Speakin' of tips...

[The Original Ape]

How would you intelligent sistas like to be approached by a brotha? Give Yall's bruhs some tips on how to use our mouthpieces!

[nikki25]

What a clever way to introduce your topic, Original.

I always appreciate someone who can approach me comfortably and with sincerity. He just needs to be himself, and if I'm interested, I'll let him know. If he happens to be an excellent conversationalist, knows Christ, and is captivating...he'll probably keep my attention for sure.


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I will bless the Lord at ALL times His praise shall continually be in my mouth. (Psalms 34:1, KJV)

[Ideal08]

I think it's cool to be approached by a dude and he doesn't act like he's trying to get on. Just cool, friendly conversation. Just be yourself. I think it's when dude's are tryin' to throw game and drop lines that they sometimes look and sound nervous and stupid or whatever, too much pressure. We like sincerity. We like to laugh. No pressure in that.

[pointNclick]

A confident look, a beautiful smile, and a simple "hello" while looking me right in the eyes. It gets me everytime...

[ZChi4Life]

Originally posted by Ideal08:
I think it's cool to be approached by a dude and he doesn't act like he's trying to get on. Just cool, friendly conversation. Just be yourself. I think it's when dude's are tryin' to throw game and drop lines that they sometimes look and sound nervous and stupid or whatever, too much pressure. We like sincerity. We like to laugh. No pressure in that.

Ditto!

[SweetestDiva]

Just a man that keeps it real and approaches intelligently. The following list may help further my point.

DO NOT...
1. Whisper "Pssssst..." when I walk by. I might turn around, but you can trust it will only be to roll my eyes at you.
2. Refer to me as "lil mama", "shawty" or "boo". Really, this applies even if we're already involved.
3. Even THINK about putting your hands on me when I pass you. You don't know me like that.
4. Send your raggedy friend to tell me you "wanna holla". Junior high is over... you may as well pass me a note.
5. Ask for my number and get pissy when I tell you no. Would you rather I give you a wrong number? Perhaps give you my real number and never answer when you call? Cut your losses.
6. Re-enact the following conversation:
YOU: Do you have a man?
ME: No....
YOU: You do now.
No, I don't. Really.

These are just a few things that irk me. The majority of guys aren't this trifling, but we all know they're out there lurking somewhere.

[nikki25]

Originally posted by SweetestDiva:
Just a man that keeps it real and approaches intelligently. The following list may help further my point.

DO NOT...
1. Whisper "Pssssst..." when I walk by. I might turn around, but you can trust it will only be to roll my eyes at you.
2. Refer to me as "lil mama", "shawty" or "boo". Really, this applies even if we're already involved.
3. Even THINK about putting your hands on me when I pass you. You don't know me like that.
4. Send your raggedy friend to tell me you "wanna holla". Junior high is over... you may as well pass me a note.
5. Ask for my number and get pissy when I tell you no. Would you rather I give you a wrong number? Perhaps give you my real number and never answer when you call? Cut your losses.
6. Re-enact the following conversation:
YOU: Do you have a man?
ME: No....
YOU: You do now.
No, I don't. Really.

These are just a few things that irk me. The majority of guys aren't this trifling, but we all know they're out there lurking somewhere.

Lady, you have much comedy! I love those DO NOT.com postings.

TOA, I wouldn't think that you'd try any of these approaches, especially given your age (always have to keep the humor flowing ). You know, by now, that these approaches don't work, right?

[This message has been edited by nikki25 (edited June 25, 2001).]

[THICKNCHOCLATE]

Just walk up and introduce yourself. "Hello, my name is ... and I was just noticing you and wanted to meet you."

DO NOT:

Say "Damn, you're cute for a big girl" (Are most big women unattractive????)

Compare my "fineness" to a food item. (i.e. Damn girl, you finer than some hamhocks and collards!! )

Call me Shawty, shorty, boo, or Hey Big Girl!

Tell me what you want to do to me behind close doors, cause you may get slapped!!

I have too many more, I could go on forever!!!



[This message has been edited by THICKNCHOCLATE (edited June 25, 2001).]

[Chi_ZETABBW]

Ditto TNC:
I hate the "YOU LOOK GOOD FOR A BIG WOMAN" approach. I always come back with "I LOOK GOOD FOR ANY SIZE WOMAN".
Just approach me like a gentleman, it's that simple. I stopped liking thugs when I was 16 years old.

[THICKNCHOCLATE]

Originally posted by Chi_ZETABBW:
Ditto TNC:
I hate the "YOU LOOK GOOD FOR A BIG WOMAN" approach. I always come back with "I LOOK GOOD FOR ANY SIZE WOMAN".
Just approach me like a gentleman, it's that simple. I stopped liking thugs when I was 16 years old.

Girl, now I gotta borrow you comeback line!!!
WooHoo, that's a good one!

[sunnydays96]

Originally posted by SweetestDiva:
Just a man that keeps it real and approaches intelligently. The following list may help further my point.

DO NOT...
1. Whisper "Pssssst..." when I walk by. I might turn around, but you can trust it will only be to roll my eyes at you.
2. Refer to me as "lil mama", "shawty" or "boo". Really, this applies even if we're already involved.
3. Even THINK about putting your hands on me when I pass you. You don't know me like that.
4. Send your raggedy friend to tell me you "wanna holla". Junior high is over... you may as well pass me a note.
5. Ask for my number and get pissy when I tell you no. Would you rather I give you a wrong number? Perhaps give you my real number and never answer when you call? Cut your losses.
6. Re-enact the following conversation:
YOU: Do you have a man?
ME: No....
YOU: You do now.
No, I don't. Really.

These are just a few things that irk me. The majority of guys aren't this trifling, but we all know they're out there lurking somewhere.

Exactly

I usually encounter this:
6. Re-enact the following conversation:
YOU: Do you have a man?
ME: Yeah
YOU: Well can we be friends?
ME: No.
YOU: Why not? It won't hurt. What, your man won't let you have friends?

Just let it go. No means no.

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by nikki25:
Lady, you have much comedy! I love those DO NOT.com postings.

TOA, I wouldn't think that you'd try any of these approaches, especially given your age (always have to keep the humor flowing ). You know, by now, that these approaches don't work, right?

[This message has been edited by nikki25 (edited June 25, 2001).]

Awwwwwwh Dayum! I'mma gon haf ta change my game plan! So THAT'S WHAT THE PROBLEM IZ!!!
An I taught it wuz mah dreds all along!!!





[This message has been edited by The Original Ape (edited June 25, 2001).]

[novella000]

Originally posted by SweetestDiva:

DO NOT...
1. Whisper "Pssssst..." when I walk by. I might turn around, but you can trust it will only be to roll my eyes at you.
2. Refer to me as "lil mama", "shawty" or "boo". Really, this applies even if we're already involved.
3. Even THINK about putting your hands on me when I pass you. You don't know me like that.
4. Send your raggedy friend to tell me you "wanna holla". Junior high is over... you may as well pass me a note.
5. Ask for my number and get pissy when I tell you no. Would you rather I give you a wrong number? Perhaps give you my real number and never answer when you call? Cut your losses.
6. Re-enact the following conversation:
YOU: Do you have a man?
ME: No....
YOU: You do now.
No, I don't. Really.

These are just a few things that irk me. The majority of guys aren't this trifling, but we all know they're out there lurking somewhere.

ROTFLMAO! Okay, we either live in the same city, or we live in the same city. LOL
Original... I am not going to answer your question because I can't. I NEVER give my number to a guy, no matter how nice, fine, etc., that I have just met. I can't remember a time that I have ever felt comfortable doing so.
All of the men I have ever dated have been guys I knew for a while as friends... I have to know he's not an ass and that I can talk to him before we go out.



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"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it."
Henry David Thoreau

[OhSoPrettyNikki]

I love for a man to simply walk up & introduce himself, have a casual conversation for about 1 minute pass his # along and leave!!!
This has only happened once and I loved it!!!! That brotha made such and impression on me... I couldn't wait to call him.

I absolutely hate :
1.Psssst!
2.Yo shorty, shorrrrttttaaaayyyy!
3. Damn you sexy to be a big girl!!!! Brothas its all attitude not my dress or my walk. B/C I feel sexy I am!!! And of course I'm big, there's enough for Now&Latah...nobody ever wants a small of their favorite dish!!
4. Can I have a hug??? NOT!!!!!( heavy chested sistahs you feel me)
5.And please, please, do NOT stare! I'm thinking you're a stalker not an interest

Basically anything besides an introduction, I find annoying!

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"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"

When da EAST is in da house....Oh my GOD!!!! DANGER!



[This message has been edited by OhSoPrettyNikki (edited June 25, 2001).]

The introduction I love:

Hello how are you? My name is ____. I noticed you and wanted to introduce myself to you. Short convo blah blah...I would like to exchange numbers but if you don't feel comfortable with that I'll give you my number. Maybe we can have dinner or a drink sometime. It was nice meeting you.

I've only been approached like that once.

Do Not Say
Say red, mami, boo, shawty, yellow, stout junt (southern ghetto compliment believe it or not)

You: Ey scruse me, you gotta man?
Me: Yes (lying)
You: Are you happy?
Me: Yes
You: Do you cheat?
Me: WTF?

Another case, true story
You: Hey bru-ti-ful....(yeah that's what he said..brutiful.)
Me: <Blank stare>
You: Is u married?
Me: Yes, showing my ring (I'm lying but I occasionaly wear a ring to keep the strays away but sometimes it doesn't work, cause he approached me.)
You: Girl that ain't no wedding ring. This is a wedding ring (and he shows me his wedding ring.) So can I have your number?