Question about married chicks

UF_PikePC98 · #1 02-10-2003, 06:30 PM

I wanted to see what some of you thought about this situation.

I consider myself as well as my friends to be moral men, but a situation has arose that has me thinking on what is right and what is wrong.

Let's say I have this friend. He has a girlfriend but she lives in another town. He met this chick out at a club awhile ago. She's 21, married and just moved from Detroit to Florida. The chick is hot, in my view. My friend met her husband one time while out and bought him a few drinks, they chilled and found out they have a lot in common. They get along. Now, the guys wife asked for my friends phone number, he gave it to her. The girl calls up the next day and wanted to hang out. After hanging out with her they realized they too have a lot in common and decide to hang out more. Eventually he found out that she's been sneaking behind her husbands back to meet him.

Now, they hang out all the time these days. It's got to the point to where they smoke out all the time, drink and now the chick tells him she has only rolled once and would like to do it with him since her husband has never done any kind of drug. The two have never kissed or made out as well as sex, though I'm sure the thought has crossed both of their minds. I know what happens when two people roll together, usually it ends up where the two eventually realize they have strong feelings for one another. The thing is though, the girl lies to her husband about going to see this guy. He has no clue as to whats going on. She calls him in the morning to wake my friend up, she calls him after her husband is gone from lunch and she calls him at night when her husband isn't home.

What makes this even more sticky is that her husband is in the military and is about to be shipped off to war. They've talked about what could happen should things get nasty over in Iraq. She told him she's going to stay in Florida for the duration, which means she would then have no restraints as far as doing what she wants with my friend. He has a girlfriend and hasn't told her about his friend. I know he feels guilty to a certain level, but they've never done anything to jepordize their current relationships.

What do some of you think about this situation? Is it wrong? Is it ok as long as nothing sexual happens? Should he cut all ties to this chick now, before things progress....if they do? In one sense I know that if you can't share the friendship with your current lover then odds are that it shouldn't be happening. But, on the otherhand it's just a friendship. Some of us think he should just nip things at the bud while others in our crew think he should keep coasting along.

Blaire · #2 02-10-2003, 06:59 PM

First, I would like to preface this with I do not condone drug use...I've never tried any kind of drug, so your'e on you own with that one!

I can say this, though. My boyfriend is in the military and is being "shipped off" as well. I cannot tell you how stressed he is. Just this past weekend, we were asleep when his phone rang at 1 am...he went into work until 3 am, came home, went back at 5 am and worked until 3 pm. Then, at 9 pm he was called back to pack "sensitive items"....I went with him and we didn't get home until 2 am. Soliders were on the phones with wifes, husbands, girlfriends, boyfriends.....crying, consloing, you name it. Matt told me the only thing getting him through all this that I would remain faithful, which I truly will.

It is unfair to put your friend's girlfriend's husband through that. Period. If their marriage is that messed up, then maybe they should seek counseling. Drugs/cheating certainly won't help the situation....especially if the husband is going to be put through hell in Iraq.

Thats my .02 cents....

Blaire

doubleblue&gold · #3 02-10-2003, 07:25 PM

Your friend needs to find a single woman to hang out with and stay away from the married ones. She needs to go bond with the oter wives and share her experience/feelings with them, not chase another man!

If she's lying to her husband, what is she lying to your friend about???

OUlioness01 · #4 02-10-2003, 07:30 PM

your friend needs to stay away from this woman, especially if he's met the husband and likes him. no guy deserves to know that while he was overseas (and before he went) his wife was spending her time with another man. that's just more stress to add to the situation.

James · #5 02-10-2003, 08:38 PM

He should just get over it and bang her already.

What the hell is his problem anyway? She is obviously shaking her tail in his face . . . he should take a bite already lol.

Tell him to "hump or get off the pot".

Jeez. I swear, people are soo stupid.

Optimist Prime · #6 02-10-2003, 09:25 PM

If you get a married woman pregnant, you should send her husband a cucku clock.

UF_PikePC98 · #7 02-10-2003, 10:16 PM

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Originally posted by James
He should just get over it and bang her already.

What the hell is his problem anyway? She is obviously shaking her tail in his face . . . he should take a bite already lol.

I know, I told him the same thing. Personally, I think he should rail her a$$ a few times and then dip the phuck out when war starts. Consistantly banging a married woman cannot be good for any bachelor.

His fear is that once he hits it he might get what some of us call, pu$$y whipped. It's totally understandable though, I know how easy it is to get whipped if the chick is a good phuck. And, the girl looks like she's a good phuck. That b!tch looks like Devon, the pornstar.....only she's about 5'10 instead of 5'3.

33girl · #8 02-10-2003, 10:24 PM

sweeping generalization....this chickie-babe's first mistake was getting married at age 21 (or earlier). But since it's done, it's done, and your friend should back off. Military men have lots of strength and combat techniques. I would not like to be the one they are used on.

if it was a group together, no problem, but one on one all the time is just asking for trouble.

UF_PikePC98 · #9 02-10-2003, 10:32 PM

I don't know, my boy's actually really big.....bigger than me.

He's 6'5 and somewhere around 260. He said her husband is a shrimp, but he is a marine.

XOMichelle · #10 02-10-2003, 10:44 PM

Yeah, I wouldn't mess with the Marine. They are trained to kill people.

Anyway, if you told your friend to bang her than I dare say you are far from moral. You sure can think that you like someone, and be sexually attracted to them and still choose to do nothing. And your friend should do nothing since she is married, especially while he is at war. How bad would your friend feel if he was the last person to sleep with this guy's wife before he died? Of course, I know it takes two to tango, and she should have enough sense in her not to bang your friend as well. So, your friend should tell the woman that rolling is not a good idea, and take pains to keep the realtionship platonic.

As for the sneaking, well... that really isn't your friend's problem. You never know what her husband is like. He may be insanely jealous if she even looks at something with facial hair. She shouldn't have to lie about having male friends to her husband, but if that is all they are, then it is her issue that she is lying.

My advice (and good advice I do admit).

PiKA_Phil · #11 02-11-2003, 12:52 AM

You rule dude.

Dionysus · #12 02-11-2003, 01:08 AM

Some of these new folks seem to know a lot about us old folks...hmmmmmm

FiReKraCkEr · #13 02-11-2003, 01:17 AM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
Some of these new folks seem to know a lot about us old folks...hmmmmmm

Hmmmmm, that's exactly what I was thinking.....you never know

James · #14 02-11-2003, 09:12 PM

Michelle,

I have to disagree. Isn't it true that the boy in uestion has absolutely no honorable committment to anyone in this scenario? I mean, he isn't the one in a committed relationship.

He isn't doing anything wrong if he "taps that ass." So why shouldn't he?

He isn't married. He can do what he wants. She's the evil one for playing her hubby out like a fool. Isn't she?

And why should he feel bad if he is the last person to sleep with her before he dies? It has nothing to do with morality.

Quote:

Originally posted by XOMichelle
Yeah, I wouldn't mess with the Marine. They are trained to kill people.

Anyway, if you told your friend to bang her than I dare say you are far from moral. You sure can think that you like someone, and be sexually attracted to them and still choose to do nothing. And your friend should do nothing since she is married, especially while he is at war. How bad would your friend feel if he was the last person to sleep with this guy's wife before he died? Of course, I know it takes two to tango, and she should have enough sense in her not to bang your friend as well. So, your friend should tell the woman that rolling is not a good idea, and take pains to keep the realtionship platonic.

As for the sneaking, well... that really isn't your friend's problem. You never know what her husband is like. He may be insanely jealous if she even looks at something with facial hair. She shouldn't have to lie about having male friends to her husband, but if that is all they are, then it is her issue that she is lying.

My advice (and good advice I do admit).

Eclipse · #15 02-12-2003, 01:52 AM

No comment on the situation, but what's "roll"?

I tell ya, I learn SO much on GC! LOL