nose piercing? - Page 3

aopirose · #31 04-23-2003, 01:24 PM

I have experience with LSU recruitment. True, recruitment isn’t a job interview but it is an interview nonetheless. Both sides are asking questions and measuring up the other to see if they are a good fit. Yes, there can be shallowness on both sides. NO SYSTEM can claim that theirs is completely unbiased in some fashion.

My advice is to remove it. Several collegiate members may also have such piercings but are asked to remove them prior to the events. Why? It creates an unnecessary distraction because it really isn’t the “norm.” The school is very conservative, located in a very conservative town and draws a mainly conservative population. The majority is not running around with unconventional piercings.

I also agree that you should do what makes you feel comfortable. However, if you wanted to wear a Buffy the Vampire Slayer T-shirt with Army boots to Preference, my advice would be the same. Don’t. It’s not the norm.

GeekyPenguin · #32 04-23-2003, 01:47 PM

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Originally posted by ilovemyglo
Sorry to say, but I do believe that this is a fair question.

When I was active at a smaller school we asked that sisters with nose/eye/mouth (including tongue) piercings remove them during rush. These were women that we love, and we love them with their peircings, but it is distracting during recruitment. It makes it much easier to just take it out. Not only that but as someone else mentioned at a lot of place (again particularly in the south) we treat rush like a job interview... here is what we have, here is what you have, where do we go from here?
Unfortunately for some of us we don't have the luxury of not doing to the total rush thing, (matching outfits, balloons and decorations everywhere, decorating cars, etc!) It isn't as laid back as many places, although I really wish it were!

Also, just some FYI weed wacker wire is the perfect size if you are wanting to make sure it doesn't close up.

We have the same policy - all non-ear piercings have to come out for recruitment. It presents a better image of your chapter.

justamom · #33 04-23-2003, 01:47 PM

I honestly believe that wearig the nose ring/stud would hamper your chances. As Aopirose and Ilovemyglo said, the sisters are told to remove anything that would be a distraction plus a WHOLE lot of other do and don'ts.

It isn't so much that individual sorority members are against them-I would bet my bottom dollar there are TONS of belly buttons peirced-but because the GLOs ARE filled with diverse women, there are bound to be sisters in each sorority that sees it as a negative. No rushee needs a reason for someone to "dislike" her or feel she doesn't fit to the point where they might focus on it when cuts are made. It's NOT compromising who you are, it's doing what you can to get what you want. How much do you want it?

carnation · #34 04-23-2003, 01:50 PM

OMG! What she said! And what aopirose said!

Nibbz · #35 04-23-2003, 01:56 PM

I think that a nose piercing is fine especially if you like it. If it is a problem for the sister of that sorority then maybe you should think about the other personal compromises that you may end up making. You should not have to change to fit a sorority it should embrace you as you are.

Lot of Love,

Sigma Sigma Sigma

CutiePie2000 · #36 04-23-2003, 03:28 PM

Moxie,
I've been on this board since May 2000, so I have a pretty good idea of who has been around for a while and therefore able to "speak from experience".

Since justamom and carnation and aopirose have experience with Rush at schools where Rush is EXTREMELY COMPETITIVE, I would really take the time out to listen them.

These ladies have valuable life experience and it's worth hearing (and heeding) what they have to say. Just my $0.02
Thanks.

pialpha92 · #37 04-23-2003, 03:32 PM

I think if she is worried about it she needs to take it out. Otherwise she may end up spending her parties self-conscious and worried about it. There is enough stress in formal without stressing about something she can easily remove.

You can always start the parties without it and as recruitment progresses you can put it in for parties later in the week. By then they should know you well enough and you will probably feel more comfortable about it.

chiochic03 · #38 05-13-2003, 03:30 AM

hey moxie....as a chi o here at LSU...i would strongly advise you to take out the nose ring. after reading all the other posts it appears that rush at other schools is much different from that at LSU. while i find nothing wrong with people having nose rings, it simply just isn't appropriate for rush, nor for your typical sorority girls here at LSU. for example, i know of only one girl in chi o who has a nose ring, and she just got it about 3 months ago and i certainly over heard people talking about how inappropriate it was....now the girl has to take it out for rush this fall. also, going though rush last fall, as a rushee, i went to a certain house (who i wont name) and one of the girls who rushed me had a tounge ring...it was so distracting that it was the one thing that stood out in my mind about that sorority and i cut them that night. so while i think individuality is a great thing, its sad to say...but individuality is limited in sorority life at LSU. i just thought i'd give u my opinion on the subject, but feel free to be yourself too!! lots of luck going through rush! it's such a great experience so make the most of it!!! maybe i'll see you at the chi o house!!

navane · #39 05-13-2003, 07:53 AM

This matter is really very simple - it's called making a judgment call and being willing to accept the positive or negative consequences.

If Moxie prizes her individuality/fashion sense/personal statement to the extent that she refuses to compromise a simple nose ring during the rush process...more power to her! Everyone is free to dress as they wish at rush.

However, if she keeps it, she MUST accept that she is more likely to be cut. That's just a hard fact of life. She may not have a bid, but she'll have her "individuality" and a nose ring.

It all depends on what she values. Does she value having the opportunity to be a part of a sorority? Or does she value her personal style as expressed through her choice in accessories?

.....Kelly

Lady Pi Phi · #40 05-13-2003, 09:46 AM

I think it's a sad day and age when a nose ring is still too risque. I mean come on people, it's 2003!
However, being that I do not go to LSU and I have no idea what their recruitment process is like, I would suggest following the advice of those that do know the LSU recruitment process.
If LSU is as conservative as they describe (sounds like they have sticks up their behinds to me, but that's a different thread), I would go conservative. If rushing is something that is important you, you'll do what you can to get what you want. If at any time you feel that you ideas/values, whatever are being compromised by the rush process then all you have to do is drop.
While I think it's ridiculous to consider a nose piercing a distraction, it's something that can easily be removed for a week or however long their rush is.

Megerts · #41 05-13-2003, 11:11 PM

oh, so today i go to this tattoo shop (the hole experience right there on highland next to tigermania)... they have these things callled retainers. you can just stick it in there, it's clear. nobody will even notice really... unless they look really closely.

Just an idea

GPhiBLtColonel · #42 05-14-2003, 01:17 AM

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This matter is really very simple - it's called making a judgment call and being willing to accept the positive or negative consequences.

If Moxie prizes her individuality/fashion sense/personal statement to the extent that she refuses to compromise a simple nose ring during the rush process...more power to her! Everyone is free to dress as they wish at rush.

However, if she keeps it, she MUST accept that she is more likely to be cut. That's just a hard fact of life. She may not have a bid, but she'll have her "individuality" and a nose ring.

It all depends on what she values. Does she value having the opportunity to be a part of a sorority? Or does she value her personal style as expressed through her choice in accessories?

Navane -- Girl, I could not have said it any better myself! You hit the nail right on the head!!! Life is all about compromising for what you want -- very, very few situations in life allow you to get 100% of what you want without giving something up. That is just the way it is! Leave the nose ring at home when you rush at LSU!

AGDZO Susan · #43 05-15-2003, 12:21 PM

Amen! And wait until you head into the real work world!!! Compromise compromise (except your values and morals)!

KillarneyRose · #44 11-06-2003, 05:11 PM

I was just looking through old threads and happened upon this one and I figured I'd put an ending on it.

After all the worry, Moxie had to get ready very quickly for her first round of rush parties and ended up forgetting to take out her nose ring!

And she's now an initiated member of the LSU chapter of Delta Zeta

Yay, Mox!

AlphaPhiBubbles · #45 11-06-2003, 05:51 PM

this may sound kinda mean...but I am so glad she ended up in a house despite the fact she had her little nose ring, cuz this whole thread made me very sad to think how superficial and unattractive it made sorority girls in the south look...even if it's the "way it is", actually especially if that's how it is.