A question about sororities.

SH80 · #1 06-17-2001, 07:02 PM

If you are nice or friendly to a non-greek does that mean that you want that person in your sorority?

I want a serious answer. Because, I want to know if should still hold a grudge against a particluar sorority.

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DGPhoney · #2 06-17-2001, 07:11 PM

I don't think by someone being nice or mean is a reflection on your status in their particular org. Being friendly or rude for that matter has nothing to do with being greek or being a non-greek. It has to do with a person being just a person.
If your holding a grudge aganist a whole group for one person being rude or un-friendly , then maybe your grudge is mis-guided.
DGPhoney~

HeidiHo · #3 06-17-2001, 07:57 PM

Whether I'm polite or rude to someone has nothing to do with whether or not I think they should be in my organization. Why would I want someone who I didn't genuinely like to become my sister? That doesn't make the slightest bit of sense.
Heidi

SH80 · #4 06-17-2001, 08:20 PM

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Originally posted by DGPhoney:
I don't think by someone being nice or mean is a reflection on your status in their particular org. Being friendly or rude for that matter has nothing to do with being greek or being a non-greek. It has to do with a person being just a person.
If your holding a grudge aganist a whole group for one person being rude or un-friendly , then maybe your grudge is mis-guided.
DGPhoney~

Thanx, for your opinion. I know you're right, I just can't detect the differences. Because, the first year I was in college I sat by some girls who in class who were extremely friendly. I was positive that they would invite me to rush one day, but it never happened. And, when I asked them that I was interested in joining a sorority, they said that I should join one and mentioned every sorority on campus but theirs.

33girl · #5 06-17-2001, 08:26 PM

I would not take that personally....there are a lot of reasons why a rushee and sorority "fit" together or don't. I would be more offended if they led you to believe they did want you to join their sorority and it was all BS. Be thankful that they were honest with you.

SH80 · #6 06-17-2001, 08:36 PM

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Originally posted by 33girl:
I would be more offended if they led you to believe they did want you to join their sorority and it was all BS. Be thankful that they were honest with you.

You're right 33girl! It's better to be turned down by a sorority than to join another one and not feel welcomed. My previous sorority rushed many girls for the wrong reasons. I was not the only one who was unhappy once I joined.

PenguinTrax · #7 06-18-2001, 09:08 AM

SH80 -

Were you initiated by the sorority that you joined? Wasn't it ZTA??

SH80 · #8 06-18-2001, 09:48 AM

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Originally posted by PnguinTrax:
SH80 -

Were you initiated by the sorority that you joined? Wasn't it ZTA??

Initiated? Nope.
ZTA? Yep.

PenguinTrax · #9 06-18-2001, 10:14 AM

So, are you considering joining a different group on campus? If you didn't initate and it's been over a calendar year since you depledged, you are eligible to join another NPC group.

SH80 · #10 06-18-2001, 10:27 AM

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Originally posted by PnguinTrax:
So, are you considering joining a different group on campus? If you didn't initate and it's been over a calendar year since you depledged, you are eligible to join another NPC group.

Totally! But, I don't know if I am eligible to join another NPC group.

I thought you have to wait a year after you pledge, not depledge.

ztafairy · #11 06-18-2001, 10:50 AM

You do have to wait a year after your new member period but then you can rush another NPC sorority after that year is up. You can also be in another sorority/fraternity that is an honor fraternity at the same time you are in a NPC sorority. At least that's the way it is on my campus.

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PenguinTrax · #12 06-18-2001, 10:50 AM

I'd have to check the Green Book. I will do so and get back to you.

I know that if you don't accept a bid when offered, it's one calendar year from the date when the bid is extended. I'm not sure about if you accepted the bid and dropped.

B.

twinstars · #13 06-18-2001, 11:57 AM

it's important to realize that sisters make distinctions between "perfectly nice girls" and "girls i want to be my sister." you can love a girl to death, she could be your best friend in the world--but you might think that she would not fit well with the rest of the sorority, so you would not push your friend to rush or speak up for her a lot during selection. on the other hand, you can think a rushee is "just ok"--you don't love her but don't really have a reason to cut her--but you'll vote her in just because she's great for everyone else. when a sorority sister votes during selection, she's supposed to vote not just how she personally feels about the girl, but about whether or not that girl would make a good sister, a good addition to the group as a whole. a good friend to ME might not necessarily be the best addition to my group.

one of my very best college friends is an independent... she toyed with the idea of rushing again her sophomore year, but as much as i love her, i don't think she'd really click with most of the rest of my sisters.

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ilovemyglo · #14 06-18-2001, 03:17 PM

There is something going on with a new member in my sorority so I think I can shed some light on this subject. From one year from the date you accept a bid (if you go through formal recruitment and fill out a pref card then you AUTOMATICALLY ACCEPT THE BID YOU ARE GIVEN!!!! You can decline to actually pledge though- THESE ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS) but as I said from one year of the date you accept a bid you are affiliated with that sorority. At the end of that one year period if you have not been initiated you are released from that sorority and elgible to pledge to another NPC group. I only know this because one of our new members will not be initiated by her one year date so we have to wait until next January to REpledge her and initiate her then (and I love her and don't want to lose her for even two months!) I had to ask internationals how to deal with the situation and that is what they told me.

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AXOLiz · #15 06-18-2001, 03:26 PM

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Originally posted by twinstars:
it's important to realize that sisters make distinctions between "perfectly nice girls" and "girls i want to be my sister." you can love a girl to death, she could be your best friend in the world--but you might think that she would not fit well with the rest of the sorority, so you would not push your friend to rush or speak up for her a lot during selection. on the other hand, you can think a rushee is "just ok"--you don't love her but don't really have a reason to cut her--but you'll vote her in just because she's great for everyone else. when a sorority sister votes during selection, she's supposed to vote not just how she personally feels about the girl, but about whether or not that girl would make a good sister, a good addition to the group as a whole. a good friend to ME might not necessarily be the best addition to my group.

one of my very best college friends is an independent... she toyed with the idea of rushing again her sophomore year, but as much as i love her, i don't think she'd really click with most of the rest of my sisters.

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I feel the same way - I have a bunch of friends who aren't affiliated with a sorority and as much as I love them, they wouldn't fit in our chapter, or other sisters have had bad experiences from high school with them and would never let them get bids, or whatever. While I would totally support them 100% if they chose to rush, I'd try to get them to go through formal and check out all the chapters first rather than just look at ours since chances are they'd find a better fit elsewhere. What's important is that my friends are happy wherever they go, whether that's to my chapter or to another organization.

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