Non greek SO's

[bigdu]

Hey do any greek chatters with non greek signifcant others have a problem intergrating them into your social circle?

[aephi alum]

It was never much of a problem for me.

I met my non-greek husband at the end of my junior year. I just dragged him along to all of my sorority's date parties and formals during senior year.

He was a little bothered by two things - rush and mixers. I just explained to him that I had to disappear, and that (in the case of mixers) no I wasn't going to hook up I'm not sure that he understood, but he accepted it.

[SuperSister]

I'm in Tau Beta Sigma but not a social GLO. My bf of almost 4 years is a Phi Sigma Kappa and there have been no issues with either of us being included in each other's social circles. His brothers have been wonderful and welcoming to me . . . when I was at school I hung out with them almost as often as I did my 'own circle'. I've moved out of state now but I talk to him on the phone every evening. Most times when we talk there's someone asking how I'm doing and when I'm coming to visit. When I was at school if for some reason I wasn't at the house for an open function or a night that there were a lot of people hanging out I was inevitably called and told to come over. So to answer your question, no problems what-so-ever!

[ADPiSAI]

not at all!
my sisters absolutely adore my boyfriend and always make him feel very welcome here. he's always included in everything when he comes to visit, and he fits right in with my group.
he's in the army, and the way he is with his company is like the way i am with my sisters. I get along really well with all of his friends too.

[Kevin]

No problem -- in fact, probably easier.

If you date within the Greek system, as you know, your organization takes up a great deal of your time. If you date within the system, you're constanly having to synchronize calendars, etc.

From the standpoint of "integrating" into your social circle, once past the initial GLO stereotypes, it's a smoother ride.

[AchtungBaby80]

As an active I always dated non-Greek men, and it never really caused a big problem. Sure, most of the time they didn't understand why I was so excited about stuff they knew nothing about, but I never got any complaints and that was the main thing. Some of them balked at going to date parties and formals, though...one, in particular, just couldn't understand how important it was for me to go to those things. But I'm glad I never dated anyone who turned out to be strongly against Greek life.

[Xylochick216]

My non-Greek fiance was always a little wary of mixers and date parties and stuff because he goes to a school 2 hours from mine and doesn't get to come down for things like that. But he hangs out with some of my sisters when he comes down for the weekend and at formals and semiformals. He knows how special everyone is to me; he even had them all in on our engagement and got them to help

[Cardinal026]

As supportive as my boyfriend tries to be about me being in a sorority, he'd rather not have to meet anyone or go to anything. He's a pretty shy guy to begin with, and it's just so completely not his scene. Luckily, he's the boy that will say "Go out, and have a great time" rather than try to make me stay home with him, even if it means taking a guy friend as a date. As much as I'd rather he be with me...I'm grateful he's cool about not giving me crap about going out without him.