Too touchy?

[AchtungBaby80]

OK, I want some other peoples' perspectives on this. I really, really don't like it when others touch my stuff (i.e. dig through my closet, borrow my things, use my computer, etc.) without asking me. This sort of puts me in a weird place because, living in a sorority house, people borrow each others' stuff all the time, but I am not comfortable with the "my door is open, take whatever you want" policy. I have never lost the rag over it or made a scene, but what I want to know is, do other people feel like this too and not say anything?

[James]

"never lost the rag over it" what does that mean?

But, I don't like when people touch my stuff, or enter my room when I am not present and without my permission. IT bothers me. And i don't do it to others.

The idea of people going through my things can really annoy me. Girls don't go through boys things . . . we don't forgive it.

So no, you are not too touchy . . if you went rambo on the house your response might be inappropriate.

But I would start telling people nicely: Please don't take/touch my things without permission, thanks!

If you have to say it twice . . well then some steam can show.

[SSS1365]

I agree with James. I absolutely can't stand when people take my stuff without asking, or when they enter my room without asking. In fact, I just moved out of a house where one of my roommates went into my room within the first two weeks of my living there. That totally made me not trust her right off the bat. But then one night I had a bottle of wine sitting out (which I paid $20 for... not really expensive or anything, but she always buys the $6 stuff) and she drank all of it.

Sorry for my little side story But I don't think you're overreacting... in fact, I'm glad to know I'M not the only one who inwardly freaks out about this stuff!

[AOX81]

I absolutely HATE when people touch my stuff!!!

I have this friend who is soooo nosy. I hate it when I drive her some place because she is always turned around trying to see if I have anything in my back seat, checking out the glove box, or digging through the change holder! It drives me absolutely crazy! One time I asked her, "what the f*ck are you looking for?"

One of my husbands friends likes to sit at our computer and look through every single file. I told my husband to tell him to stop or I was going to password protect everything. I have nothing to hide but he has no business looking through our files!

When my brother comes to visit I always want to punch his lights out. He has to go around to anything with a door or drawer and open it and check out what's inside of it!

I also hate it when people move my stuff to another location in my house!

DON'T TOUCH MY SHIT PEOPLE!

[Peaches-n-Cream]

You are not too touchy. I can't stand people touching my stuff, either. When I was in high school both of my sisters would enter my room and take my stuff without permission so my mother put a lock on my door. If you have a lock, use it. If not, get one.

[AXJules]

This is a such a big issue in my house right now.
The new girls have a habit of walking into people's rooms while they're not there and taking whatever they want. They always return everything, but it's like 4 weeks later. We thought we had a serious klepto in the house until we realized it was the freshman making themselves at home.
Everyone told me it wasn't a big deal when my Sex And the City DVD's got taken but COME ON! Sex And the City??? I can't live without it!!!! It was returned whnever this chick was done with them but it totally pissed me off and everyone said I was overreacting.
My roomie and i have been locking our doors but we live across from the mailboxes which has the set of keys in the house managers box. Once I had the door locked while I was sleeping and woke up to see some girl using the house manager's keys to get into my room.
Who does that???!!! What is the matter with people????

[ladybug1116]

Wow...it amazes me that people would just go through other people's stuff. Were they not taught manners?

I'm all for telling my guests to "make themselves at home" but I thought that meant...make yourself comfortable and get what you need...not, sure go through my drawers and read through my personal paperwork!!

That being said...yes it would piss me off if people went through my stuff without permission.

[DeltaZeecutie]

I definately agree! I am not very fond of other people going through my stuff and borrowing my stuff. I have let sisters borrow clothes and I still don't have them back...this was months ago! I personally don't have enough clothes to be missing any of them. I never borrow anyone else's stuff just because I don't feel comfortable doing that. I don't know just how I was brought up or something....makes living in the house very weird for me!

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

Nope Dana, you're not overreacting, personally if somebody messes w/my stuff, I make sure they're crying after I get through with them...

I'm pretty anal w/stuff, especially w/my electronics or -any- of my art supplies or my instruments..you touch..you're hurting afterwards.
But, as long someone -asks- me about or if they're my bf or my best bud then it's cool, heh

[MoxieGrrl]

Not too touchy at all! I have the "all you need to do is ask" policy. It flatters me that someone thinks my stuff is nifty...but to just take it?? That's plain rude!

We had a chapter meeting about this once and 3 days after someone took my veggie dogs. I cried.

[XOMichelle]

Just make it known that you dont' like it. When people borrow your stuff say, hey, next taime ask first. I don't like it when people go through my stuff.

That should work.

[Dionysus]

I'm not crazy about people touching my belongings...but what really pisses me off is when people eat my food without telling me. Nothing pisses me off more than having a watering mouth for some cookies and find out someone ate them.

[damasa]

Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
OK, I want some other peoples' perspectives on this. I really, really don't like it when others touch my stuff (i.e. dig through my closet, borrow my things, use my computer, etc.) without asking me. This sort of puts me in a weird place because, living in a sorority house, people borrow each others' stuff all the time, but I am not comfortable with the "my door is open, take whatever you want" policy. I have never lost the rag over it or made a scene, but what I want to know is, do other people feel like this too and not say anything?

Start hiding mouse traps in articles of clothing that people are borrowing from you without asking. I did this for a while and people learned not to take my stuff anymore without asking. I finally ahd to start locking my door because people would borrow things when I needed them and it had to stop.


I'm telling you, the mouse trap thing works.

[Andee4321]

I hate it when people sit on my bed, like on my sheets, and put there dirty feet on my bed, it freaks me out.

[juniorgrrl]

It *really* bothers me when people use my stuff without asking. Except for my mom. That doesn't bother me as much, because we share each other's clothes/shoes all the time. Its actually comical to me when she meets me somewhere in my clothes.

With roomates, its a different story. I'm an only child so I'm used to having total privacy. I had a roomate who would allow her friends to sit on my bed (and who knows what else when I wasn't there!) and it would creep me out to no end. I came back from home one Sunday night to find a strange brownish stain on my comforter. Ew!

I just hate it when people use things they KNOW aren' theirs. My roomates for this year and I agreed to bring our own pots/pans/dishes to the apartment. Well, somehow, it became open season on my cookware. I asked them very nicely to not use it, but they never stopped. And because things were so wierd when I moved out, I haven't gotten my kitchen stuff yet...I hope they haven't trashed it...beyotches...

Thank goodness for private rooms and single apartments!