Crazy Sister

PhiSigFly · #1 01-16-2002, 09:44 AM

I lived with one of my sisters for a semester and we didn't get along at all. Not only did we have different lifestyles, but I realized that she is crazy! She is an overly hostile person who is on constant lookout for a fight. She is also one of those people that jumps around from friend to friend. Like, before we were living together, I thought we were best friends. Then she dropped me, became best friends with another sister and recently dropped her for someone else. Many people in the sorority have noticed this.
My problem is that I am on the executive board and I am planning on running for president later in the semester. She constantly questions my authority and insults me to the other sisters. Her insults really have no basis. IE she said something at a meeting that was constitutionally incorrect, so I corrected her. Later, she sent me an e-mail cursing at me and calling me fat (I'm a size 8!!) I am just concerned that her rudeness and hostility is going to affect my chances at being president and this is a position that I've wanted since I joined the sorority!
Please help!!

Beef · #2 01-16-2002, 11:02 AM

Just act cool and calm around her. Sounds like pretty much all of your sisters know how she is, so when they see how you react to her, that could actually go in your favor and good under pressure, ect ect ect..

The1calledTKE · #3 01-16-2002, 12:44 PM

Doesn't sound like a good sister to me. Just talk to all your sisters before you run for office. They will understand and ignore what ever that girl says.

LeslieAGD · #4 01-16-2002, 12:50 PM

Honestly, I think every chapter probably has one of these sisters/brothers. Obviously her behavior is bothering you and effecting your role in the chapter. If it were me, I would print out the e-mail in which she insulted and cursed you. Then write a letter to your EC about her unsisterly behavior and inclued the e-mail.

AchtungBaby80 · #5 01-16-2002, 01:21 PM

If she's done this to you, chances are you aren't the only one. So how many people do you think are going to listen to her, much less take her seriously?

dzrose93 · #6 01-16-2002, 01:46 PM

If it were me, I would write a letter to your Judiciary Board/Executive Board (whoever handles problems within the chapter) and tell them about the problems you've experienced with this sister. Cite specific examples and include any evidence to her behavior that you have (the e-mail, for example).

Make sure that your letter comes across as mature and respectful instead of spiteful so that the sisters reading it will understand that you are writing, not to cause trouble for this sister, but to hopefully come up with a way to make her aware of the problem and, as a result, make the chapter stronger.

Good luck! Keep us updated!

ErikaXO · #7 01-16-2002, 02:36 PM

First of all, if this it typical behavior for her then everyone knows it. You said yourself that there is this chain of "best friends" she has ditched, so there are at least two other character witnesses for you. Second, if she is engaging in this type of destructive and hurtful behavior, why not bring it to the attention of your personnel chair or an advisor who can maybe investigate and take her aside on this. It doesn't sound like she is adding anything positive to your chapter. Save her emails if she sends any more so you have examples of her nastiness to show if necessary. Continue to be yourself and don't let her bring you to her level. One person should not be able to ruin your chances if you really fit the position. Good luck!

jess_pom · #8 01-16-2002, 04:44 PM

Check your PM's

aephi alum · #9 01-16-2002, 07:59 PM

Had a similar problem once - I had a co-chair position with one of my sisters. She totally flipped out at me one day in chapter because I was giving our report that week and I didn't do it the way she would have done it, or something.

She looked the worse for it, though, because I stayed calm while she yelled at me and threw things. It didn't affect my leadership roles any; a few months later I became Panhel rep.

So I wouldn't worry; your sisters will take anything she says with a grain of salt.

damasa · #10 01-17-2002, 12:25 PM

ahhh, must quote Boiler Room here; "act as if." Act as if she isn't even in a position to question your authority. Lobby for your position and prove to the house and the sisters that you can fulfill the position to the best of your ability, and there should be no question. In the end, the psycho sister will look like a fool, while you are the head of the org.

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