Would you get married quickly if you had no doubts?

[KillarneyRose]

In August, my husband and I will celebrate 20 years of marriage. If I recall, the timeline of our courtship went like this:

April 29 - Met
May 4 - First Date
May 18 - We decided we wanted to get married
June 31 - I gave up really. awesome. public relations job and my cute little New York apartment (it was the third story of a brownstone; so cute! I was like a 1990's version of Carrie Bradshaw except I wasn't a slut)
August 22 - Stood in front of God and a Navy Chaplain and got hitched

So yeah, been there, done that, got the t shirt (um, got the wedding ring?)

[thetaj]

No. Sure wouldn't. My longest & most serious relationship was full of good intentions and still ended disasterously so I'm all like I WILL NEVER TRUST AGAIN!!1!11 and whatnot.

Though, current BF is doing great considering we haven't been together for too long. He was with me when I found out my grandmother was terminally ill and when she passed away long before the doctors expected. He was also with me the day I backed into a car in a parking lot, payed the lady $50 for $15 of damage, and was rear-ended in a hit-and-run while we were out of town for the weekend. ALL THAT SAME DAY. So HE can check off seeing me angry (read: reduced to a shivering pile of tears, snot and curse words), but I haven't seen him angry yet. Of course, he's nowhere near getting me a ring, either.

[honeychile]

EEK! Nothing more to say other than

WELCOME OUT OF LURKDOM,
KillarneryRose

[IrishLake]

(I haven't read this whole thread, I dont have the energy after reading the "move in with BF thread")...

With that said, my opinion. If it's right, it's right and you know it. I knew the day after I met my husband that we would get married, that he was the proverbial "one," and he was supposed to be a one night stand. Now, that doesn't mean I was ready to jump into marriage at the age of 20. It also doesn't mean that we haven't gone to hell and back during our 10 years together. But, "together" is still the key word.

So for other people, I think it depends on the age and/or maturity level of the people involved. I know some people who got married too soon, and they split up in less than a year. I know others who knew their SO for only 4 or so months before getting hitched and have been together for 10 years.

I also think that if there are existing children from a previous relationship involved, then getting married "too soon" is a big no-no.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by IrishLake

With that said, my opinion. If it's right, it's right and you know it. .

I totally agree. What starts off right, in most cases finishes right. What starts off wrong, usually never gets right. It just gets worse.