Any ASU Greek Girls Out There? Need Advice Please

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

AlphaFrog, you don't define what is wrong or right in my life. I do find you rude and will no longer reply to you. I'd appreciate it if you would just move on. You have nothing of value to offer me or my dtgr. by barking out orders. Never ever tell a person what they should or shouldn't do. Very inappropriate! Go eat lunch....
Sincerely,
AZMOM

LOLLERZ.

Bolded = more irony than I can stand.

[nittanyalum]

Ok, this is heading down a bad road and it's frustrating to even read.

AZMom, it's great you came to find info. for your daughter and you're sure to find lots of it here. The link Lisa gave you will take you to a forum that should keep you busy for hours just reading all kinds of recruitment (and by default, sorority) info.

But in your original post, you made it sound like you're looking for some ASU folks to give you a blow-by-blow of what the "good" houses are and the "not so good" houses are at that campus. I don't know how to do the fancy quote-within-a-post-thing here yet, but here's what you said:

"We're told each house is different. So please, if you don't mind, what's your own personal take good and bad (yes, there's always the good w/the bad) with each Sorority?"

You are on a forum with people from every different sorority and fraternity from across the country and beyond; there is no way someone who is a current collegian or alumna in a greek organization is going to actually answer that question. We respect our organizations too much and all of the other Panhellenic organizations too much to presume to air out what's "good" or "bad" about other groups, particularly since that's completely subjective anyway.

If your daughter wants that "who's the best/worst" kind of overview of what is perceived at the ASU campus, she's more likely to find it talking to the non-Greeks in Tempe.

The other posters here are actually trying to be helpful to you, they just don't want you to continue to ask questions that seem to want that kind of feedback because it will, unfortunately, welcome even hotter "flaming."

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

I do find you rude and will no longer reply to you.

Oh my, I find this so funny! I haven't lol'd so much online in a while.

AZMOM, the reason Alpha Frog and others have told you to stop asking this question is because it is impolite. It'd be like me asking everyone you know to tell me what you're like, without getting to know you myself. Some people will say, "She's crazy," some will say, "She's the best!", others will say, "She used to be a coke-head." Some might say, "She's fat," some will say, "She only likes people who have lots of money," still, others will say, "She's crazy." (Oh, more than one person said that last thing, so it must be true, right?)

It simply doesn't matter what others think of the sororities at ASU. It will only matter what your daughter thinks. Stereotypes are just that, and asking people to list stereotypes on a public forum is ill-mannered.

[AZMOM]

Dear Nitty & Sydney,
Thank-you for your input and honest replies. You've answered a very simple question with great detail and honesty.
Sydney, I got a laugh reading your response. You too, have a great sense of humor. Don't ever lose that, it's invaluable as you get older. However, I assure you the last thing I wanted or needed was a detailed description of the girls living in the house. Not sure where that assumption came from? I wanted the personality of each chapter. Ladies.....you will learn as you get older there's never such a thing as a dumb question. It's those who don't or didn't ask that live w/the most regret. I speak from experience. I've always taught my children ask a lot of ???'s before making a decision and always find out the good as well as the bad. You save yourself so much pain by being informed as opposed to being uninformed.The question wasn't to hurt or upset anyone it was to gather info. to make a decision based on the best knowledge given. It really is that simple....
Again, thanks for the laughs, the insight and hopefully we all learned something today?
Lunch anyone? lol Sorry, I love a good laugh......
Sincerely,
AZMOM

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

I wanted the personality of each chapter.

SydneyK said it best:

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Stereotypes are just that, and asking people to list stereotypes on a public forum is ill-mannered.

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Ladies.....you will learn as you get older there's never such a thing as a dumb question.

I think that the more time you spend around GreekChat you'll learn that the majority of us are alums from our organizations and range in age from 25-year olds to 50-year olds. So maybe you'll begin to understand that its not our age difference that is the problem-its the tactless question you've asked.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

However, I assure you the last thing I wanted or needed was a detailed description of the girls living in the house. Not sure where that assumption came from? I wanted the personality of each chapter.

The girls in the house ARE the ones who make up the personality of each chapter. Not the other way around. And with large chapters, it's very unlikely that everyone will share exactly the same values and interests.

No one is going to say "ABC is the athlete house" or "XYZ is the party house" because there are athletes and partiers in EVERY chapter.

[AZMOM]

Lisa,
What ya say we call it a day? Not sure why you felt the need to attack but if it made you feel better, then great. My question was not tactless it was informative. Let's just move on, shall we?
Ladies, hope you all have a "great day."
Sincerely,
AZMOM

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Lisa,
What ya say we call it a day? Not sure why you felt the need to attack but if it made you feel better, then great. My question was not tactless it was informative. Let's just move on, shall we?
Ladies, hope you all have a "great day."
Sincerely,
AZMOM

If you felt "attacked" on this thread, then GC is NOT the place for you.

How about you take a trip over to Happy Pony Rainbow Land??

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Not sure why you felt the need to attack but if it made you feel better, then great. My question was not tactless it was informative.

I've been one of the nicest people to you so far. If you stick around GC you might learn something, like the fact that your question is tactless and inconsiderate. I suggest you spend more time reading the existing threads regarding recruitment so that you don't continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.

[1908Revelations]

WHat is wrong with her wanting to help her pretty, smart, funny, loving, fug, great, so-on and so-on dtgr (lol) like every other ABCMom on GC. SHe just wants to know so she won't have to withdraw her daughter from a school where she won't get bids. Remember the mom who said Auburn sucked.


Just kidding....kinda

[TrojanWoman]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

AZMOM, the reason Alpha Frog and others have told you to stop asking this question is because it is impolite. It'd be like me asking everyone you know to tell me what you're like, without getting to know you myself. Some people will say, "She's crazy," some will say, "She's the best!", others will say, "She used to be a coke-head." Some might say, "She's fat," some will say, "She only likes people who have lots of money," still, others will say, "She's crazy." (Oh, more than one person said that last thing, so it must be true, right?)

This is the best response I've seen to this question yet, and I plan to use it in my personal life when people say "oh you were an xyz, I heard they were all (fill in the blank with unkind word of your choosing.)" My response will be "well if that's what you heard than it must be true!"

[Low C Sharp]

It'd be like me asking everyone you know to tell me what you're like, without getting to know you myself.

I think that's a bad example if you're trying to argue that it's inappropriate to inquire about sororities. If I'm going on a blind date, and I know people who have met my date before, I will definitely ask them all what they think of him. And if some of them answer, "He used to be a cokehead," or "he only likes people who have a lot of money," you better believe I'm going to take that into consideration! If multiple people who know him tell me that he's crazy...I'm canceling the date.
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[Helicopter1]

Warned ya.

You seem like a nice person. Let's have cyberlunch.

I'd send you a PM, but my employers seem to think that work is more important than greekchat.

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

I think that's a bad example if you're trying to argue that it's inappropriate to inquire about sororities. If I'm going on a blind date, and I know people who have met my date before, I will definitely ask them all what they think of him. And if some of them answer, "He used to be a cokehead," or "he only likes people who have a lot of money," you better believe I'm going to take that into consideration! If multiple people who know him tell me that he's crazy...I'm canceling the date.

But you can't generalize an entire chapter of women off the descriptions of just 1 or 2 or 10 people. Thats pretty much what the original poster needs to understand.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by kstar

You're talking to a 4th generation Sooner, getting my 5th degree from the University of Oklahoma, who was also born and raised here, so you should know better than to call it Oklahoma University, unless you're from the sticks.

Also, you don't ask that question, which predisposes people to not be nice.

ps. Daughter has the g before the t, so to abbreviate it would be dgtr, not dtgr.

Honest question from a non-OU person who lives in Oklahoma - why is it shortened to OU? I went to the University of Illinois, which would never be called Illinois University, and we always shortened it to U of I or UIUC.