Ole Miss Questions

htoddy · #1 10-05-2010, 07:30 PM

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KSUViolet06 · #2 10-05-2010, 07:34 PM

I think that judging the "weight" of an alumna's rec and whether a certain resume would "put her at the top" involves membership selection info which would be considered confidential.

We can't tell you for sure whether your daughter will get a bid because we don't know.

Consider the fact that many girls will have similar resumes (cheer, scholarships, sports, you name it). So while that is great, it won't necessarily make her a shoe-in for a bid.

All SHE (not you because this is her recruitment) can do is prepare the best she can with recs, present herself well, and see what happens. She may get a bid, she may not.

Here are some other threads about Ole Miss recruitment. They're long, but really informative:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...highlight=Miss

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...highlight=Miss

Good luck to her!

gee_ess · #3 10-05-2010, 08:46 PM

Rush is a stressful time - for the pnm as well as for parents. We can certainly commiserate with your situation. As KSUViolet said above, we really cannot tell you one way or the other what the outcome will be.

Just try to be supportive and be a calming center for your daughter as she goes through the process. Read everything you can on these threads to prepare yourself for a variety of phone calls and angst that may come your way. Encourage her to be openminded about her options. There are some great threads on here about ways women handled their rush experiences - some had the rush of their lives, others had some surprises. All of those will be helpful (even those that are not necessarily about Ole Miss).

Good luck to you and your daughter! (oh, and a few glasses of wine will help you get through this on your end!)

ladybug12 · #4 10-05-2010, 10:23 PM

All of the sororities at Ole Miss are great. There are already elections that have occurred that show that every house has it's stregnths. She could be happy in any house...lots of them have girls from all over.

Please encourage her to keep an open mind...she will be happy wherever she ends up. It is a wonderful system with great houses. What is perceived as the house everyone wants on day one does not always end up that way on pref.Just go with her heart!

Barbie's_Rush · #5 10-05-2010, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I think that judging the "weight" of an alumna's rec and whether a certain resume would "put her at the top" involves membership selection info which would be considered confidential.

We can't tell you for sure whether your daughter will get a bid because we don't know.

Consider the fact that many girls will have similar resumes (cheer, scholarships, sports, you name it). So while that is great, it won't necessarily make her a shoe-in for a bid.

All SHE (not you because this is her recruitment) can do is prepare the best she can with recs, present herself well, and see what happens. She may get a bid, she may not.

Here are some other threads about Ole Miss recruitment. They're long, but really informative:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...highlight=Miss

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...highlight=Miss

Good luck to her!

This. Also, there are things out of your daughter's control (and most definitely out of your control!) If there are chapters that don't take out-of-staters, then there's nothing anyone can do about it. She just needs to relax and be herself at all the houses. (And I pray she isn't going to end up with a nickname for having 12 recs to a house. I think that's probably overkill anywhere.)

I would also suggest you delete such specific details about your daughter, her accomplishments and her background. It wouldn't be too hard to figure out who she is from the information given in your first post.

htoddy · #6 10-05-2010, 11:40 PM

I definitely think a glass of wine will be in order hahaha! That is what I have been stressing to her to keep an open mind and enjoy the ride all the sororities have their good qualities. Believe me KSUVIOLET I know it is her rush, I have always tried to let her be independent and there is no way to know as you pointed out if she will even get a bid because every girl there is beautiful and has her own strong points. I just didn't want my daughter to have a bad experience because of something that could have been done on our part before hand and we didn't because of our ignorance of how these competitive rushes at larger schools work. Thank you for your replies.

annabella · #7 10-06-2010, 12:41 AM

Jeebus. Do you actually mean twelve recs, or do you mean several alumnae signed off on one letter or form?

Too many recs seems like some sort of spam campaign.

htoddy · #8 10-06-2010, 12:47 AM

See what I mean by ignorance by me!! All of these alumnae offered and we had no idea how this works... well my prayer is now that she will only be judged on her merits and character: not by my her clueless mother 1000 miles away who was ignorant of how all this worked sending in extra recs or by me asking questions on here. Gee I think I will go throw up now.

KSUViolet06 · #9 10-06-2010, 12:53 AM

You need to relax. There is nothing you can do about any of this now. Relax or you may freak your daughter out, which may show in her parties. Behaving nervously in parties is a good way to potentially get cut. If you relax, she will relax and won't freak out. She is probably already nervous enough.

DubaiSis · #10 10-06-2010, 08:15 AM

htoddy, the good news is it sounds like you have a good (if freaked out) attitude. I didn't see this thread before you deleted your OP, which is probably a good thing. Just send your daughter all the good vibes you can and assure her that trying to be the sorority girl the houses want will never work. Be her most friendly open self and that's the best she can do. And get sleep and plenty of fluids! How many of these stories include "I woke up this morning sick and felt lousy through this whole round?" Or worse - "I had to drop out today because I'm too sick." Classes, homework, recruitment, sleep. That's IT for this week. Good luck to both of you!

OleMissGlitter · #11 10-06-2010, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by ladybug12

All of the sororities at Ole Miss are great. There are already elections that have occurred that show that every house has it's stregnths. She could be happy in any house...lots of them have girls from all over.

Please encourage her to keep an open mind...she will be happy wherever she ends up. It is a wonderful system with great houses. What is perceived as the house everyone wants on day one does not always end up that way on pref.Just go with her heart!

Agree with ladybug12!

I totally agree with KSUViolet06 as well. There is no way to know what a chapter does with their recs once they are received. That is all private and part of each chapter's membership selection process. With 981 PNMs going through this year there are going to be huge new member classes! So I'm sure all 9 chapters received tons of recs this year.

Good luck to your daughter htoddy!

ellebud · #12 10-06-2010, 06:03 PM

As non Ole Miss mother, but a mother (who did have a daughter go through a year ago at a very competitive school) I will tell you this: The hardest part is not being there to hold her hand. Admittedly, my daughter didn't want to rush, didn't want to join, but she rushed and joined. But I wanted to turn back the clock and have it be kindergarten when I could hold her little hand. And I wanted to smack the girl who, to my older daughter, came out of the closet and felt she couldn't trust my daughter to keep her secret. And then she dinged my daughter. One joined, one didn't...and they both had wonderful college experiences.

You'll hear all sorts of stuff, good and bad. Take a really deep breath and know that this is the drama of rush. In the end she'll be ok because that is how you raised her to be a strong young woman.

AZTheta · #13 10-06-2010, 06:11 PM

ellebud saves the day.

ellebud · #14 10-06-2010, 06:15 PM

Thank you. But it is true: she'll be ok. It's us moms (and sometimes dads) who want to give our kids an easier time. But when we do too much, say too much, and interfere...and something goes wrong because of what we did it is a double whammy.

southbymidwest · #15 10-06-2010, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ellebud

Thank you. But it is true: she'll be ok. It's us moms (and sometimes dads) who want to give our kids an easier time. But when we do too much, say too much, and interfere...and something goes wrong because of what we did it is a double whammy.

DING DING DING, winner winner, chicken dinner! OP, worrying about your daughter won't do any good unfortunately, and she will pick up on your apprehension. I know, sooooooo much easier said than done. Just keep those vibes and words positive, and she will figure it all out for herself. Keep telling yourself that when your heart is in your throat and your stomach hurts. Find a book or movie to get lost in, and have a glass of wine, although I prefer a vodka sunrise, myself.