Well, since I graduated from Spelman, the whole point to this conversation for a Baccalaureate degree is moot...
However, when I got my Master's at Cal State Univ., I was more like,
please send MY degree in the mail!!! Thank you! And I choose not to participate in any commencement ceremonies.
But now, since I've received my Ph.D. in a joint doctoral program between UC and CSU, I feel a compulsion to participate in as many commencement ceremonies as possible, simply because there are just not enough African Americans who
graduate from college with Bachelor's, much less with Master's and hardly any with higher professional degrees such as MD's, JD's, DDS, and PhD's...
Nupe4life and Soror Tickled,
I saw the Hannity and Colmes discussion on Fox News Channel. In fact they had spots of 3 African American women getting degrees and one of them is a Soror I grew up with because she wore an AKA kente cloth--which means I know from what school she graduated... That is the same school my brother graduated. And it's a HUGE SoCal university...
Anyhow, for my brother's graduation in 1994, aside from being stuck on the freeway with OJ Simpson, his ceremony was much like our High School's ceremony. A gazillion kids with "Hi Mom" on the Mortar Boards, and nakedness under the gowns.

Kids blowing bubbles and throwing beach balls left and right. Guest doin' the "wave" through the stadium 'cuz commencement is sooooo boring.

Half the professors don't attend!!!
NO PRAYER 
before the ceremony and no individual names called, just stand up by departments!!! THAT SUCKS after 4-6 years of spending your hard earned money for school and your little hood rat bad assed cousins see you in alla dat mess!!! Moreover, it's just embarassing when your 80-something+ Grandma all da way from Chitlin'switch, Deepsouth
struggled to make sure her baby grandchile would hab a "college edumacation" and commencement graduates are spraying sticky string all over the place!!!
THAT IS WHY some African Americans student unions decided to have pre/post-baccalaureate church activities to bring back educational respectability for those struggling families that fought for OUR kind to fathom attending college from JUMP!!! It is only 35 years ago, that many African Americans were killed because of wanting to attend an inexpensive "majority" university... If we call ourselves believing an education should allow one skills and training to advance oneself through the europee-on society, then we owe it to ourselves to have the most honorable and respectable ceremony with all the "rites, privileges and honors" that can be bestowed upon us for which our Fathers were lynched and died...
We are LUCKY we're even ALLOWED to graduate from these schools in the first place!

Much less get advanced degrees from them!!! So, there is a
reason why "they" don't want us to have our own... It's not like they aren't invited. It's not like they cannot attend... It's not like they cannot participate!!! But for them to say we cannot do it? WTF!!!
And that BS about them havin' they "own" ceremony... Whatever. I say let them...

They'll have beer kegs at the dayum ceremony with strippers!!! What kinna "heritage" has cause them to be denied an
decent education whose families would be proud of their accomplishments? Really? If my brother's ceremony was any indication of how they have theirs, I'm tellin' y'all don't expect much from that threat... "They" are just jealous, 'cuz all the other ethnic groups are civilized and showing up to more culturally interesting "commencements" rather than the one they pull a $gazzillion dollars off, where kids act a fool and where they can't begin to pray!!! And we doin' it cheaper for what they pullin' it off for!!!
There is more to this story than what folks are being told... There is a reason why "the powers that be" want us to stop our heritage celebrations for graduation. Part of it is
$$. The other part, I can't quite figure out.

But I do know it has sumthin' to do wit the decrease graduation rates among underrepresented students, the fact that "they" don't want us graduating from jump, and who is celebrating with us during graduation... And if any of y'all believe that we segregating ourselves with private culturally based ceremonies, you had better believe that I have got a $million dollar piece of property to sell ya in the Okeefanokee Swamp!!! Don't be fooled, for God is not mocked, whatever a man soweth, there shall he also reap... Hmmmmm???