people lead miserable, lonely, unfullfilling lives and that they are all self-conscious and ashamed of their handicaps, that they blame their condition for everything that goes wrong. Now, for sure there are handicapped people like that out there. But there are also able-bodied folks who blame their weight, social standing, whatever for their problems.

Many of the handicapped people I have known of have been extremely active, confident and happy. They go to college and get bachelors and masters degrees, hold full-time jobs, ski, swim, play rugby and basketball, are college cheerleader/dance team members, join sororities and fraternities, drink, party and have fun. Basically, they don't see themselves any differently than anyone else, and they act just like able-bodied people. These are the type of handicapped people I would be willing to date... because it's not a handicap that would keep me away, it is self-pity.

That being said, I would definitely be willing to date a handicapped person, but since I've never tried it, I don't know if I have what it would take to sustain a long-term relationship with one, depending on what the handicap is. It would be hard to never hear that you are beautiful if your boyfriend is blind, or to have to deal with trying to be intimate if he is paralyzed (I've hear about that one), or whatever comes with it. So, yeah, I'd try it... but no promises.

Oh, and the breaking up part, you just tell them the truth. That's how all breaups should be!