Living At Home After A Certain Age

Taualumna · #1 01-27-2004, 01:10 AM

I know a guy in his early 30s who had moved back home. He is currently living in his parents' basement, but has his own entrance and a kitchen. Is this a good idea? How old do you think is too old to be living at home? Do you think it's more difficult for grown children of some cultures to be independent because they're expected to live at home until they marry? I certainly don't intend to be living with my parents when I'm 40.

Hootie · #2 01-27-2004, 01:18 AM

I can't imagine living with my parent's again! I've been away for almost 3 years now and moved back and forth over the last 5 years. Since my youngest two siblings still live at home, it wouldn't feel too weird if I were to move back home. However if I were to move back after they went away to school, I'd feel pretty pathetic!

The only situation I'd feel okay about doing that is if one of my parents died and the other needed help, or if I was stricken ill or divorced and needed some time to heal and get emotional support.

Jill1228 · #3 01-27-2004, 01:19 AM

If it is totally separate AND he pays his way...maybe!
I was pretty old when I left home for good (4 days after my 25th bday) 1/1/92. TRUST ME, I was wanting to leave LONG before that! Before that I was in college and came home during holidays. Other than that I was working and saving money to move out. My mother was upset that I moved out. Uhhhh hello?!

Puh-leeze....

I do not want to be like my sister will be 40 in September and still living at home (she has never lived on her own)

And if you choose to live at home, don't bitch about your parents rules! And don't call me to bitch about them. Ya know what ya need to do!

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Originally posted by Taualumna
I know a guy in his early 30s who had moved back home. He is currently living in his parents' basement, but has his own entrance and a kitchen. Is this a good idea? How old do you think is too old to be living at home? Do you think it's more difficult for grown children of some cultures to be independent because they're expected to live at home until they marry? I certainly don't intend to be living with my parents when I'm 40.

Dionysus · #4 01-27-2004, 01:24 AM

I see no problem with people living with their folks up until their mid 20s. In some cultures it is the norm. I think it is impractical to move out too early. Since my campus is a commuter one, it is not unsual for someone to still live at home in their late teens to mid 20s.

mullet81 · #5 01-27-2004, 01:25 AM

i'm moving back home after i graduate and start my masters program. The school i'll be attending is just miles from my house - and since i'll be taking classes and only working part time, it just makes sense for me to live at home and save money.

as soon as i have a real job and i can support myself, i will move out. I don't think i could be 30 and still living at home.

thats why i laugh at 7th heaven - lucy and her husband have an apartament above the garage? seriously - that would still be wierd.

Dionysus · #6 01-27-2004, 01:27 AM

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Originally posted by mullet81
The school i'll be attending is just miles from my house - and since i'll be taking classes and only working part time, it just makes sense for me to live at home and save money.

as soon as i have a real job and i can support myself, i will move out. I don't think i could be 30 and still living at home.

Exactly.

#7 01-27-2004, 01:28 AM

I moved back home after I graduated last Spring. I was paying $850 a month for my one bedroom apartment in town. That's a lot, I know -- but that's the avg month's rent for a one bedroom in Hawaii (where cost of living is ridiculous).

I don't expect on staying here forever, but many people choose to live at home with their families even when they've started families of their own. To some it's a cultural thing, and that's why we have a lot of extended family homes being built here.

MTSUGURL · #8 01-27-2004, 02:03 AM

I'm 26, I live alone with a cat, don't have a boyfriend, and let me tell you how much I would love to live with my parents.

1. Homecooked meals.
2. Living with a housefull of people who love me.
3. Not having to pay to do laundry.
4. Cable. Internet. Water. Electric. Phone. All paid. Not by me.

When I was 21-23, I lived at home, and paid rent. Much rather live at home than on my own. However I can live on my own and am self sufficient.

#9 01-27-2004, 02:33 AM

I must of lived a sheltered life because i lived at home til i got married....minus the few yrs i was away at college..... but i moved out at 28/29 when i got married and now i am divorced and i live in my OWN brand spanking new home with my lil roommate.... my 4 yr old son and our barney the dog

kappaloo · #10 01-27-2004, 02:36 AM

It's really depends on your life experience how you view it...

I grew up being told that once you can be self-sufficient, you move out. I moved away to University at 19, and have lived with my boyfriend since i was 2001. To move back now would be very weird...

However, my parents and I did talk about me moving in if I were to go to grad school in my home town- but that's the only case.

CatStarESP4 · #11 01-27-2004, 02:38 AM

I was 25 when I dropped out of graduate school and moved back to my parents place. I tried to get a job that would pay me enough to support myself and get my own place. That was not to be. I had a job that I lasted two weeks at, several brief temp assignments and a long term temp job. I am 31 now and still live with my parents. I don't have a job nor go to school (not at the moment). I hope this changes and I could move out of their place for good (I'll visit them once in a while).

James · #12 01-27-2004, 02:41 AM

Oh my are there some sheltered people on this site lol . . .

You should definitely be homeless and on the street rather than live at home if you don't have the funds to be self sufficient.

Anyway, its primarily an economic decision for most people i think . . . if you think they live at home cause they are emotionally retarded thats a different issue.

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Originally posted by Taualumna
I know a guy in his early 30s who had moved back home. He is currently living in his parents' basement, but has his own entrance and a kitchen. Is this a good idea? How old do you think is too old to be living at home? Do you think it's more difficult for grown children of some cultures to be independent because they're expected to live at home until they marry? I certainly don't intend to be living with my parents when I'm 40.

DigitalAngel126 · #13 01-27-2004, 02:43 AM

I don't think there is a "Certain Age" at which someone needs to get the heck out, excluding certain situations, but sometimes it gets ridiculous....A co-worker of mine was talking about a guy she used to date and about how she lived at home when she dated him.... I asked her how long ago she moved out of her parents... 4 years ago. She's 46.

Jill1228 · #14 01-27-2004, 02:54 AM

I am not knocking living at home with the parents...my sister has NEVER lived out on her own. To me that is weird. (she will be 40 in September).

One of the reasons I moved out is because my mom wanted us to hang onto the Apron strings. Besides, I only can handle her in small doses!

Oh yeah...now that I have a place I can have a cat and she can't say Jack! (my mom is the ANTI Cat)

polarpi · #15 01-27-2004, 02:56 AM

I moved back into my parents' house after I graduated college because I had just gone through a very emotional-ridden semester and needed time to get back on my feet and be the person I had been before that semester. I am still living at home at the moment, and I'll most likely stay here until I am able to support myself through work. Living in So Cal is not cheap and there are benefits of me living at home since I'm still making adjustments after surgery at the end of June last year.

I'd be a little weirded out if someone I was dating or interested in was still living at home and being taken care of like he was still under the age of 18, but for some it's a necessary step that must be taken. (Actually, my mom graduated from high school with someone thirty years ago who still lives at home with his parents!!!)