I need some sisterly support (again!!)

DeltaUpsilon97 · #1 10-13-2003, 09:39 AM

Hi ladies,

I just wanted to write some things out. I'm having a really rough time of it right now, and it would help to know that I have some sisters out there that can send me some support!

My boyfriend of 2 years and I have broken up -- this time for good he says. I just really don't understand it, I'm so heartbroken and stressed out right now, that my job, my health and my life in general is really suffering.

I know that you all don't 'know me', but I really could use some support right now, because I really don't know what to do with myself at all.

LITP
Amanda

MooseGirl · #2 10-13-2003, 12:09 PM

Hang in there girl!!

I know what it's like - the 2 yr breakup!, it's happened to me twice, and i've only ever had 3 boyfriends!

It's tough, but you're strong and although it may not be what you want right now, in the long run you'll see it's for the best. Without the relationship worries you'll be able to focus on your health and the rest of your life.

I think you need a road trip up to canada

SapphireSphinx9 · #3 10-13-2003, 10:12 PM

All I gotta say is what the hell is his problem??? Breaking up with a PHI SIG?????!!!!!!! AH UH

He's gonna be sorry he did that, you're the BEST thing that EVER happened and WILL EVER happen to him!

Best thing my momma ever taught me... "Men are shit!"

Sweetie, don't worry! I know it's hard to deal with right now, but you are gonna pull through, and you've got us here to help you!

LITP!

~Beth

pirepresent · #4 10-13-2003, 10:14 PM

Oh Amanda.... I'm so sorry!!!! (((hugs))))

Hang in there and have faith that if he isn't feeling it anymore, then it isn't right for you! There is someone out there who is 100% perfect for you, I know it.

I have been EXACTLY where you are (believe me), and you have to trust me when I say... learn from this experience, remember what worked and more importantly, what DIDNT work for you two, and use it to define your next relationships... everything is a learning experience. You are still learning and growing, and Mr. Right (aka Mr. DeltaUpsilon97) will come along before you know it.

Stay strong, and don't worry! All your sisters are here supporting you!!

LITP
Kristen

DeltaUpsilon97 · #5 10-14-2003, 09:15 AM

Hey all,

Thanks so much for the support. It's been really difficult and it continues to be difficult. I know rationally in my head that things happen for a reason, that things will turn out in the end, but right now it just doesn't seem possible.

The thing that is really bothering me is I don't even know what it was that I did wrong--other than he says I don't make him feel important, I don't respect him, and I don't treat him the way he should be treated.

I just really don't get it at all, and I'm not getting any answers either.

Thanks again everyone for all the support--it really means alot!

LITP
Amanda

White_Chocolate · #6 10-14-2003, 09:38 AM

Sometimes you don't need to do anything wrong
SOmetimes people just grow apart
And it's better now than to have married the guy, been with him, had his children, and him leave you

See, things could always be worse

Just remember to hold your head high
It's not the end of the world
Just the closing of another chapter in your life

phisigduchesscv · #7 10-15-2003, 02:28 AM

OH Amanda,

I have so been there and understand how you're feeling. I'm sending you Hugs, prayers, and lots of positive thoughts that you're going to get through this.

My suggestions to you - Cry, Scream, punch a pillow that is resting on a bed (so you don't break your hand) and cry some more. The crying will really help and has the added benefit of draining you so much that you may be able to sleep.

Then call your friends/sisters and ask them to help keep you busy and depending on how you feel - tell them not to say anything bad about the guy. That no matter what you did love him and had to have had good times to have stayed with him for two years.

Most of all remember there isn't anything you did - for whatever reason you two grew apart - his reasons just made it easier to justify to himself and you why he's breaking up.

Then cry some more and know that there are lots of sisters out here keeping you in their thoughts and wishing they could be there for you physically.

Carolyn

p.s. I know this doesn't help know but all my friends that had "bad" break up the next guy they started dating they married

MareImbrium · #8 01-07-2004, 02:00 AM

Oh dear. Sigh. And men say women are fickle. Ugh. Hang in there. One of my sisters once said "Men are like a box of tissue. After you pull one out, there's always another behind it." LOL. My trick was to stay busy and just go out and do all the things I didn't get a chance to do while I was with a significant other. I got back in touch with old friends, spent lots of "me" time and totally treated myself out. Your ex doesn't know what he's missing out on.

OrchidBelle · #9 01-07-2004, 04:19 AM

I know there's nothing I can do to make it stop hurting...

I can offer you an ear and a hug.

People change...it's a part of growing and stuff. But typically, males just don't make any freakin' sense...and they swear that women are the complex and difficult gender.

one of the quotes that is always in my head is that when you love something it's accepting that it can be lost. I know that's not comforting, i'm sorry. I'm one to listen, not one to sugar coat things.

If you need to talk or vent or anything, let me know. I'm generally all the time doing research for the newspaper, and i'm in Michigan...take care though. Okay...

Anything for a sista' gurly...

LITP