Non-Greek Pinning an AOII?

SP123 · #1 04-09-2012, 07:30 PM

Hello All!

I graduated a few years ago, and my girlfriend of just about 3 years is finishing up her senior year -- she's an AOII. She has talked a lot in the past about girls that have gotten "pinned" by their boyfriends, how sweet it is, and how she wishes that it could happen to her.

Our 3 year anniversary is coming up in just a couple weeks, and I will be visiting her, and was thinking about the idea of pinning her. I know nothing about the process, or whether non-greeks are even allowed to do it (or how we would do it, if allowed) and I'm looking for a little advice. A google search told me that it certainly has happened before, but I am wondering whether any of you have seen it, and what an AOII would think of it. Thoughts?

If it seems like something that could be appropriate, I'll approach her chapter president about the idea, and see what she says.

I do have a pin that represents my current career, so that could be an option, right?

WCsweet<3 · #2 04-09-2012, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by SP123

Hello All!

I graduated a few years ago, and my girlfriend of just about 3 years is finishing up her senior year -- she's an AOII. She has talked a lot in the past about girls that have gotten "pinned" by their boyfriends, how sweet it is, and how she wishes that it could happen to her.

Our 3 year anniversary is coming up in just a couple weeks, and I will be visiting her, and was thinking about the idea of pinning her. I know nothing about the process, or whether non-greeks are even allowed to do it (or how we would do it, if allowed) and I'm looking for a little advice. A google search told me that it certainly has happened before, but I am wondering whether any of you have seen it, and what an AOII would think of it. Thoughts?

If it seems like something that could be appropriate, I'll approach her chapter president about the idea, and see what she says.

I do have a pin that represents my current career, so that could be an option, right?

It doesn't necessarily matter what a certain sorority would think. It varies by campus. It would be better to talk to the President because she would (most likely) know what to do for your campus.

SP123 · #3 04-09-2012, 08:55 PM

Thank you, I will send her a message.

33girl · #4 04-09-2012, 11:55 PM

You may not have to pin her with an actual pin. If you have a (non-engagement) ring, or a piece of jewelry that's a family heirloom, or something else that means a lot to you, that would work just as well. Just don't get hung up on it having to be a pin - other things can have the same meaning.

FSUZeta · #5 04-10-2012, 12:18 PM

Be a man-ask her to marry you-if she accepts, then she can have a legitimate candle pass.

OleMissGlitter · #6 04-10-2012, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Be a man-ask her to marry you-if she accepts, then she can have a legitimate candle pass.

LOL

And we have some great AOII songs we can sign at her candlelight!

AlphaFrog · #7 04-10-2012, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Be a man-ask her to marry you-if she accepts, then she can have a legitimate candle pass.

From my mind to your keyboard.

Shellfish · #8 04-10-2012, 12:41 PM

I don't think this guy should mention it to the chapter president, because if the girlfriend does want to have a candlelight, then at least one person won't be surprised. Even more important: events in an adult's personal life should not be run through another person first.

ForeverRoses · #9 04-10-2012, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Shellfish

I don't think this guy should mention it to the chapter president, because if the girlfriend does want to have a candlelight, then at least one person won't be surprised. Even more important: events in an adult's personal life should not be run through another person first.

Huh? When we had a candle pass, we always had to tell the president first so that she knew to have one at the end of chapter. Plus we would occasionally have "surprise" candle passes where the girl didn't even know the candle was for her.

SP123 · #10 04-10-2012, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Be a man-ask her to marry you-if she accepts, then she can have a legitimate candle pass.

Ha! All in due time.

So what happens, then, if they let me do it? Is there a prescribed way it is supposed to work, or do I get to choose how to do it? Can anyone give me an example of how they've seen it done?

I've sent a message to her chapter president to get more specific info from what her chapter can/will do. Thanks for the advice!

Shellfish · #11 04-10-2012, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

Huh? When we had a candle pass, we always had to tell the president first so that she knew to have one at the end of chapter. Plus we would occasionally have "surprise" candle passes where the girl didn't even know the candle was for her.

Really? At my chapter, the person asking for the candlelight (usually engagements--not much of a pinning school) would leave an anonymous note for the president. How would you have one when the person didn't even know it was for her? Who blows out the candle?

AlphaFrog · #12 04-10-2012, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Shellfish

Really? At my chapter, the person asking for the candlelight (usually engagements--not much of a pinning school) would leave an anonymous note for the president. How would you have one when the person didn't even know it was for her? Who blows out the candle?

The person purposely positioned next to her who does know.

ForeverRoses · #13 04-10-2012, 01:41 PM

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The person purposely positioned next to her who does know.

exactly. Or if we were outside or at formal or just strategically placed, the guy would appear right as she got the candle at the appropriate time. I remember once the timing was off and the girl to the right knew it was going on and refused to take the candle from the girl it was meant for- then the bf walked in the room. Honestly, those were my favorites.

FSUZeta · #14 04-10-2012, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Shellfish

Really? At my chapter, the person asking for the candlelight (usually engagements--not much of a pinning school) would leave an anonymous note for the president. How would you have one when the person didn't even know it was for her? Who blows out the candle?

That's what we did, or we would leave an anonymous note of the desk of the most artistic sister so she could put up an artsy decorative sign announcing that there would be a candlelight (what we called them) after dinner.

33girl · #15 04-10-2012, 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

exactly. Or if we were outside or at formal or just strategically placed, the guy would appear right as she got the candle at the appropriate time. I remember once the timing was off and the girl to the right knew it was going on and refused to take the candle from the girl it was meant for- then the bf walked in the room. Honestly, those were my favorites.

Yep, we had a few at formals where the girl didn't know until her boyfriend leaned over her shoulder and blew it out. These were usually very longtime boyfriends though who were practically sisters themselves, so they had no problem going to the chaplain and letting them know.

And please peeps...don't rush the man into marriage if he's not feeling it.