Cheating?

librasoul22 · #1 10-11-2002, 10:22 AM

Well, me being relationship-phobic and all, I don't really have to worry about this, lol. This is the reason I like to stay single and dating so I don't have to stress. But the question is...

What do y'all consider cheating??

sororitygirl2 · #2 10-11-2002, 10:52 AM

An overly-intimate relationship or situation with someone other than a significant other (meaning nothing physical has to happen for it to be cheating if the person gets very emotionally close to someone other than their sig. other).

However, many people I know say they consider thoughts of others as cheating, and I don't consider that to be the case. I know it is nearly impossible to control thoughts. I think how you do or do not act on those thoughts shows what kind of person you are.

AOX81 · #3 10-11-2002, 10:53 AM

When you are in a serious relationship with one person and engaging in intimate actions with another person. I wouldn't say that a little peck is cheating. I think that most of us know where the line has been crossed.

I'll admit it, I was a cheater in the past. I cheated on my ex-boyfriend to be with my husband. He lived five hours away and I never saw him. Things happened and I broke it off with him. I never told him was happened but my ex-bestfriend/ex-roommate called him and told him the whole story.

Anyway, if person number one doesn't know about person number two (and/or vice versa) I would consider that cheating. If you are trying to hide something...you are cheating.

Kevin · #4 10-11-2002, 10:58 AM

I'll know it when I see it.

valkyrie · #5 10-11-2002, 01:41 PM

What I find interesting is not so much that a guy would consider it cheating if his wife/girlfriend kissed another guy, but that he might not if she kissed another GIRL. Somehow, guys seem to like that so much they don't consider it cheating.

sororitygirl2 · #6 10-11-2002, 01:45 PM

Yeah, Valkyrie... that is a good point about guys views of other guys v. their views of girls. I have also noticed that some guys I know don't consider kissing to be cheating... they don't consider it cheating until it gets real dirty. I don't know any girls who think that way though; maybe the guys just use it to justify their actions!

James · #7 10-11-2002, 09:47 PM

If I am doing it then I would say that penetrating an orfice with my sexual organ is cheating . . .

IF my GF is doing it then kissing would be cheating or even sororitygirl2's definition:

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An overly-intimate relationship or situation with someone other than a significant other (meaning nothing physical has to happen for it to be cheating if the person gets very emotionally close to someone other than their sig. other).

However, many people I know say they consider thoughts of others as cheating, and I don't consider that to be the case. I know it is nearly impossible to control thoughts. I think how you do or do not act on those thoughts shows what kind of person you are.

librasoul22 · #8 10-12-2002, 11:41 AM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
What I find interesting is not so much that a guy would consider it cheating if his wife/girlfriend kissed another guy, but that he might not if she kissed another GIRL. Somehow, guys seem to like that so much they don't consider it cheating.

GOOD POINT! How far does that go though? Just kissing?

shopgirl · #9 10-12-2002, 11:52 AM

If you are doing or saying something with/to another person that you cannot do or say in the presence of your significant other, then you are cheating.

This is a paraphrase from Dr. Phil. He said this on Oprah. I suppose it makes sense. Althougth, nothing is black and white and I'm sure there are exceptions to this rule.

James · #10 10-12-2002, 12:58 PM

That is probably true, I don't know a lot about the man but for some reason I want to beat him down every time I see him. *shrug*

Anyone know why I feel that way? Its irrational . . .

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Originally posted by shopgirl
If you are doing or saying something with/to another person that you cannot do or say in the presence of your significant other, then you are cheating.

This is a paraphrase from Dr. Phil. He said this on Oprah. I suppose it makes sense. Althougth, nothing is black and white and I'm sure there are exceptions to this rule.

Kevlar281 · #11 10-12-2002, 01:03 PM

If she has to lie about it then it's cheating.

sororitygirl2 · #12 10-12-2002, 01:11 PM

I think Doctor Phil is obnoxious but his definition is pretty good... anything you have to lie about or keep from your sig. other. Couple other people said that too.

Peaches-n-Cream · #13 10-12-2002, 03:37 PM

I think that a relationship that takes time and energy away fom your spouse or significant other is cheating. It doesn't have to be physically intimate.

Allie · #14 10-12-2002, 07:16 PM

My boyfriends in the past have been very jealous and has asked me if I was cheating on them because of my friends, since two of my closest friends are guys. They know more about my life than any guy I start dating. So if I give them a hug and peck on the cheek when I get a chance to see them, he better not think it's something more than that.

To me cheating is something physical, it is any form of penetration, oral sex, and kissing that is more than a peck on cheek.