Gaaaa, heartbreak!

[valkyrie]

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[Peaches-n-Cream]

I'm right with you. Broken hearted. I haven't fallen asleep before 2 AM since it happened. I'm Miss Insomnia. I wish I could give you advice, but I don't have any.

[KillarneyRose]

Valkyrie,
I'm so sorry to hear about your heartbreak I think the best thing is to cry, scream, beat up your pillow, whatever....just get all of your emotions out. THEN, seek out your girlfriends and keep busy with them.

I know it's not easy, and I wish you the best of luck, sweetie.

[mmcat]

ditto to all earlier advice...
also understand time does heal.
although that's not a lot of comfort right now.
lol
mmcat

[KarenC725]

I'm right there with you Valkyrie and Cream. If you find any "cures" let me know. Or if you just want to chat, PM for my id and email...I'm sorry you guys are feeling this way right now too.

[Allie]

*hugs for everyone, and hands them a pint of Ben and Jerry's*
They are the only guys you REALLY need

Breaking up is never easy, no matter if you know it's going to happen or not. I now it's very hard right now, but this will actually make you a stronger person. I'm sorry to hear about your situations, if you need to vent or need to talk to someone my AOL is on or you can PM me.

[kddani]

I'm going through the exact same thing.... all of the sudden the guy that i'm in love with decides that he can't be a good boyfriend to me. He's undergoing some medical problems, etc. and i'm trying to stay by his side, but he basically just is distancing himself, and says that he wants me to be happy.
I know in my heart that this is the way things need to be, and i know that i'll be fine in the long run, but it hurts and sucks right now. I'm trying to keep busy starting a small ebay business and taking a few trips to see some friends. But it's so difficult.

[dzrose93]

Originally posted by Allie
*hugs for everyone, and hands them a pint of Ben and Jerry's*
They are the only guys you REALLY need

I am totally with Allie on this one. They say that time heals all wounds, but my money's on ice cream.

Seriously, though, I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak, valkyrie. Go out and do something nice for yourself and do your best to keep busy. That's the best advice I have.

[Dionysus]

Surround yourself with your friends and family more, avoid too much isolation.

[valkyrie]

You guys are all so awesome. Thanks for being kind and supportive.

[aephi alum]

I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak. I've been there too.

The thing NOT to do is sit at home and cry. That may be all you want to do right now, and that's fine... but after a while, you will want to get out and get yourself distracted. Spend time with your friends, go shopping, take up a new hobby, etc.

Don't do anything stupid, either, like crawl into a bottle... not that you would, but it should be said.

Chin up. "It's always darkest just before they turn on the lights."

[bruinaphi]

Three words: SHOP, SHOP SHOP!

When you are ready to hang with the girls, shopping and girl movies are the best cure for any illness, problem or anything else. Even if you don't buy anything, there is just something about shopping with friends who understand what you are going through.

I also get my sisters (biological and A Phi) to go get me videos and TCBY and have pity parties on my couches.

Sorry things didn't work out!

[DeltAlum]

DZRose said,

"I am totally with Allie on this one. They say that time heals all wounds, but my money's on ice cream."

I heard it was, "Time wounds all heels."

The ice cream is not a bad idea either.

Feel better.

[AggieDZ]

The suggestions already mentioned will go a long way towards helping you come to terms with the overwhelming nature of the feelings you're having right now. It is important that you take that time to really BE sad for a while. You can't heal at all if you don't grieve. BUT, those activities like eating, shopping, pity-partying are temporary distractions and should only be utilized within these first few days. Allow yourself 2-3 days of intense grieving, then set into action a plan of repair. This is your opportunity to take the time that you had previously spent on this "relationship" and focus it on YOU! Call the salon,& make an appt. with your stylist, get a massage, develop a workout plan (getting involved in a running group or aerobics class--anything with a group of people helps a LOT!), clean out the fridge, dump all the junk food & make a pledge to yourself to be healthier.... Take this time to treat yourself the way YOU NEED to be treated! When you feel & look great, you become a magnetic personality that others desparately want to be around and you'll have them all drooling at your feet! Now get out there & be a beautiful soul!

[maggieaxid]

a few things....

1. sleep aids....tylenol pm works great, esp. with a glass of wine, and if you can get a perscription: ambien is highly recommended. Because you can't function if you don't sleep, and if you can't function, you can't deal with the loss and begin healing. Sleep is very important!!!

2. I know you are having trouble eating, but insted of trying to eat a meal 3 times a day...eat about every 2 hours just a little snack. and try to keep that snack healthy: apples, summer fruits, cheese and crackers, soup, bowl of rice....it will keep your blood sugar and metabloism up.

3. exercise. Chemically, you can change your mood by increasing your endorphin levels. Even if you just go for a 10 minute walk. It will begin to eliviate some of the stress. Swiming and yoga work wonders for me.

4. If nothing else works, and you are just so angry that you can't see straight, go find some glass bottles or old glasses or mugs, and find a place where you can throw them until they shatter. And every time you put one in your hand, you can deem that one of the symbols that represents the relationship and as it shatters, you can begin to see it no longer exists.

can you tell i am really into the psyche and nutrition...i know, iam a freak!