love?

niceone · #1 05-31-2000, 04:47 PM

Hello everyone,
I have been a silent SF for awhile but now I have a topic for the board, I have met someone who I have very deep feelings for but I am trying to protect my heart from getting hurt. I was just wondering how it feels to be in love and how do you know if you are in love, I mean is the butterflies in the stomach stuff really true *smile* just wondering and may God Bless everyone on this wonderful last day of the month.

LikeASista · #2 05-31-2000, 05:52 PM

HEY!!! I'm struggling with the same question!! Any enlighteners to the subject will be appreciated for my benefit as well.

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No weapon formed against me shall prosper, for I am a child of the Most High God, Who sits upon the Throne of Grace, and rules all Heaven and Earth.

AKA2D '91 · #3 05-31-2000, 06:46 PM

If you are IN LOVE, trust me you WILL KNOW IT!!!! It is a feeling that you have. You just know it! I used to ask how do you know, and I was always told, you must not be there! When it's there, you and your partner will know it. Good luck to you both! But Niceone... I always tried to "protect" my heart. It's good to stay alert, but sometimes it can be bad. I had been hurt previously and I built up this wall. It was hard to let anyone get close. That was not good! I never gave anyone a chance. That was not fair. Since I have been in this relationship, where I know I am in love, those barriers fallen naturally. And I have let those past experiences remain in the past. Mind you, I am still on guard, but I am not as bad as I was before. Thanks be to God!

AKAtude · #4 06-01-2000, 09:32 AM

Aaaaaaahhhhhhh...love. I think most people know when they are in love, but there are times when people get love confused with lust or infatuation (did I spell that correctly?). But, I don't think you have that problem.

Yes, the butterflies in the stomach does happen to some. It did to me a few times. Sometimes I all I have to do is think about my fiance and I find a smile across my face. But, I agree with my soror. You will know. Take care!

PinkIvy · #5 06-01-2000, 01:43 PM

Love is a beautiful thing and trust me, you will know if you are in love or not. The feeling you get is something that can't be explained.

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Eclipse · #6 06-01-2000, 02:15 PM

Interesting question and for someone who is 'in love' and has been in love with the same person for almost 15 years, I really had to think about this one. I think AKA2D91 said it right when she said you will know. Unfortunately, sometimes we, as AKAtude said get these feelings of lust or infatuation and think it's love because of the funny feeling we get in the pit of our stomach.

I think there are several 'signs' that help you to KNOW that you are in love (not lust, not infatuation)
1. First I think you have to actually know the other person for more than 6 months--and I'm not taking about 6 months of casual I've seen you around and think you're cute kind of knowing. I also think that that number (6 months) increases the younger you are.

2. If you know something utterly disgusting/embarassing about the other person (i.e. instead of clipping his toenails he bites them, he wet the bed until he was 15, etc.) and it does not change your feelings, you might be in love.

3. If you go to sleep at night thinking about him and wake up thinking about him, you might be in love.

4. If something significant happens in your day and you say "I can't wait to tell...." you might be in love.

5. If you have an urge to share everything about yourself and have no fear of his reaction, you might be in love.

6. If you'd rather be with him than anyone else in the WORLD you might be in love.

7. If the things that are important to him are suddenly important to you (his car, basketball, the pimple on his butt) you might be in love.

8. If you walk around with this goofy grin on your face because you think of him, you might be in love.

9. If you'd rather go to McDonald's with him than a 5 star resturant with (you fill in the blank--someone truly FIONE!!), you might be in love.

10. If the two of you can spend hours together with no TV, no radio (and no sex!) without talking and feel totally comfortable, you might be in love.

11. If you KNOW you would still want to be with him if he: a) got fat b)lost his hair, job, money, etc. c) was in a terrible accident, etc. you might be in love.

That turned into a longer list than I anticipated, but it's all I can think about right now....anybody else?

LadyAKA · #7 06-01-2000, 03:06 PM

Eclipse you not only made me laugh but you did point out some key points. It's true when you are in love you just know and some of those things you listed are definitely I know I love him because .....(fill in the blank)

Also niceone, if this person is there for you in your darkest moments, maybe a death in the family, or the lost of a job or even something as small as I failed my class in my SENIOR YEAR (oh that was me - sorry), and all you can think about is how this person is going to comfort you or how he/she will make things better - then more often then not you are in LOVE GURL! hope that we helped ya!

Sisterly

AKAtude · #8 06-01-2000, 03:12 PM

Eclipse, that was a good list. Well done.

AKA2D '91 · #9 06-01-2000, 07:04 PM

Eclipse...I am Speechless! What else can be said? That should answer anyone's question regarding being in love (including mine). Thanks!

tickledpink · #10 06-01-2000, 09:24 PM

LOL @ (with) Eclipse!

niceone · #11 06-01-2000, 09:55 PM

Thanks everyone, Especially eclipse, i think I need to print that list out and tape it on my wall(lol).

AKA2D '91 · #12 06-01-2000, 10:07 PM

Not necessarily Niceone. The list was basically about loving someone unconditionally. Loving someone unconditionally means, getting away from our "comfort zone" being able to love unselfishly, without keeping score, without placing blame, with all of your partners faults or imperfections etc. Just remember that. It took me some time to figure that one out!

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Eclipse · #13 06-02-2000, 09:44 AM

Thanks for the props y'all but after reading AKA2D '91 I know why some of my teachers said I had 'diarrea of the mouth' (hope that didn't gross anybody out.) What took me a book to say she said in 3 sentences!!

Eclipse · #14 05-29-2004, 04:22 PM

ttt
Reviewing some of my old post.....

James · #15 05-30-2004, 10:12 PM

Infatuation is the truest form of love. ITs unconditional and overpowering.

God, if only the other person wouldn't ruin the buzz right?

But anyway, they say that the most successful couples never stop feeling that initial infatuation.

If you lose it. Move on.