At what age should your kids

Reds6 · #1 02-28-2002, 02:38 PM

At what age do you think your kids should stop seeing their parents naked?

DoggyStyle82 · #2 02-28-2002, 04:54 PM

Girls never need to see their fathers naked and boys don't need to see their mothers after about 5 or 6. Of course it depends on each individuals comfort level and family situation.

c&c1913 · #3 03-01-2002, 12:05 PM

One of my co-worker's (who you think was an aspiring psychologist) sets the age limit both sexes at age 3-4. She explains that it doesn't harm them to see what makes boys and girls different. It also can help deter molestation. If a girl never sees a penis, how is she to know it's not supposed to be exposed to her. A molester can tell her it's anything, but if she shown, she may know that it's "bad".

But I agree with DS82, it depends on the individuals.

CrucialCrimson · #4 03-01-2002, 04:37 PM

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Originally posted by c&c1913
One of my co-worker's (who you think was an aspiring psychologist) sets the age limit both sexes at age 3-4. She explains that it doesn't harm them to see what makes boys and girls different. It also can help deter molestation. If a girl never sees a penis, how is she to know it's not supposed to be exposed to her. A molester can tell her it's anything, but if she shown, she may know that it's "bad".

But I agree with DS82, it depends on the individuals.

Your co-worker needs her head checked - I agree with the post that girls never need to see their fathers naked and women should avoid it with young boys as much as possible - I hate when folks brag about bathing with their young children - nothing that comes off of an adult's filthy body needs to float in a tub with a child. Not to mention that there is far more to molestation than sexual penetration and whether a young girl has seen a penis before or not isn't how the perpetrator gets their mental submission - and a penis may not be the "molestation tool" for lack of a better term.

OneOneTwo · #5 03-01-2002, 07:17 PM

and that is my personal opinion... now if they accidentally walk in on you while you doing your thing... that is okay but don't make it a habit. Otherwise, uh... hell no.

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Salience · #6 03-26-2002, 03:33 PM

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Originally posted by OneOneTwo
and that is my personal opinion... now if they accidentally walk in on you while you doing your thing... that is okay but don't make it a habit. Otherwise, uh... hell no.

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I, personally, believe that when they start school (pre-school is fine) they can stop seeing intentional nudity. But I believe that seeing parents naked, naturally, will help their development of good body image, awareness of difference, etc. I would bathe with my children, clothe them, get dressed in front of them, etc. until they were "cognizant" or uncomfortable with seeing me. But I'm from a hippie town!

JJSP01 · #7 03-26-2002, 05:59 PM

My future children don't need to see me or my future husband naked ever!

It's different when they are a baby and they don't understand, but when they start to talk....uhm, hell no.

To address the earlier poster's comments about the potential child molester...I can show my daughter a picture of a penis...she doesn't need to see her own father's!

Same with my son and a vagina/breasts...he doesn't need to see mine!

Soror CrucialCrimson...I'm with YOU!

Peace

Reds6 · #8 03-27-2002, 02:27 PM

I do think there should be an age when kids stop seeing their parents naked. But to think that they will never see their parents naked is unrealistic. I have a sont hat just turned 5 and now I'm starting to be conscious of him seeing me naked. He was very aware early of the differences between mommy and daddy and himself. Which helped him identify with daddy. I also thinkif you make it a big deal of your child seeing you naked, then it will be a big deal.
As far as child molesters go you should tell your child in general, nobody should touch you in your private areas. Kids need to be aware of their bodies.

TLAW · #9 03-27-2002, 03:20 PM

Can somebody say "as close to NEVER as possible!!!" I don't see how allowing my kids to observe me in my naked glory if i can help it is good for them. I think I'd shed painful tears. I don't think I should scare my future daughter by allowing her see me naked. I think that borders on the perverted.
Like somebody duly noted, most of us are going to undergo the consternation of having our kids walk in on us at some point. Barring the one time it should happen, my bare butt shall be the sole visual property of myself and my spouse.
On a more serious note, what Red6 said is as close to honest realism that I can think of.
Lord! The though of seeing my parents naked makes me sick. Ewwwwww! Excuse me... I think I'm gonna puke.....

Reds6 · #10 03-27-2002, 03:48 PM

If you have kids you know that your kids will see you naked. I don't think its scaring your child by seeing you naked. Kids can't be to sheltered. Kids need to feel good about their bodies. My son knew early on, what the parts of his body were called. He knew that him and daddy had penis's and mommied did not. CHildren walk in on there parents while dressing, etc, and if you jump and scream to hide your body, they can think that their body is something to be ashamed of.

ClassyLady · #11 03-28-2002, 09:03 PM

I'll say between 5 and 7. Before then, I don't really think it matters. I used to take showers with my father when I was in preschool. And, if my mother didn't have a picture of him holding my little naked self with a shower cap on, I probably would have never known because I dayum sure don't remember it.

PrettyPetite · #12 03-30-2002, 03:50 PM

Never! I would NEVER want my child to see me or their father in the nude.

I'm feeling what OneOneTwo said, if it was an accident, then fine, but otherwise, uh-uh.

DoggyStyle82 · #13 03-30-2002, 04:22 PM

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Originally posted by ClassyLady
I'll say between 5 and 7. Before then, I don't really think it matters. I used to take showers with my father when I was in preschool. And, if my mother didn't have a picture of him holding my little naked self with a shower cap on, I probably would have never known because I dayum sure don't remember it.

No man, father or relative, should be bathing, with a child, especially female. An infant, maybe, but never a toddler or a child.

TLAW · #14 03-30-2002, 05:28 PM

Serving as a youth athletic coach, I have to say that age 5 is way too old for that. Then again, some might see that as overly conservative. Majority of the ones I have had to work with I see as being too mature for such exposure. I believe lines need to be drawn, and boundaries set.
Then again, this comes from a man with no kids yet.

NOWorNEVER · #15 03-31-2002, 10:49 PM

should a female see her father naked! I accidentally saw my father once going to the bathroom naked when I was five and I STILL have nightmares about it!

I agree with most people that it is different with mothers. The cut off age of little boys seeing there mothers naked should be 3-4. After that, it's weird.