I knew it was over when....

[Convinced]

Hey Everybody:

Around Christmas time, I tend to get a little misty when I start thinking about my ex(we've been broken up for almost two years). When I start thinking about the good times, I have to console myself by remembering a bad time, like the moment when I knew it was over. I knew it was over when:
I spent about $500 on him for Christmas and he gave me the free gift watch that came with his designer watch.

How about you all? When did you know it was over?

[MIDWESTDIVA]

I knew it was over the last time I had sex with him. I broke down and started crying. I'm not talking about tears of joy, or tears because the earth moved. These were more like I'm so miserable with this person, I don't even want him to touch me tears.

Fortunately, I am able to look back on this and laugh.

[sphinxpoet]

Convinced....Soror you have some hard hitting issues on this listserv! I knew one of my relationships was over when I was feeling sick and I could not go to sleep but decided I was still going to go to work. I lent my ex-girlfriend(girlfriend at the time) my car(who lives 45 minutes away). After that I went to work......My boss sent me home after about 3 hours. But she was out with my car and I had no way to contact her. So I sat on her stoop for 2 hours and felt worse and throwing up. She finally came and I asked her if I could rest at her house for about an hour before I went home. Her response was "I really don't have time for you right now" and walked right in.

WHOA (And she knew I was sick)! A Week later we broke up.

[AKAtude]

Wait a minute! Let me get this straight. Sphinxpoet, you mean you actually gave her one more week?! She was wrong for that.

[AKA2D '91]

A week?

IT WOULD HAVE BEEN OVER RIGHT THEN AND THERE!

I knew it was OVER when ALL the DRAMA became a laughing matter and I DID NOT care one way or another...

[NUPE4LIFE]

I knew it was over when she said, "we need to talk". Then she kept me hanging until she came back from a dinner with some people she worked with on campus. When she finally came back she gave me that "it's not your fault" speech. You know the one where they try and rationalize their decision to break up by bringing up some supposed internal issue. Yeah right. In the immortal words of my friend HITS on BET "People, let's get it together". But that's when I knew it was over.

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[toocute]

Originally posted by Convinced:
I knew it was over when:
I spent about $500 on him for Christmas and he gave me the free gift watch that came with his designer watch.

Oh no sweetie please say it ain't so!

I knew it was over when he pissed me off and I didn't cry about it. I didn't cry because I didn't care anymore!

[Poplife]

I knew it was over when he leaned in for a kiss and I cringed.

[meeks]

I knew it was over when i caught him over his ex-girlfriends house at 3am, so I wrote "Caught Ya" on his windshield in my lipstick complete with a smiley face.

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[DableST_1]

I'm sorry, but I have to share my story as well. The holiday's use to get me down as well. My ex and I started dating my senoir year in high school. We were "head over hills" in love with each other. Then he went to Famu, and I stayed at home in the "Chi" and went to Rooselvelt. A lot of my friends were kind of "erie" about him attending a predominantly Black school, but I knew that NOTHING would ever break us up (At least I thought nothing would) At any rate, our last Christmas together, he explained how he could not afford to buy my anything for Christmas and that money was tight!! I COMPLETLEY understood, and told him that the love that we shared was good enough for me. Well After spending HUNDREDS of Dollars on him at Christmas time, I later found out that he did have money. How did I know? Well a couple of days b4 Christmas I was heading to work and I got "stuck" up at gun point by this drug addict pervert!! I was SO SCARED I didn't know what to do. At any rate, my boyfriend only lived a couple of blocks away and called my job and told them that wouldn't be coming in due to my situation. Then he took me out to "brunch" to get my mind off of the situation. Everything was fine, until we stopped in this store and he purchased this beautiful Ballerina music box for this girl that went to FAMU with him. And he had the NERVE to ask me if I thought she would like it!! (Did I mention that I didn't get a DAMN thing for Christmas from him!!!???) I was in too much PAIN, AGONY, and Confusion to answer. I later broke up with him on New Years EVE. I wanted to start the New Years off right. This happend over 3 1/2 yrs ago. By the way did I mention that He is engaged to her as we speak and that they are getting married next year???
Well I shouldn't be surprised!! Well Luckily God has sent me someone special in my life, and we are going strong!!!

Sorry for the long post!!!

[mizzkes]

I knew it was over when he confessed to cheating on me with a member of the Chapter I am seeking membership in.

[This message has been edited by mizzkes (edited December 14, 2000).]

[serenity_24]

I knew it was over when I found a condom and some photos of some girl in his gym bag. Supposedly he had been telling me he was going to the gym, but was intead going to her house. UUUUUGGGGGGHHHH

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by Convinced:
Hey Everybody:

Around Christmas time, I tend to get a little misty when I start thinking about my ex(we've been broken up for almost two years). When I start thinking about the good times, I have to console myself by remembering a bad time, like the moment when I knew it was over. I knew it was over when:
I spent about $500 on him for Christmas and he gave me the free gift watch that came with his designer watch.

How about you all? When did you know it was over?

I wish I had a cool way of sayin' it>

[DELTABRAT]

Oh yeah! I KNEW it was over when...

My ex-boyfriend and I had been dating for two years. We were both sophomores in college, although we attended different colleges. He was an athlete and...well...I was ME!

As an athlete, his duckets weren't really poppin' off and all so he didn't have like, a car and stuff...anyways...

He sorta "stayed" with me for awhile and I would allow him to use my car when I was at class. I mean, what would I do with it during the day anyways, besides, parking at UCLA is a task in itself, so I didn't trip.

Well, during finals week, I decided that I'd drive the (read=my) car to campus to study. I knew I would be doing so indefinitely, because "hello" it WAS finals week. Well, when I returned, this fool had the NERVE to be pissed off at me for not returning in time for him to do something he had planned to do already. Did I mention the car was MINE?

Aw, naw, that ain't it...

I KNEW IT WAS OVA WHEN...

After I expressed to him that the car was mine and I really didn't owe it to him to return at a certain time especially for something like STUDYING (don't ask why I was even explaining), he THREW a drink he had in his hand at me. I mean he THREW it! No it wasn't a dixie cup, it was one of those big 'ol, big 'ol drinkink cups. It hit the wall behind me like inches from my head.

Did I mention we were in MY apartment?

Well, the next day, I rounded up some of my football playing homies and Frat and had them escort me (to my own crib) to get this brothah out. I really feared that he may do something when I broke up with him...I didn't really end up NEEDING the men I brought, but I felt safer in case he tried to throw some stuff at me again, plus, he was (literally) 7'1" tall.

Okay, sorry so long.

[Inquisitive]

let me put my two cents in even though it may not be worth a dime! I try not to get caught up over relationships after all i'm only 23. I know it may be hard to let go especially after dating someone for years but I just live my life according to little but so so true quote I once heard "REJECTION IS GOD'S PROTECTION" If it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be and I take it as God getting the dumba%$ out of my life to make room for the right man someday! I don't stress over guys!

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