Why is it so hard to date greek guys?

annice22 · #1 09-25-2002, 11:51 PM

I've really had it, I can not date any more fraternity guys. This is just the 5th week of school and these guys are really awful. All they want to do is try to sleep with you and when you tell them "no" your not going to sleep with them (when you first meet them at the bar) or try to get you to go home with them after the mixer is over. Then they act like jerks. I have high morals and standards and refuse to sleep with someone that I do not know and is not my boyfriend.

I guess they are so use to girls just going home with them and sleeping with them. They just assume every girl that they meet will do the same.

Yeah I really do like the guy I'm seeing it's just I don't think I will continue seeing him anymore.

Thanks for listening.

Annice22
Phi Sigma Sigma

Dionysus · #2 09-25-2002, 11:55 PM

It's just not greek guys, it's college guys period.

RUgreek · #3 09-26-2002, 12:00 AM

In men's defense, you were at a bar, which is college battlefield for sex. Plus, they are just playing the odds game. 9/10 times a guy will get shot down, there's still that 1/10 chance, lol. No but I don't mean to be offensive, but I knew girls just as guilty as the guys in greek organizations, so it's all equal if you ask me...

RUgreek

Dionysus · #4 09-26-2002, 12:09 AM

And...what's wrong with non-greek guys?

annice22 · #5 09-26-2002, 12:11 AM

I don't just meet these guys at the bar I have classes with some of them and they look at you like your a piece of meat. I wear regular clothes to class. Blue jeans and a sweatshirt or a top. So it not like I'm advertising my body or anything. I talked to the guy I like on the phone tonight and here is his exact words Mine: I have to write my self-evaluation for my presentation. His: I can help you fill in you self-evaluation. Mine: So how would you answer the questions. His: You could fill it with something hard and long. Ok now tell me if there is not something wrong with this conversation. I was talking about my home-work assigment and he was talking about something else.

So, I don't know what I'm suppose to do I just told him I had to finish my homework.

Annice22

RUgreek · #6 09-26-2002, 12:19 AM

yea, that's pretty sad, but you know what, if you can't beat 'em, join 'em. No, obviously don't DO anything with them, but tease the immature morons. It's college, you're suppose to have fun, not complain.

And on a side note, there are nice guys out there, even in the greek orgs., don't stereotype the whole group/house based on 99% of the members. Maybe one of them is the nice guy. Oh well, in any case, I wouldn't recommend homework with that loser...

RUgreek

valkyrie · #7 09-26-2002, 12:22 AM

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Originally posted by annice22
His: You could fill it with something hard and long.

Good lord, girl, are you SERIOUS?! I can't believe that someone over the age of 14 would say such a stupid thing!

There *are* great guys out there, but I don't know where to tell you to find them. I think you always end up finding them when you're not looking. But I'd kick Mr. Hard and Long to the curb.

nyrdrms · #8 09-26-2002, 12:43 AM

Honestly, it's not just the fraternity guys that are all about sex...and in that same respect it's not just guys either. It's just a lot easier for many people to go with the stereotype and lump all guys that are after sex as fraternity guys, or "frat boys". The difference between the guys and the girls is that old double standard where it is perfectly acceptable for men to "sew their wild oats" whereas a woman who does the same is considered a slut.

I know my freshman year, the fraternity guys were not the ones committing the sexual assaults on campus, the few that we had that is. But many people just choose to see fraternities as a negative aspect of college campuses. As such, fraternities get a bad rep, whether it's deserved or not.

annice22 · #9 09-26-2002, 01:07 AM

Well, I'm off to bed. Thanks everyone for the advice and new ways of looking at this. I will try to to have some fun and try not to complain. I even showed respect for the guy by not naming his fraternity.

Good Night

Annice22
Phi Sigma Sigma

DeltaSig · #10 09-26-2002, 01:40 AM

Yeah, I've had bad luck with the other half of the greek spectrum. Girls can be just as bad as men...Went through 3 sorority girlfriends and now I'm madly in love with a girl who is not. Guess that's the way the cookie crumbles...

KappaTarzan · #11 09-26-2002, 05:40 AM

i am a strong believer in NOT stereotyping.. maybe its because you see greeks most often you think they behave like this more than the general public??
i am also an equal oppurtunity hater- MEN SUCK

that is all

tools34 · #12 09-26-2002, 06:02 AM

Dont worry it is a part of growing up and one day you will reach the age and you will know who is sisere.you just have to hold out

annice22 · #13 09-26-2002, 06:04 AM

Good morning

Well, today I will see him so maybe I'll tell him that needs to show and treat me with respect. I am not like the other girls he meets. I also want to get to know him more and if that's too much to ask then I guess I have to move on. I really do like to have fun, so maybe I really don't need anyone right now. It's not just him, I have met some of his brothers in a non-romantic way and they all try to get into your pants.

I have to get ready to go to work.

Annice22
Phi Sigma Sigma

pledge · #14 09-26-2002, 07:16 AM

I don't date frat boys b/c I feel uncomfortable with the whole situation. I am in a sorority, but my group is very non-traditional and multicultural. I'm Black and most of the mixers that my sorority has are with predominantly white fraternities. One of the frats, TKE, has black members, but I just don't feel comfortable with it all. I do date outside of my race, my ex-boyfriend is white, but the frat boys here don't seem like they would date outside of their race. Maybe i'm wrong. But, I decided that I don't wanna have anything to do with any frat boys. I just don't think very highly of them.

Kevin · #15 09-26-2002, 11:06 AM

Geez... what to say here?

I know that one thing my particular chapter prides ourselves in is the fact that we treat women with respect. We strive to be known as gentlemen. Sure members slip now and then but they'll here about it from their brothers.

Please don't make general assumptions that all guys wearing greek letters are bad people, degrade women, etc. I'd know a lot of women that would disagree with your comments here about "frat boys".